To be annoyed at this text from my personal trainer?

[OffcialMalbecTaster]

I had to have minor surgery just over a week ago and the hospital told me before and after that I cannot exercise (including gym, swimming and most annoying sex) for 4 weeks after this.

I made my PT aware that I wouldnt be able to come to the gym until the end of this month. He has text me today asking if I will be in class tomorrow. I said no and reminded him of the ban and responded saying "lets hope you dont put weight on"

AIBU to be a bit pissed by his response? Im sure there was no malice but surely there's a better response? And Im not actively looking to nor do I need to lose weight.

Weight gain is no issue as you've lost about 12 stone of personal trainer now. Tell him you don't need his services and go to his competition.

Oh bog off Dora, you trout.
OP your PT is a twat! Find a new one.

Ditch him. Plenty of non-twatty personal trainers out there to choose from.

That is awful!! I'd certainly be finding a new PT.

I hope you have a speedy recovery

I'd text back ''I have more serious things to contend with for a couple of weeks''

I’ve had text back did you mean to be so rude!

How insensitive. Unless his phone auto corrected and he meant to type "wishing you a speedy recovery" ?

Perhaps this is his way of holding onto his client base; threatening them with extreme weight gain if they stop seeing him for a couple of weeks.

YANBU. I'd be tempted to reply "charming" and see if he replies

Even if you did put weight on you are banned from training!

What a dick!!!

?! obviously rude - why question this?

Personal Trainer. First world issue for many but la de da.

Get back on yer bike.

Put down the wine Dora.

It's doing you no favours. Also, remember - empty calories, and (as we all know) you don't have a personal trainer so you can't afford to take the risk.

Dora - regardless of your own position this man is offering a professional service that some people like to use, he should remain professional to keep/gain clients.

OP - YANBU, was rude of him!

Comes across as though he’s trying to guilt trip you into coming to training anyway despite medical advice. Sounds like a job.

*Nob!

Was he trying to make a joke and failed miserably? Are you normally a bit jokey together?

All the calls to sack the PT over a miss judged bit of banter. Plus so many people reading way too much sinister intent into what was no doubt an instant reply without little thought or intent behind it.

Have I landed in over reactionville?
Does the punishment no longer fit the crime anymore?
Sack him, he's a nob etc, etc. Talk about a speech witch hunt.
What sort of a world to we live in where we are scared to express our self for fear of it ott judgement and sanction from the speech police?

It's clear your not 100% happy with the over familiar way the PT responded. Have a word, explain it was inappropriate. But for god sake dont bin them off for such a minor an faux par with no ill intent ment.

1DAD2KIDS that would be better coming from someone who could actually spell 'faux pas'.

And that is your opinion. It's extremely ill judged to say something like that to someone who has just had surgery. What is he expecting her to do? How is that comment going to be helpful in any way?

You should have answered: Let's hope you won't either, you fat bastard

Wow.. what a tool.

Ladies thank you for your responses you've made me properly laugh at some of these as I was thinking the same

@scribblegirl you are correct in what I had done and I'm actually annoyed I cannot train I should have been spinning tonight but instead Im spinning the washing off.

I think many of you have got it right in that I feel more of a cash cow than anything that message. To those who have asked no Im not weight focused except I dont want to go back to my fat days but that would take more than a 4wk ban to achieve and the aim was meant to get me comfortable with how I look and less focused on the scales which this message doesnt help.

To the PP who suggested giving tips on how to avoid that would have been great. Im already conscious about the lack of exercise so Im properly focused on eating well and healthy.

Yes it is a first world problem and Im grateful this is my biggest problem at the moment.

malvec take it easy - mine was a LLETZ and it was a bugger of a time, it made me feel like rubbish for a solid couple of weeks after. Not least because my answer to stress is generally a run, a bath or a shag!!

You're allowed to feel sensitive but irregardless of the surgery I think that's well out of order. You're the customer, you don't have to put up with that if you don't want it, end of

Wishing you a speedy recovery!

Whocansay my dyslexia gets the better of me, learning difficulties sometimes leads to such faux pas. Thanks your correction, I am used to it.

Everyone takes things differently. The Op them self said they didn't feel milichious intention. Like I suggested it is ill judged, a profetional or anyone really living in these times should be a bit more savy. I would do as I suggested raise the matter with the pt and come to a clear understanding of what is acceptable talk. I think that is helpfull advise and in general a better way to communicate and make a better society. We all make faux pas in various ways, we are but human.

What I don't see as helpful is the massive over reaction. Sentiments like sack them or what a nob etc. Nobody knows this person or the nature of formality to which this person and the op normally converse.

That's reaaaally shitty.

Find a new PT. I don't know a PT worth their salt who would ever, ever say anything like that.