It's DP's birthday and he didn't come home last night.

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I really just need a good moan. We had no plans to do anything today- DD has a friend's birthday party to go to.

I know it's his birthday- but IABU to think that when you have kids you don't just get to do do what you want?

The entitlement to disappear on the swill and not reappear until you feel like it stops while you have dependents.

He should have thought of that before removing the condom. Doesn't mean parents can't party, but disappearing and disappointing his kid is not the deal. Regardless of what his mates do.

He went out for his birthday, what's the problem?

He went out for his birthday, what's the problem?

That he didn't come home until 11am the following day with no notice, and was three/four hours later than planned, leaving her to worry about his safety, while looking after their young DD who wanted to see her daddy on his birthday.

Nope, no problem there at all

She had spoken to him at the party? Surely if any day of the year he could do this it would be his birthday?

id cut him some slack since he went out for his birthday.

If he hasn't been taking anything then I don't know how he'd stay up so long

I'm 58. I sat up until 8 am on Sunday morning recently with my best friend's husband (also 58) listening to music at a mutual friend's house. Then walked home, had breakfast at Starbucks and got home around 10. Neither of our spouses think we had sex or drugs (we didnt)

The OP's husband is at fault for not letting her know where he was and that he was staying out - he is not at fault for staying out late.

The OP's husband is at fault for not letting her know where he was and that he was staying out - he is not at fault for staying out late.

This.

@LassWiTheDelicateAir I agree. I said at the very least I'd be worried that he'd taken something, as he was out on a drinking session and usually you'd burn out at some point and need sleep. But then some disagreed. OP also said for medical reasons he won't have been able to take anything anyway so I would assume that covers alcohol aswell.
I agree that the wrongdoing is in not keeping in contact with OP (and also letting down his young child, who should be his priority).