Drink drive limit barman ?

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I've to a funeral today and got lost enroute to wake afterwards. Also, I know three other people seriously ill and DD had problems recently so feeling sensitive.

So I arrive at pub where wake is on my own and felt like I wanted to treat myself as life hasn't been fun recently. Asked for a small glass of wine and barman gave me a 125ml drink, I apologised and said I meant 175ml. He asked me if I was driving, yes I was and then told me bluntly 125ml was the drink drive limit, he wasn't going to give me any more in THAT glass as I'd be over the limit and he'd be responsible if I got caught. I did point out I didn't normally drink & drive so wasn't 100% aware of the drink drive limit but thought I'd have been able to have a couple of 125ml glasses, to which he replied if you come back and ask for another glass of 125ml wine I could have it but I'd then have consumed 250ml which wasn't on.

With everything going on I was a bit shell shocked and told him I'd have my usual glass of water. My BIL was at the funeral and bought himself two pints and nothing was said to him

I guess I'm just a sensitive at the moment, looking online I don't think he was right re: limit and he was being nasty.

I think the issue here is that the barman was policing woman's intake, but not a man's.

We don't know that he wasn't policing the man's intake either. He may just have felt that a 175 ml glass was okay for a man, particularly at the beginning of the wake.

I think on balance I'd rather have someone tell me what the limit is and stop me going over it, than letting me drink too much.

Too many pubs and restaurants out there don't even have 125ml glasses.

BUT a man is over the limit with 2 pints, so why was your BIL not questioned?

It does get to me the way womens' drinking is policed. Other women complain of bar staff refusing to serve them alcohol because they are pregnant.

Every year people are killed due to people “just having one”

I don't think this is true. I think people are killed because people drink a lot more than one, or expect that the alcohol is out of their system by the morning.

Every year people are killed due to people “just having one”

There won't be any stats on the number of people killed after a driver has had one drink as those people won't be over the drink-drive limit so the data won't be collected.

There's an easy formula to keep under the limit in England, you burn one unit of alcohol every hour so drink one unit an hour and you will never go over the limit.