DH wants to dye his hair

[lookingforthecorkscrew]

DH is mid thirties with a fair amount of grey and had suddenly decided that he has to dye it. The main reason for this, he says, is that nobody will hire him because they think he's too old and irrelevant (he does not work in a glamourous job).

I think dyed hair looks weird on men, and like his hair exactly the way it is. Also, he has no idea of the upkeep he'd be inflicting upon himself FOREVER.

Nevertheless he's asked me to dye it for him and we're in a stand off situation because I'm refusing. AIBU?

He really isn't capable of dying his own hair. He barely remembers to brush his teeth twice a day. I have to order his prescriptions for him because he never remembers to put them in on time. He runs out of pants/socks regularly because he kicks them off next to the bed instead of putting them in the wash basket.

And yet this man managed to hold down a job? Astounding.

(women, please stop getting with man-children who need their bottoms wiping - its perpetuating shit gene pools)

What about this?

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He has more problems than just his hair if he’s that inept.
I love love love silver haired mature men.

He needs to make sure he doesn't dye his hair too dark, will age him even more.

I would happily dye DH hair if needed. I have done in teenage years, even when he could do it himself. Purely because I enjoy it.

I'd get him a colour as close to his natural as possible and just see what it's like. If he isn't keen, then at least you've tried.

He barely remembers to brush his teeth twice a day. I have to order his prescriptions for him because he never remembers to put them in on time. He runs out of pants/socks regularly because he kicks them off next to the bed instead of putting them in the wash basket

Is he 30s or 13? Honestly this is just rubbish from an adult. He expects you to pick up his dirty underwear from the floor?

The fact is that if he can't be arsed to do basic self care like this he will never maintain a dye job and you will be doing it permanently. If he wants to dye his hair he needs to go to the hairdressers and get it done properly, especially if there is a lot of grey.

What industry is he in that he can be scruffy and needs to look young? Ageism is a bigger problem in some sectors than others but if he starts dying and maintaining his hair (at the hairdressers) and the rest of him looks like a mess it might look odd. Or maybe he will start picking up his own underpants and brushing his teeth in which case you both win.

I would do it but only if he could commit to losing the ear/nose/brow stragglers and get the tooth replaced. They're not nice features. The laundry and prescriptions would be left to him.

Do it once, but do bad job so he'll never ask you again.
Taking a leaf out of my DHs book

“is he Mr Twit”