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To have kicked him out

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cunningstunnt · 24/09/2017 06:03

I went out on a date with a guy, having slept with him (to my shame) on our first date. It went well, but I made it very clear he couldn't come back to mine for practical reasons. He then got quite offended and said that he thought I was 'dumping' him. I reassured him that no, it just wasn't practical. If he wanted, he could stay on our next date on Tuesday (although I was trying to take it slow).

Anyway, he insisted on 'accompanying' me home (half an hour on public transport) and stopping at a pub on the way back. Then when we left the pub, stopping for a few cans at the shop. Obviously you can put two and two together, with the drink we've ended up having sex. Half way through I've 'come to my senses' - this isn't what I wanted, isn't what I told him etc, and I've told him to leave. He's not happy and I feel tricked into having sex.

I don't want to see him again after this. AIBU?

OP posts:
carjacker1985 · 24/09/2017 20:43

He sounds manipulative and his reaction to you saying he couldn't come back with you would be enough to set alarm bells ringing with me.

You're entitled to stop sex at any point- I would not see him again.

AdalindSchade · 24/09/2017 21:07

Of course casual sex is amoral. It's morally neutral. If what you meant was immoral then no, it's really not

RickOShay · 25/09/2017 07:52

Yes astratty, of course you are allowed an opinion. But you
are judging, which is different. Perhaps look to yourself and wonder why this thread has provoked this reaction in you.
There really is nothing wrong in having sex, and if you think there is then honestly you are the one with the problem here.

PoorYorick · 25/09/2017 12:10

Nobody is denying your right to be wrong, ash. We're just trying to do you a favour by letting you know how wrong you are before you make an arsing great to of yourself somewhere where it matters. You're welcome.

Damnthatonestaken · 26/09/2017 13:06

I think astratatty might be a smidgen jealousGrin

PoorYorick · 26/09/2017 14:17

I gotta say, that attitude doesn't tend to come from people who are swinging from the chandeliers....

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