Friend pissed me off at wedding. Am I right to be?

[WhooshYeah]

I just want opinions on if my friend was BU or if IABU for being pissed off with her....

Nutshell
Me and two female friends were at the all-day wedding of our female friend.
We were put on a table with 5 unknown males who were friends of the groom.
Awkward silence at first so I broke the ice and got us all chatting and having a laugh
Zero flirting happening

My friend then started saying
“HEY CLAIRE (me) HOW ARE YOUR THREE KIDS?”
(I have a BF and 3kids. She was saying this in a way as though I was forgetting they existed and was trying to get with these boys.... who might I add were a lot younger than me)
I ignored her and carried on chatting to them
Again she went “HEY CLAIRE, your THREE KIDS... how are they????”
I just ignored her again.
She did it a few times constantly interrupting my conversations with them.
Anyway, the next day she added them all as friends on Facebook despite her having a long term relationship. I didn’t add them, it’s very doubtful any of us will see them again.

Should I just brush all this off.
Or am I right to want to give her a virtual slap?
She was spoiling a fun night.
I don’t flirt so it wasn’t even like that.

Anyway I’ve got that off my chest.

Genuine question - what's wrong with her adding them on facebook and being in a relationship?

Sounds like she made a fool of herself. Jealous and attention seeking.

Why didn't you just say "fine thanks, how's your boyfriend?"

She asked after you and your children and you ignored her. You were rude.

Yeah, she made a perfectly innocent and polite enquiry specifying the number of children the OP has whilst OP was in the middle of a conversation with someone else. Of course it was the OP who was rude

How I would react would depend on whether the friend has form. If she is normally nice and not weird, then I'd let it go. It hardly matters. People are sometimes cringey, especially if they've been drinking, and it hardly matters in the long run anyway, no-one was actually affected by her asking repeatedly about your children.
On the other hand, if she has form for being an attention-seeking and for trying to make you feel small or bad, then get shot of her.

I'd of just looked blank and said... "What kids" lol

Heckneck - brilliant 🙂

Except that wouldn't have stopped my friend who does it in her tracks. She'd have said "you KNOW, your THREE KIDS! Can't believe you're pretending you don't have any", and sat back looking smug. Ignoring was right imo.

I'm thinking that if this was at the table after the ceremony, the "friend" had already had time to ask about Op's kids.

Your friend was being unreasonable, YANBU for being pissed off, but you would be unreasonable to say anything to her and further the drama. You've got it off your chest now, so just let it go and leave a little mental note next to your friend's name to remind of you this. ie. forgiven but not forgotten.

I would have been SO tempted to just yell 'why the FUCK do you keep going on about my kids, and why the FUCK would you assume they're not OK. Go FUCK yourself, you silly cow.'

If which case you'd have made a colossal fool of yourself.

She was cock blocking. Not that any cocks needed blocking, mind.

Maybe she fancies op's dp, maybe she's just a shit stirrer, or maybe she's got some weird notion that partnered women must not talk to other men at social events

I like to think I'd confront her about it, giving get the opportunity to apologise. But in reality I'd probably just seethe quietly, possibly forever

YANBU

I had a friend do this to me on a night out. I'd bumped into a male colleague in a pub and we were just having a quick chat while waiting to be served at the bar -she kept interrupting asking how my husband and kids were.

It was obvious what she was doing and it was bloody embarrassing, I felt like a right dick

Who are these weirdos? Yanbu op

I think the time has probably passed to confront her about her obviously childish, spiteful and attention seeking behaviour but I would def take a step back from this 'friend'. If you do say anything now, she will look puzzled and make out you are the one with issues and pretend that she has no idea what you are on about. She needs to grow up.

How can anyone not realise the reason behind the friends sudden concern about how the ops kids were. She might as well have shouted out "how's your husband doing". It sounds to me like pure jealousy, in her mind the Op was getting attention from the men that she perhaps wanted for self. So obvious.

If anyone of my friends had spent several hours pushing human beings out of their body I'd assume they knew how many times it had happened.

Yes, she was being jealous & petty. Does she have form for this?

Some people are simply more perceptive than others.

Wouldn't approach her now, but I'd have some responses ready for the future. Two of my friends do this, different motives to each other but same result. Luckily we have the sort of relationship where a quick "do fuck off" is an acceptable response.

Why didn't you just say "fine thanks, how's your boyfriend?"

Came here to post similar. Would be my response if it happened again.

She doesn't sound much fun on a night out and yes she did have all day to ask about your kid's.

She sounds desperately insecure. What an embarrassing way to behave in public.

I hate it when people assume you're flirting because you speak to someone. It's normal to chat to the people at your table at a wedding. It would be rude not to. Are you all supposed to sit in silence for two hours? I don't get people who can't make the distinction.

Sounds like someone had a bit much to drink. Move on.

It depends. Are you auditioning for Eastenders?

If you dont want a shouting match in the street just for the drama of it, suggest you move on and ignore it. Sounds like she was insecure because she is crap at talking to people and jealous you were getting on well with these chaps. And by the way you have done well to have three kids by the age of 15 - or is that just your social media age?

Is she single, did she think you were ruining her chances with one of these guys?