To think a single man travelling to Thailand regularly is up to no good

[Katyazamo]

My uncle (who I am not particularly close to) travels to Thailand alone several times a year. He is in his mid 50s and has lived with my grandad since divorcing his wife around 20 years ago.
It's suddenly occurred to me that he's probably up to no good :/
AIBU?

You're boring me now shark. This is circular.

Minimising sex crimes by men...check
Trying the “women to it too” card...check
Trying desperately to extract a few words from the thread to make another poster look like a raging sexist...check

It’s official - the internalised misogyny is strong in this one!

I would draw the same conclusions as the OP, FWIW.

@CherryChasingDotMuncher

That at me?

If so, an apology would be nice as I've done nothing of the sort.

One of my life rules. Never give serious attention to anyone who uses any expression like "fiddling kids".

Yes, it’s at you.
And you’ve done all those things. You’ve practically denied sex tourism exists at points.

And I am bollocks apologising, I don’t apologise for when I’m not wrong.

It’s a shame you’re more offended at slights towards you than you are at the actions of some men who travel to your beloved country of 4 years. I’d have thought hear kind of men would give you the rage.

I haven't ever said that women do it too and that it's okay.

I haven't minimised sex crimes.

I think that the rampant sexism and racism speaks for itself.

You've confused me with a different poster.

I take the lack of explanation as an apology.

Accepted.

Have a lovely Sunday.

Are you for fucking real?

Pardon me for leaving MN for 18 minutes to fix my kids’ dinner 😂😂😂

I’m not mistaking you for anyone else and don’t take my silence as anything other than me doing something else.

I do however think you need to get professional help. You’re very angry when people disagree with you, and you make things up on their behalf - such as an apology from me and embarrassment from Serf (who, despite your desperate attempts to make her look so, did not make a sexist remark).

I am no longer engaging with you as I don’t have time for apologists who, for some reason, refuse to accept male entitlement to sex, and the problems it creates for women, exists. I get why it makes people uncomfortable, but to deny it is absurd.

there are quite literally hundreds of international development agencies and international charities and international police agencies who are dealing with it

You're right, there are - though given reports that the problem's increasing and spreading, I have to wonder how good a job they're doing
www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2016/05/13/sex-tourism-expanded-into-new-destinations-thanks-to-cheap-fligh/

I definitely agree about speaking up and examining our own attitudes about the issue, though

You have your own issues to contend with. Good luck.

I hope you find companionship and a more moderate point of view.

You are clearly a little lost, unable to back up accusations and will retreat under your bridge until the next thread you feel like you can shit stir a little.

[biscuits]

😂😂😂😂
Ok, dear

Unbelievable that some people seem to think that sex tourism doesn’t exist. Those lovely men are going over in their droves for some lovely Pad Thai and us silly feminazis are blowing it out of proportion, trying to smear the name of good —perverts— men.

That kind of “of course it doesn’t happen like that” attitude has got us so far in the past, —Jimmy Saville— —catholic priests—

But I’m probably lost and just need a companion

I'd ignore sharksden for starters!

Yes I didn't realise how many single older men just loved Thai temples and were ardent fans of buddhism. Even though single older men are rare to see at these sights, and Thai bars in certain places are crawling with older men with very young attractive Thai girls and women, I am just imagining it all.

i dont recall a single person denying that some men go there for sex tourism

but the awful generalizations on this thread have led to the idea that every man going to thailand goes to have sex with children apparently

Who said that arawai?

"but the awful generalizations on this thread have led to the idea that every man going to thailand goes to have sex with children apparently"

Who said that?

I think most men going alone to Thailand several times a year ARE , as OP fears "up to no good".
Whether that's abusing children, or abusing adults who are selling themselves to feed their families. All of it=no good.

My friend's dh goes out to Thailand several times a year, on his own. She thinks it's for the food, beaches, culture.

The rest of us think she is very naive.

but the awful generalizations on this thread have led to the idea that every man going to thailand goes to have sex with children apparently

No, just the subset of men who go there regularly, and alone.

Yes, we are absolutely making assumptions and judgments about those men.

Not all men who go to Thailand. Wow.

Crikey. Who would think it was ok for their dh to head off on several solo tropical holidays a year, wherever in the world it was?

This has been thought provoking reading. I'd accepted some of it (the soapy massage parlour right outside our bangkok 5 star hotel) as being part of the culture, much like in Amsterdam. It's just grim though and I'm not sure now I've thought about it properly I'll ever want to go back.

what do you think he's doing out there?

My friend's dh goes out to Thailand several times a year, on his own. She thinks it's for the food, beaches, culture.

The rest of us think she is very naive.

My friend's sister's DH also does, and everyone thinks the same, too.

Would be nice to think it might be the same man (fewer punters), but unlikely