To think this customer assistant was trying to prove a point in front of everyone?

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Disclaimer: I may very well be being unreasonable. I am very hormonal and heavily pregnant.

DS is 4 and a bloody pain in the arse lately. He is at nursery for 15 hours a week and it's not long enough and he is driving me mad around the house tbh. I'm knackered. Anyway...

Was in local supermarket (small one) and girl on till saw my son asking for gum, I said to DS that he can't have any (I don't trust him with it) and said to him that she won't scan it for you and when he said that she will, she just smiled at him. Not helpful really. He really plays up on good attention. I know that's not her problem though.

I paid for the other stuff and went to leave it was busy and just embarrassing. He opened the packet on the way out, I went to a self scan to pay for it so less attention and she looked over and I said that he had opened it to lessen the attention and judgment from her and others as I assume they assumed that I was giving in.

She said oh don't worry you don't need to buy it. Then everyone was looking at this point and was thinking how nice of her that was and then my son screamed on the floor because he thought he wasn't getting it so I ended up saying don't worry and bought it. She then very loudly went "oh okay" and didn't seem very happy then the next person went over to her and said "she clearly just wanted to buy it for her son" and I bet they all spoke about me.

Fuming.

OP I think YABU but I think I can understand why. Quite apart from being heavily pregnant, if your son is thought to have additional needs then his behaviour is probably leaving you physically and emotionally exhausted. You're also probably very worried about how things will turn out with him when the new baby arrives, and what the future might hold of nursery's suspicions turn out to be correct. I have been in your situation. I think you're overwrought and sensitive to any perceived slight against your son, because you want to protect him. You might find it useful to post any concerns about your son on the SN boards on here. Look after yourself.

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Why are you reliving this shit in your head op? Your heavily pregnant, hormonal, possibly a victim of a judgmental twat... Do you really care what the witches of eastwick discussed behind you back?
Or what anyone on here thinks? Put the kettle on chill out and put it behind you op...tomorrows a good day (non negotiable)

I would have paid for it but not allowed him to have it, in fact if she said go on without paying I’d have thanked her and left the shop. I get your view but from the outside looking in I can see she meant no harm. Must be hard being put on the spot with other people’s children, especially if you have none yourself, which is why I would never do it. Move on from it now and forget about it.

Sounds like hormones have got the better of you. Not sure I really understand the whole story tbh but try not to let it get to you. Can you get a break somehow? I remember what it's like to feel fat, stressed and hormonal. Give the girl a break!

I thought the same tea

Jeez. Lay off the OP. Have you never been stressed and pregnant with a toddler having a tantrum and just felt awful???
OP you were a bit u but the response you're getting here is uncalled for. I can't believe people are calling your child a brat. Please take no notice. X

Jesus Christ. Parent your own child and stop using retail staff as a threat.

I hate working retail when parents cast me as the 'mean lady' who wont allow them to get/do something, or that I'm going to kick them out. I've also heard that the policeman is coming to arrest them for being naughty.

It can make it WAY more difficult with a lost child when they're told 'find a policeman/someone who works in a shop' but also constantly told how mean we are.

Makes me think of Dara O'briain's comedy sketch: "I am the man!"

"Poor shopworker "

What the hell is that?
The lady is a retail assistant.
This shop worker comment is so patronising!
op nothing happened. You did nothing wrong / nor did the assistant helping you.
I wouldn't give it a second thought

Ear chocolate. Cry a bit and move on. We've all had shitty days like this. Also, don't use she to judge. I look like a teen. I'm a mum of three. Oldest is 6. I'm 29.

EAT chocolate
And don't use AGE to judge.
Sorry

It sounds like she was actually backing you up on the " your not having it" stance, and then you bloody paid for it, i hope you threw it in the bin when you got home
Next time it happens it will be that much harder to say NO and mean it because you gave in this time
so next time have a game plan in your head, no matter how tired and stressed you are... take a deep breath and say i said not this time honey/dear/name etc and wait for him to kick off, and once he does get down to his level and say... is this the best tantrum you can throw? i know you can do better! come on really throw the tantrum! come one everyone is watching and waiting for you to really show us all the best tantrum! ( and continue on like that, really encourage him to see everyone is watching and thinks its a crap tantrum and he can do better) and smile at everyone, he will stop because hes not getting the reaction he wants off you, and because everyone is looking at him ( and most likely a few will agree his tantrum is pretty lackluster ) worked every time with my daughter, once she got on the floor and really went to town... she got up pretty quick when i laughed, walked off and said it wasn't her best effort, she could do way better! ( slowly walked down the aisle keeping my eye on her )