Hyphenated names

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AIBU

SIL just had her 1st baby and gave her a really beautiful name and middle name which now I have seen written down I realise they have hyphenated.

It it just me or is this not a massive PITA having a hyphenated name for form filling, it's a mouthful and will inevitably be shortened whether you want it or not?

Pick one name FFs!

I have noticed it's getting quite popular.

People shorten the shortened version of my name too - I don't really care TBH.

When I grew up in Sweden in the 60s hyphenated names were very common, though some of them were already felt to be a bit stodgy and old-fashioned. Certainly not narcissist.

Then why do you care if people use both theirs!

I know one lady who has hyphenated her daughter's name. Each name on their own are beautiful. Together it's a mouthful combined the two names is 18 letters. Each name 9 letters long.

The child is a teenager, the mother insists it isn't shortened and the full name is used. The child on the other hand doesn't mind her name shortened, the child's friends call her a shortened version of the name but know better than to shorten her name Infront of her mother.

Thats up to you i do care and wouldnt answer you if you couldnt be arsed to call me by name just because you find it tedious i might think your name is horrible but i wouldnt tell you that.

Both the names SIL has chosen are lovely but together it kind of ruins and cheapens it.

Why would I care if someone thought my name was horrible?

I didn't choose it!

I'm a hypenated first name. I'm fairly relaxed about what I get called, but I know it's work/something official if I get the full version.
I don't see it's a problem and I rather like it.

I am not a fan personally but I don't see why Ann-Marie, John-Paul, Ellie-May are any more difficult than Annabel, Jonathan, Eleanor?

"If they're going to take one half of the double barrell from each side, why don't the parents just pick one surname to start with in the first place"

In Spain, it's about carrying on the naming from both sides of the family (rather than just assuming it's the man's name that is important).

I have a double-barrelled surname for a different reason. When I married I had already published under my maiden name so needed to keep that; otoh I do feel I get better treatment from all sorts of authorities when I use my husband's very common British surname.

I find people end up just using the first name after a while

But again, if the kid is just going to drop half the name when they marry anyway, why don't each couple choose a single surname when the child is born?

YANBU
Classics like Anne-Marie or Sally-Ann I don't mind (still only 3 syllable s so not too much of a mouthful) but the Amelia-Lilys etc are just silly IMO and anything beyond 4 syllables is just sheer self indulgence on the part of the parents

The DC have a hyphenated surname, because they are the children of each parent, and their names reflect that.

It makes no difference to the price of buggy we bought, and we have thought it through for the future: we trust our children to do whatever seems best for them at the time and make their own decision. We will not be breathing down their necks and tut tutting if they abandon our names or take someone else's in any combinations they like. They are not stupid.

Am not talking about surnames - talking Christian names.

I'm a teacher. I can't stand double barrelled surnames, they make lists and labels look so untidy next to the other kids'. (I accept that's my ridiculous issue) Double barrelled first names, I always find the kid just tells you to use just one anyway. Again, the parents may as well not bother as far as I'm concerned.

I hear you. Damn having to make the font size smaller so the name will fit on a peg label!

Not everyone cherry ok; my name was very popular inIreland and Scotland its about choice isnt it if someone went by the name katherine i wouldnt take it upon myself to call them katie so why should people shorten my name?

Very common in Europe

What do people even mean when they say this? Europe is 50 countries and 750 MILLION people, nothing is "common in Europe" as a whole.

but my name has been mentioned on here and people seem to think its ok.

Re surnames I didn't pick just one name because it's important to me DD has both mine and her father's name. What she does if she has kids is entirely up to her but I'm a big fan of the Spanish tradition of one name from each parent (although inevitably it's traditionally the paternal name which is passed on).

As for first names I think it's just snobbery. It's 'common' to hyphenate a first name so the middle classes sneer at it.

My son having a double barrelled surname suits us perfectly and I love it.

existentialmoment Sun 24-Sep-17 18:48:37
"Very common in Europe

What do people even mean when they say this? Europe is 50 countries and 750 MILLION people, nothing is "common in Europe" as a whole."

In the present case, afaik Sweden and Norway (probably also Denmark), Spain (poss. Portugal), France, and, I think, Germany.

As for christian names, Im not a fan. Where I come from though no one has one. I wouldn't think it was snobbery if they did, I'd think it was pretty American though.

I have loads of Scandinavian friends (mostly Norwegian), not one of them has a double barrelled name, first or surname.

But again, if the kid is just going to drop half the name when they marry anyway, why don't each couple choose a single surname when the child is born?

Perhaps the couple don't know which name the child will drop or else they don't know that the child will drop either. Increasingly women are not changing their names at all when they marry, so I think it is a fair assumption that even fewer women will do so in a generation's time.