Hyphenated names

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SIL just had her 1st baby and gave her a really beautiful name and middle name which now I have seen written down I realise they have hyphenated.

It it just me or is this not a massive PITA having a hyphenated name for form filling, it's a mouthful and will inevitably be shortened whether you want it or not?

Pick one name FFs!

I have noticed it's getting quite popular.

My daughters middle name is Rose - after DH great-nanny.

I see a lot of people use it hyphenated but I couldn't. I really don't like them.

I don't see the point when the child will just be called the first name.

I was walking home one day and saw a birthday banner saying "happy birthday jay-jai" which I find crazy.

It it just me or is this not a massive PITA having a hyphenated name for form filling, it's a mouthful and will inevitably be shortened whether you want it or not?

I doubt it is any different to having a long name and not all hyphenated names are shortened. I work with a Sally-Anne who is always called that. I don't have any hyphenated names but mine is significantly longer than most people I know. I don't find it a pain and my documentation has always either had my full name or most of it on there.

TBH I find people with hyphenated names who insist on their full name a bit tedious?

Well, aren't you just delightful! How about the Anne-Marie I used to go to school with? Or the Mary-Lou? How very dare they want to be called their actual name?! My name is foreign and double barrelled. Yes, I want to be called the full thing, because it's my name which I've been called for all of my long life. Maybe I'll start calling my French mate Laurie instead of her full name of Laurie-Anne. Not.

I think some first names are traditionally hyphenated but it's odd when they aren't- e.g. I know a few John Pauls (not hyphenated but you wouldn't drop one of them) and it really isn't more of a mouthful than Andrew or Jonathon, as said up thread. However, Seraphina-Ann would make me raise an eyebrow. It does sound like people just couldn't agree.

Re surnames- my children will have one surname from each parent. I don't imagine they will change their name at any point, I certainly didn't, so the only thing they'll have to figure out is how to name their children, and again, I don't see what's confusing about also taking one name from each parent- the Spanish have a slightly misogynistic rule about how you decide which ones go together, but I think whichever sound best makes the most sense. It's not especially complicated, and I'm not terribly worried about coat hooks tbh.

Anne-Marie for example is ok, or Sarah-Louise. But not Ashleigh-Mae, or Emileigh-Jayde. vom

It's two names though?

Pretty well all old Anglo-Saxon names are made up of two components: Alf-red (elf counsel), Ed-ward (wealth protector). The etymology of Annabel is unclear but it is possible it is a compound of Anna and Bella. You do find names like Dulcibella on tombstones- that one is certainly two words put together.

I have a hyphenated 1st name. It's not a pain on forms, and it's different.
You should a tad rude to me op. If you don't like them, don't ever use one. But there's no need to judge others.

It's not just a modern thing though, double barrelled names have been around a long time and some quite traditional. I have a double barrelled name that isn't modern or unusual. I t was used all through school and I only shortened it at uni. However I always prefer to have the full name on anything official and also use it at work.

I am a bit split on the hyphenated first names.

Personally... I understand the names such as Anne-Marie and John-Paul, and can accept these as "full" first names. However names like Sophie-May or Aaron-Jay I just don't "get" as I find the second parts are just adding random cutesy sounds to the first names. That said I don't nesscary dislike the names, I just don't get the random stapling of noises onto names.

Keeping in mind I have a hyphenated name, well I am meant to but it wasn't registered on my birth certificate for whatever reason but family always refer to me as first name-second part. Outside of family I am just first name (work etc) but I think it makes my name a little more special to family... It's their name for me.

I can't comment on forms etc as like I said the hypen never pulled onto my birth certificate so for all purposes outside family it's classed as a middle name. (Much to my mothers dismay)

One of my childrens is hyphenated, her dad and I couldn't agree on a name and both sounded good like this.
I dont judge what others name their offspring, you dont like it dont use it for your own children quite simple.

Ds has hyphenated first name. But tends to be called by the second half. Full name when naughty!

