Who's in the wrong?

[NicoleB67]

OH and I have been playing around with each other all night and messing about acting like 13 year olds (FYI, we are in our mid 30's LOL). I was standing next to the TV and had a hair grip in my hand that I threw at him jokingly and it hit him just below the eye which he got into a right fit about and got pissed off with me. He then proceeded to pick up the big sky remote and throw it pretty hard at my thigh in retaliation (also anger which I could see etched on his face). He is a 6 foot tall sportsman with a strong arm and it really f**king hurt and is still stinging now half an hour later and left a mark. I'm really upset with him but he seems to think I'm in the wrong for starting it by the grip thing. Who's in the wrong here? (Sorry for the school type post, I do get it comes across v immature and am prepared to be flamed )

What you did was a bit stupid because it could have hurt him. I’ve done stupid things myself so no judgment. I do think, however, this is concerning behaviour from him. The thing is, if you act like children, you will both go into child mode. Did he fight with siblings? I would want to be seriously talking to him.

And yes, be aware that you are currently with a man who will use his strength against you in a moment of anger. That's worrying.

How long have you been together? Do you lve together?

Hi Op, can you please clarify hair grip?

Yes little, I was thinking kirby grip but wondered if she meant a hinged clip - either way, both are light items and unless you stood close and deliberately lobbed the hinged clip at someone's face, it wouldn't be the worst thing to ever happen to someone - get a grip (see what I did there!!). No need to lob a heavy solid remote control at someone deliberately to hurt them - which is what happened here.

What sort of grip was it? You were wrong to throw something at his face. Hitting out in anger though is behaviour to be concerned about though.

It was a bit silly to throw the clip but still within the realms of playful. It in no way excuses deliberately hurting you.

If you were tickling yout chikd and they got over excited and head butted you, you wouldn't do it back!

I know the OP is not a child but to me the principle is the same iver excited playinh which accidentally injured someone who then retaliated by deliberately hurting you.

You were both being ridiculous.

You definitely

Of course yanbu, he actually meant to hurt you.
That's the difference, me and dp have been known to get a bit silly at times, if we get fed up we say so. If something hurts we would say, not lash out.

You definitely

So he was right to hit her? Do fuck off.

Both in the wrong.
Ridiculous. If you don't want to play silly games, don't play.

You started throwing things. You could have blinded him with the hair clip. He was daft to respond the way he did, but if you hadn’t thrown something first it wouldn’t have happened.

You could have blinded him with the hair grip.
Ffs.
I have read some ridiculous comments on here before, but that really takes the

Thanks for your male opinion condoning this man's disproportionate response, Dadglos

I’d say both of you are at fault. You came of worse because the nearest thing for him to throw back at you was a remote control.

He shouldn't have thrown something hard at you when he was annoyed. Please consider that he is capable of this behaviour in future

You sound like me and my husband a bit. We play rough messng around and sometimes it gets over the top.

What kind of hair grip it was it very important

You started throwing things. You could have blinded him with the hair clip. He was daft to respond the way he did,

She could have blinded him so was clearly deeply in the wrong with the potential for such a serious injury yes? But he when he threw the remote at her leaving a mark was just being "daft"?

Don't talk shit and stop minimising male violence.

"It'll all end in tears", said every parent to children 'playing' like this.

Agree with msgame

Both of you.

You were both acting childish. You threw the first item which would have hurt given that you hit underneath his eye. Then he threw something at you that hurt you.

You're both as bad as each other. Stop throwing things.

@MinervaSaidThat no need to be crass. I don’t need to fuck off thanks. Yeah she started it by throwing something at him. Wasn’t meant to hurt but she did it all the same. I woulda chucked something back at someone who’d chucked something in my face too.

He picked up the nearest thing too throw back. Had it been a cushion or a slipper etc it wouldn’t have hurt.

Just because it was only a grip that hit him in the eye doesn’t make the OP any better than him. They were both idiots.