To think a single man travelling to Thailand regularly is up to no good

[Katyazamo]

My uncle (who I am not particularly close to) travels to Thailand alone several times a year. He is in his mid 50s and has lived with my grandad since divorcing his wife around 20 years ago.
It's suddenly occurred to me that he's probably up to no good :/
AIBU?

What about the women who aren't trafficked and it's still consensual? What about the women of legal age over there?

If you think these women are on par with the likes student escorts in the UK who charge £200ph then you’re sorely mistaken. Do a bit of research, these women have no other choice, for a multitude of reasons, and they may not be “trafficked” in the greater sense of the word but someone other than themselves is usually pulling the strings (almost always a man).

Sex obtained in exchange for money, IMO, is in no way consensual

An overweight unattractive man in the western world hasn't got a chance over here. Why not go to Thailand? If it's legal and consensual there is no problem. If women can be sex tourists then so can men

Men are not entitled to sex. Not even the fat ugly ones. Here’s a horrifying thought - they don’t have to get their dick wet 😵

How about, no one should be a sex tourist? BTW it’s not legal. It’s just massively swept under the carpet

* Actually its a thread about what men might, could possibly, maybe doing.*

Men are definitely buying sex in Thailand, with women and children. HTH

CherryChasingDotMuncher

How about, no one should be a sex tourist? BTW it’s not legal. It’s just massively swept under the carpet

This ^ is something that we should all be able to agree with.

And the link between men going to Thailand and exploiting young, poor girls and women going to Italy and having sex with waiters is?

CherryChasingDotMuncher

Men are definitely buying sex in Thailand, with women and children.

Yes they are, but are these men?
Or should we as suggested by a PP just stop all single men from travelling to sex tourist areas, just because of their sex?

(I took out HTH as it really doesn't help your argument)

YANBU! My OH's dad used to make trips to China for the same reason. The worst of it was that he'd come home and tell us stories from his trip. We don't see him anymore but he's gross. He once asked me, in front of my OH, if I ever wore my hair in pigtails!! 🤢

Women really need to stop going to Gambia to exploit those men. Women are not entitled to sex so they should stop doing it. It works both ways

So what are all these men doing there

Are the women hanging around just hoping and praying that they might coax them into parting with their money

Have these women and girls been fooled by fake stories of men buying sex

some men are

I wouldn´t change the Math teacher if you are happy with him. You know nothing about his private life, except that he has a girlfriend in Thailand that he is visiting for a few months. Is she Thai or a foreign worker? Is he supporting her or is she a working professional? How did they meet? Are they genuinely in love? What age difference is there? Unless you can answer these questions and have real insight into their relationship, then you are considering cancelling him as a tutor based only on assumptions and stereotypes.

* Yes they are, but are these men?*

Does it matter about pinpointing individual men? As a PP said, on the balance of probabilities, the bloke in the OP is likely a sex tourist

Gambia has a much bigger problems children being raped in exchange of money

By western men

* Women really need to stop going to Gambia to exploit those men. Women are not entitled to sex so they should stop doing it. It works both ways*

Hang on...I thought you were all for people getting sex if they couldn’t snag someone at home?!

BTW I agree it works both ways. What’s your point?

Boney back Usual insults? More an observation of the cognitive dissonance on this thread. Apparently accepting that Thai sex tourism is an issue and pointing out that it is mostly men that engage in it makes you a man hating feminazi.

Sorry about the bold fails everyone! Bloody app!

You know nothing about his private life, except that he has a girlfriend in Thailand

The word was partner, so it could be a boyfriend.

And the pp knows nothing. She's been told about a partner. She doesn't even know if he's really going to Thailand.

Have these women and girls been fooled by fake stories of men buying sex

Yes they have. It's very sad. Somebody needs to tell them the men are there for culture and food. :-(

It's also way easier for a woman to get sex in the western world so if men want to go to a place where it's easier then so be it

TheEgregiousPeach

It makes them idiots for posting rubbish.

Ive worked with quite a few men over the years who regularly visit Thailand. Most were single and never seen with any paetner in the uk. All had what would be considered "social issues" here. All admitted (not directly to me) that they were going there 2 or 3 times a year for easy sex with very young women. One said girls but he meant young ladyboys (colleage saw graphic pictures on his phone). One was married and went with his wife, telling us all that he would go out in the evening with her for dinner, take her back to the hotel and put her to bed (she wasnt very well) then go back out when she was asleep for "his fun". All these guys were seedy and most hated women over here (especially the divorced ones). This is very common amongst middle age men in the insustry i work in. Theyre open about it. YANBU and i would think your uncle was doing the same.

Yay for men buying women and girls and doing there bit in supporting the spread of std's

What does it matter they are sexual fulfilled

CherryChasingDotMuncher

Does it matter about pinpointing individual men?

For the sake of criminal proceedings and just not generalising, yes it matters.

As a PP said, on the balance of probabilities, the bloke in the OP is likely a sex tourist

According to some previous posters he is also likely to be a paedophile.

The sex trade in various countries around the world is insidious and needs stamping out.

Stopping people going to these countries to buy sex would be a start but there needs to be a whole dynamics shift within those countries as well before it can truly be stopped.

A single man making repeated trips to Thailand would make me think sex tourism. A friend of mine's DH used to travel to places like Thailand, Cambodia and Vietnam with his best mate once a year. He's an intelligent professional who loves travelling, adventure, food and culture and he could go on for hours about his trips, all very credible. I never questioned it until I got together with DP who said don't be so naive they are sex holidays. The stuff DF went onto uncover about what he got up to was just unbelievable, truly vile. She divorced him.

Some men are open about it from previous posters have said but my DF's exH denies it to this day and I never would have thought it about him. Don't be fooled!

I never questioned it until I got together with DP who said don't be so naive they are sex holidays

Yes as a PP said, men aren't usually so wide-eyed and outraged at the very idea.