I know someone called something like Daisy-May Hyphen-Bloggs. Seems to me having two doubles is being a little self-important

The only UK instances I know of, the second element has been quietly dropped by the end of the toddler years.
I'm afraid any double barrelled name where the second name is "May", conjures a prize jersey cow to me, and other double barrelling makes me think of the good'ole gals in 1950's filmmakers' idea of the american Midwest; all Doris Day thigh slapping and ghastly bonhomie.
In Spain, where it was more common, partly due to a tradition of first daughters being named Maria, there are established short versions for some combinations that are almost universally used, so Maria-Isabel > Maribel, Maria-Theresa > Maite, however in the last 30 years double barrelled girls names in Spain have largely dropped out of fashion.

TBH I find people with hyphenated names who insist on their full name a bit tedious

Well I hope we never run into each other in real life. Aren't you just peachy.

I have a double barrelled Christian name. I was named for my grandmothers on either side who both died whilst my mother was pregnant.

So you can fuck off with your over inflated opinions.

I refuse to answer to anything other than my full name because it's my name

TBH I find people with hyphenated names who insist on their full name a bit tedious I agree. It is always good short-hand to know what someone is like when they insist on using their full 4/5 syllable name and won't allow it to be shortened.

I'm 47 and have a hyphenated first name, although I always go by just the first part. My full first name is still shorter than my maiden name which isn't hyphenated.
Just because you find it tedious OP, I'd insist on you using my full hyphenated name 😜

Someone I know gave their child a hyphenated first name, one middle name and then a triple hyphenated last name - like so:

Blah-blah Blah blah-blah-blah (mums last name and dads already hyphenated last name)

I feel sorry for that child
I think the mother did this bc PFB and it's her darling darling little child who is perfect and needs a very long and intricate name to show just how fabulous they are. I also think that child will have a hard time filling out forms and introducing themselves. I'm not a fan of hyphenated names, but that just takes the piss

My son has a hyphenated surname, the only thing I could agree on with his dad.

It sounds quite nice.
Each to their own though

I think it depends on the combination of the names. The more traditional combinations like Mary-Jane or Anne-Marie were fairly concise and no more wordy than other names like Elizabeth or Charlotte. The proportions of the names look fairly balanced on paper. Some names combine well, some don't. It looks more pretentious when the names are longer and fancier in their own right and the hyphenated part feels tacked on rather than a natural part of the name.

DS has a classmate with a name of 11 letters + 4 letters, but tends to be known as the initials e.g. Alexander-John known as AJ. 16 characters abbreviated to two has potential to trigger user error. He does however respond to the first name as I've inadvertently discovered when shouting for DS2

I've found that the majority of teenagers favour first name only. Some get tetchy about the inclusion/ exclusion of the second part. I always asked which was their preferred version when doing the register. I remember one girl called something like "Charlie"-May... it wasn't a case that she may, or may not, she inevitably wouldn't .

I have a first name and a second name. My maternal grandfather used to constantly call me by both names and would put a hyphen in on birthday cards. He would do the same with one of his other grandaughters too. The 3rd grandaughter seemed to escape with just her 1st name (maybe she doesn't have a middle name). It was most bizarre that he was the only person in my family to call me by the 2 names. I was born in the early 1960's and my grandfather was in his 70's/80's during my childhood.

Bloody hell, what is going on with all the name-hating threads? Some people like top 10, or unique, double barrelled or whatever. I'll start a thread whinging about people using a name starting with B or Z, such ugly looking letters.

All the double-barrelled girls seem to be (something)-Mae!
Darcy-Mae
Ella-Mae
Lillie-Mae
It's not original and it isn't adding anything to the first name!

I am not a fan of the hyphenated first names as in I wouldn't use them for my own child buy I don't really care what others do. We all like different names after all.

My children have DB surnames, I like that they have both family names, it is upto them to do what they like with it when they are adults.

How lazy can you be to think it's a massive pita to write? Also how many forms do you fill in? Can't remember the last time I had to fill in my name in a form.
Maybe people do it because they think it's a nice name? Maybe people like both the names and know that middle names rarely get used so little point in having one, maybe it's a trend, not sure why it bothers you, you're not having to write it, unless you are also finding it too hard to have to say a hyphenated name.