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To ask what things do people do in your home that annoy you?

163 replies

Penguinonesie · 20/09/2017 12:48

I'll start; we do not wear shoes in our house, that means they get taken off at the door, none of this "can I just pop to the toilet?" Business, no bloody take them off!!
Please do not let drop horrendous gut farts in the bloody hallway so that every time I move from one room to the other I want to vomit.
And please stop touching stuff when you haven't washed your hands!!
Please note I am OCD diagnosed.
Oh, and talking to me when I am in another room to you, I cannot hear you!
I wish people would respect the way that our home is, if you don't like it then don't come over.

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Aquamarine1029 · 21/09/2017 00:04

Twice, my MIL has used my private bathroom which is only accessible by going through my bedroom, even though the other bathrooms were available. I know she only did it to snoop about. I admit, it seriously pissed me off. My husband set her straight, thank god.

HappenedForAReisling · 21/09/2017 01:57

My Dad rinses his mug then dries it and puts it away. I have to stop myself from yelling "Either wash it properly or put it in the dishwasher, but don't rinse it and consider it clean!"

IlPorcupinoNilSodomyEst · 21/09/2017 08:40

@DeadDoorpost I knew I was right - I do it the same way! Then hair bubbles are working while I wash the rest of me. Very efficient!

maddiemookins16mum · 21/09/2017 09:04

Not rinsing the bath when finished (DD)
Feeding the cat by simply adding another pouch to the dirty plate already there (DP)
Not filling up the sugar or tea bag cannisters so I always find an ounce of sugar in the bottom and ALWAYS have to top it up (both of above scoundrels)

And the worst....

Drinking milk straight from the container.....yes DP, I suspect you still do it - use a glass fgs.

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Penguinonesie · 21/09/2017 09:13

Yes Happened why do people do that?? Wash it properly or leave it and I'll do it

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Pinkshowerpuff · 21/09/2017 09:31

I can't stand it when people curl the edge of my rug with their feet or tuck their feet under it.

Asking for WiFi password too.

ChristmasFluff · 21/09/2017 09:37

I was reading this congratulating myself on how tolerant I am - would prefer people removed their shoes, but not bothered enough to ask them to for example. Then someone mentioned milk. I hate it when people upset my milk rotation. We usually have a few pints of milk in the fridge, and I use them in a specific order - when one is used, they all shuffle 'up' a place, and new ones 'go to the back' (these are positions in the fridge door). Sometimes, if there's no unopened bottle, someone will use the 'wrong' one. I hate it. I've been known to shout, 'NO!'

sandgrown · 21/09/2017 10:06

Gosh Littlebitshort I would be scared to come to your house. DP' s ex had lots of rules and his family said they always felt uncomfortable. DP had a major culture shock when he met me! I feel pleased when people say how comfortable they feel in my home .

Didntcomeheretofuckspiders · 21/09/2017 10:12

Turns out I'm super laid back... the only thing that bothers me is if someone touches or moves our bikes. HTB'a racing bike cost more than my car and you wouldn't just start fiddling with someone's car without asking!

YoungBritishPissArtist · 21/09/2017 10:45

I’d say I’m pretty tolerant. The only thing I can think of that really pissed me of was someone (new friend and first time visitor) vaping without asking me Angry

alohaimnew · 21/09/2017 10:51

Urghh - my husband has this habit of taking one sock off in the bedroom and leaving the other one on and taking it off in another part of the house - i used to hunt for them but now have just given up and have a 'save our socks' box where one sock remains till i find/wash the other side. He also has a habit of leaving things on top of the dishwasher instead of putting it directly inside it - no clue why. bizarre man.

alohaimnew · 21/09/2017 10:53

I have a wierd thing myself about how the butter is taken off the block so its all not messy - maybe im a bit wierd myself. Grin

StigmaStyle · 21/09/2017 11:10

I can't stand it when people curl the edge of my rug with their feet or tuck their feet under it.

Urgh yes! My DC do this and I nag them about it. Then if a guest does it I feel less able to say anything so then I feel like a hypocrite!

One family friend does it and also fiddles with anything he can reach with his feet. One time there was a toy truck on the rug and he was just flipping it about and turning it over and over with his feet. I had to leave the room before I got up and grabbed his feet off it.

