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Original poster

To be annoyed at this text from my personal trainer?

110 replies

OffcialMalbecTaster · 10/10/2017 18:26

I had to have minor surgery just over a week ago and the hospital told me before and after that I cannot exercise (including gym, swimming and most annoying sex) for 4 weeks after this.

I made my PT aware that I wouldnt be able to come to the gym until the end of this month. He has text me today asking if I will be in class tomorrow. I said no and reminded him of the ban and responded saying "lets hope you dont put weight on"

AIBU to be a bit pissed by his response? Im sure there was no malice but surely there's a better response? And Im not actively looking to nor do I need to lose weight.

OP posts:
ClaudiaNaughton · 10/10/2017 22:01

I think it might be a joke (which has fallen a bit flat).

Doramaybe · 10/10/2017 22:08

Walking is good. No need for a PT to tell you off.

Three miles good. Per day. outside of the SUV that you drive to the PT.

lol.

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OffcialMalbecTaster · 10/10/2017 22:13

Actually @Dora walking makes me bleed more at the moment oh and I cant drive but thank you for your advice maybe put the Wine down for now.

@scribblegirl its a relief to know feeling rubbish is normal I had the same procedure as you under GA with a new coil fitted after they found my last one.

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AnnieAnoniMouse · 10/10/2017 22:17

'Not my biggest worry right now. Feel free to fill my place with you, I won't be needing it'

What a monumental twat he is.

ParanoidBeryl · 10/10/2017 22:18

For me it would signal that the PT isn't in tune with the same goals as the OP. She is contending with a health issue that has required surgery, and he is pressurising her to go to the gym against medical advice and then guilt tripping her afterwards.

So no, IMO it wouldn't be an over-reaction to find a new PT. I think it is important to work with someone who you feel is in tune with you for that sort of thing.

Justaboy · 10/10/2017 22:20

I expect it was meant as a joke if -it -had a smiley on the end.

Some blokes don't quite think sometimes;!

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 10/10/2017 22:22

Bit of a twatty message. Is he usually otherwise okay?

Ollivander84 · 10/10/2017 22:25

Absolutely not on. I used a PT for rehab after surgery and he is always telling me not to push it too much and I need to be patient with myself

Therealslimshady1 · 10/10/2017 22:26

Just a throwaway comment from someone who spends,his life around people concerned about their figure,/weight

Not a big deal.

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OffcialMalbecTaster · 10/10/2017 22:28

No smiley faces or jokeyness to the message. It simply said ok and then the comment. We dont joke too much, unless.he is telling me about the latest gymgoer he fancies

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LaContessaDiPlump · 10/10/2017 22:28

Text back saying "Is that meant to be a joke? Not very funny if so!"

If he doesn't reply then it wasn't a joke and he's a twat. If he replies being deadly serious then he's also a twat.

If he replies furiously backtracking then you can give him the benefit of the doubt, depending on how kind you feel Grin

BlueSapp · 10/10/2017 22:28

Text back, your a cheeky bastard shove your classes.

Butterymuffin · 10/10/2017 22:33

I'd reply 'Think what you meant to say was: of course, you mustn't compromise your recovery from surgery, hope you feel better soon'.

Doramaybe · 10/10/2017 22:33

Coils and bleeding and inability to walk. Sorry I didn't know this.

Does your PT know the background too?

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 10/10/2017 22:34

I would be annoyed too. It sounds like he was pressurising you to come to training (against medical advice!) and then making you feel bad for refusing by playing up to an insecurity you have. Twatty move in my book.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 10/10/2017 22:34

Perhaps you could reply "I've actually lost weight since the amputation, thanks for enquiring" just to make him feel really guilty.

Don't make his classic mistake though; not putting "lol" or winky face at the end. Hmm

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OffcialMalbecTaster · 10/10/2017 22:35

Thank you @dora. Yes he does the know the background.

Clearly he must have a medical degree he has not told me about lol.

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pandarific · 10/10/2017 22:42

We dont joke too much, unless.he is telling me about the latest gymgoer he fancies

Yeesh, could he be more of an utter meathead? Maybe look into a female trainer op?

userofthiswebsite · 10/10/2017 22:42

I think he either forgot to add the smiley at the end or it was meant seriously and was an insensitive comment.

I suppose it would depend on how well you normally get on as to whether it's enough to throw in the towel with this chap and find an alternative.

pandarific · 10/10/2017 22:43

Grin ILostItInTheEarlyNineties

TheMaddHugger · 10/10/2017 22:55

Doramaybe

The rest of your post is ridiculously first world problem territory.

Wut ?

To be annoyed at this text from my personal trainer?
DontDrinkDontSmoke · 10/10/2017 23:00

1DAD n Dora ... get a room Grin

JamPasty · 10/10/2017 23:24

unless.he is telling me about the latest gymgoer he fancies

Oh god, he sounds grim!

CatastropheKate · 10/10/2017 23:37

Please be careful - I may have had the same in the summer, I didn't take it easy, have had complications including an abscess/infection, extreme nausea and bleeding after any physical exertion. You need to rest for a reason.

Scribblegirl · 11/10/2017 07:37

Yep, it's really important to rest up afterwards. I was ordered not to do anything involving exertion for the four weeks - even Pilates, as the stretching can prevent healing.

FYI OP I think the emotional effects of the anaesthesia is massively underestimated, there's a number of posts on the Jo's Trust website about this if you want to read further.

I think you may be feeling sensitive right now but frankly who wouldn't be after all that? And when it comes down to it - as I said before - you are a customer. If you aren't happy with his customer service then leave, it's your right as a consumer. It was a shitty thing to say irregardless of how it was meant.