To be cross at OH for telling DC she looked like 'she was having a fit'?

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DC (10) was having a strop at the weekend because she didn't want to do something - pulling faces and wriggling I suppose. OH's way of dealing with it was to say - 'stop it, you look like you're having a fit'. Later on he said to me he thought she was pathetic. I don't think she heard but I do think it came across in the way he spoke to her.

So AIBU to think he's being unreasonable?

He thinks she's too sensitive and I'm too indulgent. I think he's not going to get the behaviour (or relationship) he wants by speaking to her like that and he needs to find other ways of telling her off - I know DCs shouldn't be indulged. I just think he's made things worse.

Neither DC has been at their best this last couple of weeks. I think they're knackered from the new term. And that afternoon. we didn't have anywhere we had to be, so I let them stay at home and chill. Lo and behold, they were both much better by the evening.

I agree earlygrey not a nice thing to say at all

@peppapigearworm as i mentioned before the word fit is not only used to describe someone having a seizure, people are well within their right to use the word fit to describe someone having an emotional outburst, and they would be accurate in saying someone was ‘having a fit’ if the person was displaying a ‘sudden burst of intense emotion’, which is what the OP said her DCs dad did.

"Pulling faces and wriggling" he obviously meant an actual seizure not an emotion outburst!

When someone says to me “that persons having a fit” i don’t even think of someone having an epileptic seizure on the floor, i think of someone being angry and throwing their weight about - and using the word ‘fit’ to describe that would be completely acceptable and correct.

The dictionary says what is correct, i’m signing iff this one before I have a fit

Sorry, dont want to offend “before i have an emotional outburst”

If people with epilepsy find it offensive, aren’t they in a better position to judge? Recognise some aren’t offended but may are.
Not political correctness gone mad, just straightforward good manners.

Read the first few posts. Why have summer prior decided that the dd was having a tantrum? Wriggling and pulling a face is not evening.
Sounds like your partner doesn't speak to dd with much respect, which is out of order