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Friends mum evicting her from home ..who is being unreasonable?

123 replies

Whatloversdo34 · 03/10/2017 18:10

6 years ago my friends mum took out a mortgage for a property and my friend moved in with her family in the understanding she paid £450 a month to her mother and her mother paid the mortgage ..once it was all paid the house would b signed over to my friend.

15 months ago my friend fell out with her mother and stopped paying rent.
She now owes her mother £8600.
Her mother has been in touch with solicitor and has been issued with eviction notice.
If she doesn't leave (which she won't) her mum will be taking her to court and she will be evicted (probably take 4 months)
Who's in the wrong?
Her mother would see her daughter on the street with 2 kids.
My friend has spent £7000 on new kitchen/bathroom.
The last year she has been able to afford holidays /lovely house decor (obviously as she isn't paying rent)
Who is being unreasonable ?

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Theducksarenotmyfriends · 03/10/2017 18:11

Your 'friend', obviously.

RunningOutOfCharge · 03/10/2017 18:12

Obviously your friend.....or is it you op?

lalalonglegs · 03/10/2017 18:13

Your friend IBU. Are you the friend?

PeterGriffinsPenisBeaker · 03/10/2017 18:13

Daughter for sure. It was a business arrangement. Another reason why you don't mix business and family!

WorraLiberty · 03/10/2017 18:13

Your friend is in the wrong obviously.

Or do you believe she should get to live wherever she wants, completely rent free? Confused

Happytea · 03/10/2017 18:13

Your friend

LastNightMyWifeHooveredMyHead · 03/10/2017 18:13

The friend. Presumably they had all this set out in a written agreement via the solicitor?

brasty · 03/10/2017 18:13

Surprised you need to ask.

RunningOutOfCharge · 03/10/2017 18:13

And her mother wouldn’t ‘see her daughter on the street’

There were many choices before it got to ‘the street’

Pengggwn · 03/10/2017 18:14

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Whatloversdo34 · 03/10/2017 18:14

No it's deffo my friend.
Obviously she's my friend but I can see both sides ..
Emotional side says -it's your daughter and grandkids,your own flesh and blood.
My head says- your mother has been paying her rent plus her daughters,it's not fair.

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araiwa · 03/10/2017 18:14

Getting evicted because you didnt pay your mum rent is a new low by your friend. 2 years to sort this out and its being dealt with buy the courts? Jeebus

Bluntness100 · 03/10/2017 18:15

Well clearly the daughter. You can’t just decide to stop paying rent and live rent free, that’s not how life works.

Soubriquet · 03/10/2017 18:15

Friend is unfortunately in the wrong

What was the falling out over?

Whatloversdo34 · 03/10/2017 18:15

It's a really sad state of affairs for all involved

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GissASquizz · 03/10/2017 18:15

Friend. Her mother is still having to pay the mortgage. Shocking behaviour, actually.

HotelEuphoria · 03/10/2017 18:15

Do you need to ask? Is this a wind up?

Phosphorus · 03/10/2017 18:15

Your friend.

Jesus, you can't just stop paying the rent.

Who do you think should be paying for your friend's living costs?

She doesn't know she's born, paying next to nothing in 'rent' for a house she'll one day own.

Most people would give their eye teeth for a deal like that.

I'd say her mother has the measure of her.

PortiaCastis · 03/10/2017 18:15

Dappy question your friend is taking the piss out of her Mum and is about to get her karma

Whatloversdo34 · 03/10/2017 18:16

I have no idea why they fell out
she is keeping that private

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Latenightreader · 03/10/2017 18:16

Of course it is your friend. She has paid no rent in all that time; does she pay towards electricity/gas/internet? Does she maintain separate food, or do they dip into what her mother buys? Absolutely unreasonable of her, unless there was an agreement for the bathroom to be done in lieu of rent (which it sounds like there wasn't).

MissionItsPossible · 03/10/2017 18:16

She stayed somewhere 15 month rent free! She is obviously BU.

Billben · 03/10/2017 18:16

Your friend's mother was very generous to wait until now to take action. I would have turfed her out a long time ago.

RunningOutOfCharge · 03/10/2017 18:17

Op does your friend not work?

Whatloversdo34 · 03/10/2017 18:17

Her mother doesn't live in the house.
Her mum has her own home.

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