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To think that no one would notice if I spent £50 on a wedding dress...

118 replies

Didntcomeheretofuckspiders · 30/09/2017 20:49

All the wedding dresses I have seen that I really love are quite overbudget as I'm looking for something a little bit 'alternative' when compared with the traditional princess-y style. IABU to some extent because I could probably afford to pay over the £500 budget I have set myself. But I also think that it's a huge amount of money to spend on something that I will definitely only wear once (I'm not by any means a dressy girl) and I don't feel like being extravagant would be a very good representation of DP and I as a couple.

I've just been looking at alternatives on Asos and have seen a couple of things I like in the £50 region. AIBU to think that no one would notice if I got something really cheap as long as it fitted nicely? Do you think budget wedding dresses can look just as good?

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Santawontbelong · 30/09/2017 20:51

Mine was £25 off eBay!! Looked amazing!!

Crunchymum · 30/09/2017 20:51

Well show us then Grin

treaclesoda · 30/09/2017 20:51

Honestly, no one cares, only the rudest of guests would ask how much it cost. And if you're sensible you won't invite arseholes like that to your wedding anyway.

If you see something that you like, go for it! Smile

haveacupoftea · 30/09/2017 20:52

YANBU. Spending a fortune on a dress is madness. Dorothy Perkins make them now too. Also check out Kitty and Dulcie if you want something that could pass as expensive.

PastysPrincess · 30/09/2017 20:52

Who is to know it was only £50? I never discussed the price of my wedding dress with anyone, it just never came up. If it's perfect for what you want then go for it.

Cin3ma · 30/09/2017 20:52

Order a couple and try them on, return if they aren't nice.

I got my wedding dress in a sale in Monsoon for £100. I don't think more £££ necessarily means better, unless you're spending thousands.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours · 30/09/2017 20:53

Go for it.

I wore a £40 dress to a very very posh ball recently. I felt happy and comfortable and if that's what you feel too then that's what counts.

Pacificplaza · 30/09/2017 20:54

If you like it then get it! And I doubt anyone would know the price by looking at it. Plus you'd have loads of money left for some really cool accessories and shoes

Aph413 · 30/09/2017 20:54

Mine was £150 and would've been happy with even cheaper. Check out wed2be if you want more ideas

TheABC · 30/09/2017 20:54

Its not how much the dress costs, but how it makes you feel. If your ASOS choice makes you feel fabulous and confident, it's "the one"

ShirleyPhallus · 30/09/2017 20:54

Give us the link?

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/09/2017 20:57

First dress: Thousands = divorce.

Second dress: Couple hundred = lovely happy marriage.

And anecdotes are like data, so the less you spend the better the marriage.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 30/09/2017 21:00

It's up to you.

For me, there was not a dress on earth that could have competed with my £1200 Maggie Sotterro.

I would not have been happy with anything less.

But everyone's different, and you say you like a more alternative style, so go for what makes you happy. It's your wedding!

CheesecakeAddict · 30/09/2017 21:02

It's your wedding and you have every right to do it how you want. Don't plan it around what anyone else might think.

Santawontbelong · 30/09/2017 21:05

Meant to add my first wedding- the dress was a grand and went to the air ambulance when I threw him out!!

WheresMyTaco · 30/09/2017 21:05

You know you have to share the links now right?

MsAwesomeDragon · 30/09/2017 21:06

My wedding dress was £25. My bra cost more than that (but even that was a normal bra, not a particularly special bridal thing).

My wedding was very small, and the marriage is very happy. I really, really don't think you need to spend a lot on a dress you'll only wear once (I assume)

PanannyPanoo · 30/09/2017 21:06

ooh show us what you like and let us help find the perfect dress at a fraction of the price! My first was £1500 reduced to £100. my friends £60 in monsoon sale both were beautiful. So many other lovely things to do with the money!

MrsLettuce · 30/09/2017 21:10

You should absolutely give them a try. If the quality, fit and cut is good then the price is irrelevant. Absolutely no need for it to be sold as a Wedding Dress.

Amethyst975 · 30/09/2017 21:12

Mine was a bridesmaid dress in ivory - a fraction of the price of a wedding dress that was similar but not as nice. My mum added a few embellishments with beads etc. to personalise it a bit more.

If you love it, go for it!!

Gah81 · 30/09/2017 21:13

Mine is vintage (1940s) and £200. Spent an extra £25 getting it tailored to fit like a glove. I look fabulous, I think Grin

MissMogwai · 30/09/2017 21:16

YANBU. I've seen dresses for thousands and some at £50 that are equally as gorgeous.

I'm getting married in 2019 and I won't be spending a fortune on my dress either.

ChildOfWoe · 30/09/2017 21:17

YANBU to spend that on a wedding dress. I think mine only cost £60-70 from Monsoon as it was in the sale & then reduced on top of that due to a slight fault. It was beautiful & I loved it the minute I tried it on. It wasn't white, I wouldn't have suited white & i just knew it was the one for me.

However I would advise against ASOS.. I got 2-3 dresses from there which looked like they could be wedding suitable but when they turned up they looked horrific & nothing like the pictures, so be wary! Mind you.. at least they do free returns!

MagicFajita · 30/09/2017 21:18

Wear what you like op , spend what you like also. Your appearance and pictures won't look amazing/terrible based on the cost , it's about how you feel in it.

My dream dress was about £200 , I feel confident in it and it's very "me".

I hope you have a wonderful day.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 30/09/2017 21:20

^For me, there was not a dress on earth that could have competed with my £1200 Maggie Sotterro.

I would not have been happy with anything less.^

Gosh. I don't even know what that means. I wonder how many other people do. A wedding day is just a day. A marriage is for the long term. I know which I think is more important to focus on. Unless you have money to burn, I just can't see the point of spending what to many people would be their entire salary for a couple of months on a garment you'll wear once for a few hours.

Good luck, OP, spend as little or as much as you like. I hope you have a lovely day and a good, strong marriage thereafter.