Cath2907 · 21/09/2017 11:19

Nothing really. The only people invited are family and close friends. I don't have many rules. Shoes on or off I don't care, I am happy to make you a cup of tea. One friend once arrived with a poor LO who had had an accident on the way, she bathed him and I washed his dirty clothes and he had an hours run round in my daughter's onsie whilst we waited for the tumble drier.
I like my guests to feel comfortable. There are no piles of paperwork for them to dig through and they'd be too well mannered anyway! The only out of bounds space is the office and that is really only because it's a tip. The door is closed, no adult has ever tried to get in there and if I ask the kids not to because they'll get attacked by my ancient fally over hoover if they aren't careful they normally respect my wishes.

Would be VERY uncomfortable in a lot of your houses.

phoenix1973 · 21/09/2017 12:20

Cluttering. Mind you, having visited oh childhood home its not difficult to see where it comes from.
No food or drink upstairs. Except me. Im allowed drinks as i remove the cup the same day. Oh leaves it festering with mould which i refuse to move. Dirty git.
Dd is filthy with used sanpro.im forever telling her to roll it wrap it bin it. I detest the sight of used sanpro sunny side up on the bathroom floor. I have more periods than her but nobody else sees it!
I hate the cat going upstairs and onto any of our pillows. Im allergic and it causes me more problems.
I should live on my own really 😂

Minesril · 21/09/2017 12:25

My cups and glasses are stored in the cupboard the right way up. You can see they are the right way up. So why do you put them there upside down??? In fact just leave the fucking washing up!!!!!

MaddieElla · 21/09/2017 12:31

When a certain member of my family brings their dog round and it pisses and shits in my kitchen at a family party with 30 people. It's a year old so should be house trained but normally it lives in a garden...so why bring it in my house to shit? Angry

Bambamber · 21/09/2017 12:41

I hate it when people bring their kids but nothing to entertain them. So I have to dig out extra toys but my DC is a lot younger so the toys I have don't entertain the kids for long, but I'm made to feel it's my responsibility to entertain them because they're at my house!

Oh and when people crack open food for said kids to eat, which is fine if they actually sat down to eat, rather than leaving a trail of soggy half eaten food around the whole house.

Oh and when people just wander round the house when everyone else is sat having a chat. And they openly admit they're just having a nosy

Hazysummerevenings · 21/09/2017 12:48

SIL, who has barely said two words to me in the 6 years I've been with DH, inviting herself to stay for 5 days, three times a year Angry

Ignores me in my own home for the duration of her stays (literally won't even say hello some times upon arrival) and then proceeds to trash the house, make the whole stay ALL about her and her DCs and expects DH to run around after her, tending to her and her DCs every need (she has a husband that could do things for her but she leaves him behind Hmm ) Then leaves the house a tip and tootles off home again Hmm

Other than that, people taking it upon themselves to rearrange things, the guests we had recently who didn't get up til 11.30 each day which meant we didn't leave the house until 1 and the 'days out' planned were cut extremely short. Oh and not taking shoes off.

Apart from that, all's fine GrinWink

stevie69 · 21/09/2017 12:55

Nothing: I don't let anyone in the house: it's my space Blush

TabbyMumz · 21/09/2017 13:06

Why do people say no shoes in the house, I've always found that strange. I don't understand why people want to embarrass their guests by making them sit their showing their feet to the world.

Want2bSupermum · 21/09/2017 13:17

We live 3000 mikes from family. When they visit it's for an extended period of time. My dad is great. Will throw dinner on, it's not the best food but I applaud the effort and I'm ok with a couple of basic meals (drives DH batty). He will also do laundry, which he is great at, and does all the ironing.

My PIL however are a different type of guest. They expect a full sit down two or three course dinner every night cooked by DH. I've been told I'm terrible at cooking. I'm not a bad cook and have actually won cooking competitions that DH entered and changed his mind so I did the cooking and won the bloody thing. Every light in the house is left on. The fan is left on in the bathroom. I come home and my house is like blackpool illuminations.

The worst with my MIL is that the house my be boiling hot. This means she plays around with the thermostat. Either way we end up with a huge bill. One visit cost us $500.

Want2bSupermum · 21/09/2017 13:17

My mother is banned from visiting. She is the worst guest!!!!

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Penguinonesie · 21/09/2017 14:06

Tabby my son plays with his toys on the floor. Shoes go outside where people spit, dogs/cats/foxes shit and piss. I don't want him playing with his toys in that and then running them along the table, putting his fingers in his mouth etc.

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LetMeChangeYourSocks · 21/09/2017 14:11

My sister only drinks out of a wine glass, just squash as well, she doesn't even drink!

Winds me up no end and I don't know why.

I try to hide them but she always manages to find them Angry