Hyphenated names

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AIBU

SIL just had her 1st baby and gave her a really beautiful name and middle name which now I have seen written down I realise they have hyphenated.

It it just me or is this not a massive PITA having a hyphenated name for form filling, it's a mouthful and will inevitably be shortened whether you want it or not?

Pick one name FFs!

I have noticed it's getting quite popular.

I fill in forms every single day at work - so LOADS! And a lot of the families I work with have hyphenated names.

I have a hyphenated name. What I find hardest is trying to explain what a bloody hyphen is to young people (god I feel old I'm only 30!!) in call centres and that both parts are indeed my first name not a first and middle. No I don't have a middle name at all and you you can't just put the second part of my first name down as my middle name

It seems to be becoming more and more common that people don't understand what it is, not sure if that says something about teaching standards or name trends!!

I have a five syllable compound name which could be hyphenated, most people call me by one half of it and some use the other - it works fine almost everywhere but the uk and all these threads on mumsnet are giving me a real complex about it 😕

I think in some cases you need the hyphen. I met a Sarahjane recently, which just looks a bit odd...

No but Sarah Jane would look fine, a lot of people with double names have them written separately, people will still understand they go together if the person themself or the parents model this way to say it. But there is always the choice to just become 'Sarah' if she wants to.

For some reason I have a strong dislike of hyphens, they are all over the place at the moment, and must make it difficult when completing forms etc.

And as in my example, she may feel as she gets older that Sarah Jane is a little childish sounding, whereas just Sarah sounds more grown up somehow

No hyphens in Spain - just the two surnames.

I have a hyphenated name. What I find hardest is trying to explain what a bloody hyphen is to young people (god I feel old I'm only 30!!) in call centres and that both parts are indeed my first name not a first and middle. No I don't have a middle name at all and you you can't just put the second part of my first name down as my middle name

This 👆🏼 All. The. Frickin. Time 😡

Can't believe how many posters seem so outright offended that, god forbid, a person with a hyphenated first name should have the sheer audacity to expect to be called BY THEIR NAME!!!

Whatever next, expecting your post to be sent to your actual house instead of next door? 😳

TBH I find people with hyphenated names who insist on their full name a bit tedious

What a charmer you are. How dare someone have the audacity to want to be known by their full and correct name.

If I had a hyphenated name and you were rude enough to shorten it simply because of your own agenda, I'd totally ignore you until you learnt some manners, got over yourself and used my correct name.

Why should having a hyphenated name be a faff on forms? My own DC2 has a middle name that's 11 letters long. Now THAT is a faff. Having two shorter names with a hyphen would be easier.

We had a Emma-Jane at school in the 70s and we always called her by the full name. Wonder if she still uses both.

Personally... I understand the names such as Anne-Marie and John-Paul, and can accept these as "full" first names. However names like Sophie-May or Aaron-Jay I just don't "get" as I find the second parts are just adding random cutesy sounds to the first names. That said I don't nesscary dislike the names, I just don't get the random stapling of noises onto names*

^ I agree with this. I also think that the number of syllables makes a difference. If the whole name is 3 syllables, it tends to roll of the tongue much more easily. I think that Mary-Ann, Emma-Jane, Ann-Marie, Billy-Jo etc are so much easier to say than Amelia-Lily, for example.

A lot of projection here and "offence". I am allowed to privately and anonymously dislike something this isn't a personal attack!

Where did I say I would refuse to use the full name?

Lots of Scandis do have hyphenated names.

A lot of projection here and "offence"

Can't think why, you just innocently started a thread insulting people's taste (they love that!) in something concerning their kids (even better!) .

A lot of projection here and "offence". I am allowed to privately and anonymously dislike something this isn't a personal attack!

But you are not doing it privately, this is a public forum and calling people tedious for using their full name is insulting.

I thought hypenated first names was the latest chavtastic trend

30 years ago hyphenated surnames indicated you were posh, nowadays it indicates your parents are unmarried. Dons hard hat and heads for the exit.

This year I'm teaching a kid with a triple hyphenated name. I thought I'd hit the pinnacle of hyphens the year before when I taught 'Lilly-Hannah McCann-Didcott' But this year I have an 'Allegra-Iris-Kate'

*not real names, but correct in syllable/meaning

Or, Allthebestnamesareused married but each spouse kept their own names. As many do, these days. As you would no from many posters here, had you bothered to RTFT.

maybe they just like having a hyphenated name?! whats the issue?

I have one of those "classic" hyphenated names, and I insist, tediously or not, on my proper given name. It's an identity thing.

I don't know why it's any different to shortening a long name - I find people who don't like that a bit anal too tbh (I have a long name which is shortened to two different things and I don't care it's nothing todo with my identity).

A lot of projection here and "offence". I am allowed to privately and anonymously dislike something this isn't a personal attack!

But saying that people who insist on people using their full name is tedious was guaranteed to piss off those of us who have hyphenated name. Of course people are offended.

I think some people are lazy and I'm continuously confounded by people hearing my name then immediately saying it back to me wrongly or calling me something incorrect and expecting me to respond.

I don't know why it's any different to shortening a long name

Unless the person agrees, this would be equally rude. You can't just call Elizabeth and Richard Liz and Dick unless they agree. It would be a bit too familiar.

Any opinion on anything is going to piss someone off?

What's the point of posting on a forum?

I don't know why it's any different to shortening a long name - I find people who don't like that a bit anal too tbh

But that's your view, not everyone's. I always ask children how they want to be addressed and ensure the school system changes their given name to their preferred version. Two students, William and Thomas (for example) told me they prefer the full version of their names. That's what they'll get, but another Thomas wants to be called Tommy so he'll have that.

Your name is the only thing you own: it's a powerful thing knowing someone's name, especially as a teacher. It's basic manners to use someone's name as they prefer, because it's theirs.