Insta mums

[Harrielady]

What the actual fuck?! I have just joined mumsnet and can say I will be leaving it after the negativity I've experienced. I joined expecting women helping women.
Women encouraging other women. Whether that's with their children, their marriage or their careers?! 'Insta mums' are mums who have decided a career in instagramming! And why the fuck not?! Before you ask no I am not an insta mum. Not that I wouldn't want to be - I just can't be bothered to tidy. But they do! They make their homes beautiful and enjoy decorating and showing their efforts off. Other women are inspired and they can bring many other women joy and happiness. Who are you bringing joy and happiness too? Going into the internet and plastering negative energy and bitter comments is not helpful, not nice and not at all fucking productive! You bitch about these women spending their days cleaning and shopping and not 'caring for thier kids' but how are you fucking idiots any better?!? Your too busy slagging off other hard working women to get your kicks. It's sad. Pathetic and downright bullying.
Something's that have been posted have hurt 'insta mums' and have caused upset - what have they actually done to you?? You are no better than the disgusting internet trolls who target celebrities or others who are slightly better looking or better off than yourselves. Get a grip.

I think its very easy to say 'if you don't like, unfollow' but why shouldn't people speak out as well as unfollow if they don't like what they say?

I did say that people should have the conversation because it’s important but it’s not over-simplifying to say that unfollowing is the most important action you can take. Both as a vote of disapproval and for your own mental health.

There are a lot of things in life outside of our control, but blocking an Instagram feed that is making you feel bad about yourself is not one of them.

Slow clap for bluebells and their valuable contribution to this debate...

Read my posts back Bluebells...

Unlike you, @anxiousmum, most of us have better things to do than read 28 pages. So thanks but no thanks.

I think saying just unfollow is a very valid point, if you don't like them personally. I don't like eastenders so i don't watch it. I don't like all the adverts in glossy mags so I don't buy them. What I don't do is to watch eastenders then complain about how much i don't like it. And i don't choose to buy magazines then complain about how much ads are in there - I know they're full of ads so I avoid them. How is this any different? People seem to be following them just so they can complain about them. It's boring and tiresome

Then missrabbit just unfollow the thread and don't let people bother you, it's simple. If people discussing something is so tiresome, move along.

Not RTFT, just initial post - Is the op serious, or potential daily mail/TWS looking for fodder. Mumsnet helps and supports so many, you've read one chat and given every mumsnetter a telling off.

*you- sorry fat fingers and broken screen..

You see Missrabbit, I have absolutely no problem with you being here or your points. Just like I have no problem with people following MOD and FOD but something Mrs finding their posts annoying and the exposure of their children and interesting topic. I was merely suggesting your own advice, seeing as you are so wound up about the thread. And whilst you found his masturbation joke harmless and funny,I found it rank, however I thought his eek with ADHD quite funny and others found it out of order.
Everyone's entitled to their opinion. But you are suggesting the discussion around MID and FOD so tiresome and boring it's surprising you don't take your own advice. MOD hasn't really given much of an opinion, the person who called her husband a wanker, apologised to her so she's all happy, zero opinion on child exposure and selling your children and putting them at risk. MP is always a great contributor as she always listens and responds whether it's positive or negative and she is great to follow.

** typo, finding some things they post annoying

*Not RTFT, just initial post
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What is the fucking point.

If one good thing comes out of this thread, @missrabbitneedsabreak, is that influencers are taking a moment to reflect. It’s so easy say unfollow, stop complaining, move on, but social media is a powerful tool - it sucks people in - so, why shouldn’t we hold them up to higher standards if they’re using it for money-making purposes?

Can't get my head around posters trying to stop discussions. Or any discussions that are not pro the Insta crowd.

If you have you have monetised your family you are a business. And if thousands watch your daily life you're stuck in a limbo land somewhere between personal and public.

Your many fans think you're friends and your detractors think you have no real feelings.And personally I don't blame either of them. It's really a very odd situation.

To think people aren't going to discuss and talk about this is ridiculous. And super naive. To think that everyone of the 1,000s of people who view Insta 'stars' are going to give the total thumbs up is just well mad. The internet is choc full of people talking about everything under the sun.

Taken to an extreme The Kardashians are the ultimate example of a family who have monetised and made themselves visible.

I think you have to have balls of steel to do it. And be totally NOT bothered what people say on the internet about you.

I used to follow lots of the insta crew but not so much anymore because of the ads and materialism and, well, they became too popular i guess and out of reach of mere mortals down here not in the clique.

I actually feel sorry for them. Can you imagine how tiring or must be having to be on show all the time, parading your kids round too? Ugh. I find it depressing. What happened to keeping some stuff private?!

I went on some school visits last year and saw one mums kids. And I thought that it was a bit weird. I knew their names and where they went to school but I didn't know them. I would hate some stranger knowing that about my children.

It's the grabby buying stuff that bothers me too. The emphasis is around buying stuff - I don't care if it's a small brand. It's still STUFF. What about doing things for other people, being kind, just being without having to spend money (or not in instamums) cases.

Plus it's got to affect their kids, all that time on the phone. I hardly have time to dick about on Instagram and my 4 year old has started telling me off if I'm not concentrating on playing with him now. Social media is a strange thing.

Finally the sisters for sisters thing erks me too. There is a small group of instamums online who have a fair group of fans. But otherwise women are different. We're not all equal (as that stupid next article showed) and we don't all have to love each other.

I think it's all so far removed from reality. How weird it is - just a bunch of squares and videos of folk blathering on about diddly squat.

I do still follow motherpukka as I like her mission, but even I'm now finding her feed a bit much and she doesn't seem happy. I hope she gets that tv job. I think she'd be great at it. I really like that she's taken mae off her feed now too.

Anyway that's my tuppence!

@youcantelleverybody because reading it now

@faceandpalm Agree 100%. Content that you find yourself genuinely just not liking - fine, unfollow. But when it comes to ethics and the like, turning an ignorant blind eye is just the same as glossing over any other unethical media practices. Social media dwellers seem to think themselves exempt because they have a 'follow/unfollow' button.

As predicted all the threaddid is boost publicity and now the adoring fans have started the hashtag #notawanker FOD is over the moon. Although finding his more recent stories a bit weird. It's all losing something. And they don't seem happy.

No. That's the thing

It all seems so contrived and there is no true happiness.

It's so weird.

You heard it here first, fod will soon be doing a 'paid partnership' with some mens grooming products. I'm not buying that his and her stories last night weren't aimed at finding a new paid endorsement

Some posts are so transparent. They are far from the only ones guilty of the begging though. I'm noticing it more and more.