To think a single man travelling to Thailand regularly is up to no good

[Katyazamo]

My uncle (who I am not particularly close to) travels to Thailand alone several times a year. He is in his mid 50s and has lived with my grandad since divorcing his wife around 20 years ago.
It's suddenly occurred to me that he's probably up to no good :/
AIBU?

Well this thread's given me some food for thought. At the beginning of this year i found an amazing maths tutor for my 15 year old daughter. In July he anounced that he was away for the whole of the summer as he was going to Thailand where he had a partner. I've been in the naive camp but now feel much less happy about leaving her alone with him. Would anyone consider looking for another tutor?

I would report him to the police. They can pass on his details

yeh, delusional.

If you want cheap, just go to a village in Almeria. Velez blanco. There you go. Cheap as chips.

*he was going to Thailand where he had a partner. I've been in the naive camp but now feel much less happy about leaving her alone with him. Would anyone consider looking for another tutor?

I would report him to the police. They can pass on his details*

what the actual fuck?

Lol. I find it gross that you are so sexist towards women and are trying to excuse bad behaviour of these horrible men, but there you go.

"LOL"? I think you need a life away from the keyboard.

I'm not excusing the bad behaviour of horrible men, just men who you have no idea have done anything wrong THE MAN IN THE OP.

My point is they’re happy to moan about being stereotyped but aren’t willing to be part of solving the problem that creates that stereotype.

Ah, in the same way you're racist and ignorant and simply call misogynist rather than consider the nastiness of your own bigotry.

Tell me, would you have this same conversation with a Thai?

But then again I never do expect men to actually tackle any issues WRT women. They just moan about them being the victims

How is this WRT women, if the being called out as perverts for visiting a country or being in a mixed marriage.

So, just to get this right, all men just moan about being victims?

Your mentality is frightening as is your ignorance and hatred. I guess that the only positive is that you're likely to have little interaction beyond message boards on the internet and so will have limited impact on the lives of others.

I would report him to the police. They can pass on his details

^ Report him to the police for what?

Singingtherapy. Yes I would.

Even if it's a girlfriend in the way that we would define girlfriend here too, he was a man with a career who was unable to form an equal relationship with a woman here. Many people aren't in relationships, but they might just get on with being single, but I think it demonstrates a mindset. That the reason one is single is because .......... British women are too opinionated, not keen enough to please their man, you can 'get' younger sweeter women abroad.
It's not the mindset of a man who understands that women are his equals and not there to service men.

Painfulpain

Pass on the details to whom? Thai authorities? So they can do what with them?

There have a register of every foreign national in the country and the domicile of any foreign national must be reported to the authorities. Hotels, guesthouses etc take copies of passports and fill in forms daily to submit to the police.

Singingtherapy

Because he went to Thailand on holiday? Yes. Find a new tutor. The guy's working for a nutter and deserves better clientele.

For suspected sex tourism;

www.reportchildsextourism.eu/

I would singing

fucking lol

man has partner- maybe male or female in another country so you should report him as being a pedophile based on what?

What's the big deal anyway? If a man wants to go Thailand and have sex, as long as the sex is legal and consensual, what is so wrong with that?

sharks the sex tourism “industry” is thriving in SE Asia. Because (mainly western) men are using it in their droves. It’s fair to assume that a middle aged single man who frequents Thailand several times a year is going for sex. That’s not sexism, it’s common sense. Not sure how I can make this clearer?

And yes I would have a conversation with the husband of a Thai woman about sex trafficking. Nice try on the racist accusation though, would love to see any racism in this thread ?

* How is this WRT women, if the being called out as perverts for visiting a country or being in a mixed marriage*

How isnt sex tourism regarding women?! I’m fine at your shock that I would prioritise vulnerable sex tourism victims over the privileged men visiting the country (no matter what they’re visiting for). Men don’t like being stereotyped at being sex tourists apparently, but they don’t actually seem to give a shit or do anything about the victims of sex tourism. It’s all about poor them and what people assume about them. Cry me a river!

And yawn at the NAMALT. Not all men, but Too many men are sex tourists. Men are the problem here. Why does pointing that out offend you?

* I guess that the only positive is that you're likely to have little interaction beyond message boards on the internet and so will have limited impact on the lives of others.*

Yes, I don’t talk to humans IRL thank god sorry but what kind of negative impact do you think will come from being appalled at men who rape prostitutes and children? Heaven forbid anyone challenge these disgusting men and their abhorrent behaviour.

I only hope your minimisation of predatory men and their actions doesn’t translate and impact anyone IRL. That is often why people get away with these crimes - because people like you turn a blind eye and cry NAMALT

And yawn at the NAMALT. Not all men, but Too many men are sex tourists. Men are the problem here. Why does pointing that out offend you?

I'll just leave this here

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_sex_tourism

* What's the big deal anyway? If a man wants to go Thailand and have sex, as long as the sex is legal and consensual, what is so wrong with that?*

Yeah, bollocks to the trafficked women and children, or even those who aren’t trafficked who are so impoverished they have no choice but to sell their bodies to fat ugly old men using them in whichever way they see fit.

Nothing legal and consensual about it.

I’ll say it again - this thread is depressing. The fact that so many put the fantasies of creepy men and their ‘right’ to sex, above that of the lives and safety of women and children - is depressing.

YANBU- it's a bit obvious when single men go to Thailand on their own. Especially those over 40

I don't think he's a paedophile. I do think he's quite possibly a man who, unable to sustain a conventional relationship with a woman in his home country, has solved the problem by regularly travelling to an area where sex tourism is rife to pay for sex. And it makes me feel uncomfortable about leaving my 15 year old daughter alone with him. Does that really make me a nutter?

gotspoiler

You will either get ignored or flamed for that.

much Kudos though.

got ah the age old “women do it too” argument, so it’s fine for men to do it?

Put your MRA handbook down and start a thread about female sex tourism if it bothers you. This thread is about what men do.

singing I wouldn’t assume he’s a paedophile and I wouldn’t call the police as someone suggested but I wouldn’t have him tutoring my child either. I think it’s safe to make an assumption that all is not kosher in that relationship with his ‘girlfriend’. And if you’re wrong, then meh - get another tutor, he’ll find another client I’m sure

What about the women who aren't trafficked and it's still consensual? What about the women of legal age over there?

An overweight unattractive man in the western world hasn't got a chance over here. Why not go to Thailand? If it's legal and consensual there is no problem. If women can be sex tourists then so can men

Of course men go to Thailand for sex.
I once met a woman through a friend of mine who's ex h had appeared on a to documentary about this very issue.
When the reporter spoke to the young Thai woman she said she despised the 'fat, old white man,' she was frolicking around in the pool with.
These men go because they are paying so the women will do exactly as they say.

'Man hating feminazi'
Bingo!
We've had 'they had to exploitmarry Thai brides 'cos British women were too nasty/ picky
We've had 'well women do it too' and we've had 'well they're not all underage' because clearly that makes prostitution acceptable.
I think that's a full house

CherryChasingDotMuncher

Actually its a thread about what men might, could possibly, maybe doing.

TheEgregiousPeach
I think that's a full house

Are you also including "MRA" in your bingo?

You might as well include all of the usual insults.