To think that he fancies me, and to tell him to BACK OFF

[MotherMucca]

I'm a bit embarrassed about this, but I can't talk to anyone else about it.

I'm mentoring a student (he's about 25 and gorgeous). We have had a few meetings in Pret and we both enjoy wholesome, vegan food. So far, so normal (and dreamy)...

Anyway, earlier today we both chose the same sandwich... only there was only one left! My mentee(?) looked me in the eye and said "well, I might be lucky next time" I honestly didn't know where to look!!

I'm supposed to be meeting him and his tutor next month. I don't know what to do?!

I'm embarrassed for you OP. So unprofessional for a mentor to even write or think about a student like this. "dreamy", "gorgeous"."swoon".

Are you helping him write a Mills and Boon fuckfest or are you really the student mocking MN and seeing how many mentions a certain shop gets?

Or are you the appallingly bad "journalist" known as Liz Jones on the Fail on Sunday? She name drops shops for freebies. Will you get a wholesome vegan sandwich?

Silly Billy

Trol la la la la la la la

The Pret Bircher muesli with coconut yoghurt is delicious. Just mentioning it in case you have any breakfast meetings.

Now I'm even more lost. There's a forum where MN'er's post about MN'ers and start threads for the laugh?
Some people have waaaaay too much time on their hands if so.

To be fair to the OP, how many wholesome dreamy vegan sandwiches are going to be left in Pret after the morning rush. I don't see why previous posters have to blame the whole thing on Liz Jones.

This is the stupidest thread I've ever come across

Fucking hell, trying to nonce up the work experience. Have some fucking self respect. On the proviso this is real, which it isn't.

I kind of hate the word "wholesome."

While I agree this is a silly thread: Fucking hell, trying to nonce up the work experience. is daft as. The mentee ( horrid word) is 25, not a pre-adolescent.

Upthread someone suggested it was unprofessional to even think of a mentee in terms of attractiveness. I'd imagined such ideas to be found only in the Roman Catholic Church and "Nineteen Eighty-Four".

I don't mind wholesome when it comes to food. Not people, though. Or literature.

Do you have a crush on him? Sounds like it.

"mentee" sounds like a female Mento mint

I'm also bothered by the word "goodness" when it comes to food. I'm weird.

You are the mentor in a position of trust and responsibility. He, although over 18 and technically an adult, is still young and immature enough to be vulnerable. Young people flirt, they think about sex a lot. Telling them to stop is like telling them not to breathe. You are not seeming to be exhibiting the maturity and gravitas that your role as mentor ought to entail. Your phrasing in the thread title about telling him to back off suggests that you aren't getting that it is up to you to manage this appropriately. Teachers and other adults working with young people have to deal with flirtation like this all the time, and they have to shut it down and get on with their job. Those who fail to do this and instead react to the flirting as if it was from a peer are abusing their position of trust. Even though you aren't encouraging his flirting you are muddying the waters by reacting as a peer rather than reinforcing the mentor-mentee structure.

It is up to you to set the boundaries. I think you should start by putting your meetings on a less social footing so that the boundaries aren't so blurred.

Are you reading Mills and Boon by any chance? If so, then stop getting reality mixed up with fiction.

Swoon? Seriously?

Come on!!

I think you wanted him to give you some meat sandwiched between your thighs. If he offers you a pearl necklace as a thank you gift, you've scored .

He, although over 18 and technically an adult, is still young and immature.

He's 25.

Id rather have a sandwich.

Your iron levels sound low. Go have a steak.

He’s vegan? Sounds like a bit of a twat then!

This sounds like the plot of a 70s soft porn film