To ask what things do people do in your home that annoy you?

[Penguinonesie]

I'll start; we do not wear shoes in our house, that means they get taken off at the door, none of this "can I just pop to the toilet?" Business, no bloody take them off!!
Please do not let drop horrendous gut farts in the bloody hallway so that every time I move from one room to the other I want to vomit.
And please stop touching stuff when you haven't washed your hands!!
Please note I am OCD diagnosed.
Oh, and talking to me when I am in another room to you, I cannot hear you!
I wish people would respect the way that our home is, if you don't like it then don't come over.

Not scraping plates and just stacking them on the side with food in them - like a big plate sandwich.
Not cleaning toilet bowl after messy use.
Leaving wet towels over the top of the bedroom door.
Putting recycling in the kitchen bin.
Stacking dishes/pans in the washing up bowl so that I have to take them all out to fill the bowl up with water.
Buttering toast on the work surface instead of putting it on a plate.
Leaving clothes to be washed wherever you take them off around the house.

my father in law lights up a cigerette everytime he is in my house and when challanged about it he says he doesnt give a shit and that passive smoking never did anyone any harm in his day.

People who find reasons to disappear off in the house. i.e even when you have a downstairs loo, they'll go to the one upstairs in your bathroom. Probably just to have a nosy at how tidy your bedrooms are or what toiletries you use.

I actually do do this in people's houses, but not because I want to look around, but because bathrooms are bigger and nicer and I want to be further away from other people when I am using the toilet.

Probably a bit weird on reflection.

Give the dog snacks.
Let their feral kids run free.

I am with you OP. not diagnosed, but probably could be... or nearly anyway.

Yes to people looking in the window instead of knocking on the door. Everyone does that here! Not sure why!

Every single one of DD's friends has picked up the newtons cradle and tangled up the string. Every one of them

Fresh - That's appalling. I would be telling your FIL that if he doesn't respect you and your house then he is no longer welcome.

StarHeartDiamond I have a friend who will look for any excuse to go upstairs. Instead of using the downstairs toilet, she went upstairs to the main bathroom as the light wasn't working. It was 5 in the afternoon! It's just to compare how clean and tidy my house is compared to hers have a nosy, but I'd rather she just ask!

Erm excuse me StarHeartDiamond my name is Little BIT But i guess i do have a little but

BIL not taking his eyes from his ipad the entire time. Then finding afterwards he facebooked what a lovely time he was having with family

Visiting when you know we are just about to eat you know exactly what time we eat at then saying pathetically to dcs oh look auntie rivers is just putting out something yummy we have to go now, you're so hungry aren't you

Wow! What a welcoming lot you are 😂
I couldn't be doing with all these rules and regulations at home. I like people to relax, feel at home and enjoy. My only 'rule' is making people comfortable and being a good host really...

Leaving lights on
Toilet seat up/drawers cupboards open
Not replacing loo rolls
Not buying/helping towards toiletries
Not clearing up after themselves
Doing no housework/prompting every week and getting a snotty response. Then when they do it it's 25% done. So I do 100%+ the following week.
Not clearing up spillages when they make them
No thought about maintenance/DIY
Taking up storage space when they clearly stated they didn't need any
Leaving shoes on the floor
Socks everywhere
Not helping put away clothes & towels

Trying to "help" and do the dishes / tidy up and then wanting all kinds of hand holding when they can't work out where anything goes. Just LEAVE IT

My sister makes herself endless cups of tea then leaves the mugs all over the house - anywhere at all, balanced on a pile of clothes, on the toilet cistern, on the floor, all over the place. Drives me nuts.

Kids' friends who get all the toys out, just for the sake of it, instead of playing with something properly. Gah.

If you're invited round for a cuppa I expect you to drink it! Not leave it half drunk so that (from a seated position) I can't see that it's not empty and slosh cold tea on the floor/table

Wtf? So you want people to drink more than they want to, just to please you?

I don't have any rules for guests.

• Turning up unannounced. If I don't know you're coming, the door isn't getting opened!
• Not taking off shoes
• FIL wanting to go outside to smoke then come back in stinking. We're a no smoking household, if you want to smoke then go home (and yes, I do say this not just sit there glowering)

-Putting hot drinks down within reach of toddler when I've asked them to use the corner table out of reach (yes FIL I'm talking about you again!)

Other than that I'm not fussed.

Not closing the stair gate
Leaving shoes on
Making comments about me making a cup of tea (my DM does this). You've been a regular visitor for 12 years, put the fucking kettle on yourself
Not closing the front door properly ie till it clicks. We've got a stray cat around here and he brings in mice!

Oh god yes to putting their own music on. Yes maybe if you have been invited to do that, or you're staying for a week, but don't just stroll in and do it! Friend's husband used to do this, was v glad when they divorced.

Going upstairs without asking. To be fair it's a friend's dog who does this rather than a person but it frays my nerves somewhat. And people who ask for a "quick guided tour." Errrm no. My space.

I love people turning up unexpectedly!

When DH yells something to me, I tell him I can't get him, so he yells it again
if I didn't hear you the first time I won't hear you the second time you dozy fool

People who read your calendar or cards that are pout for special occassion. Yes Mother, I am looking at YOU!

Not a regular occurrence but had a friend round with her 10mo last week. 10mo dropped off my friend proceeded to tell my 2yo to be quiet on several occasions.

2yo was being uncharateristically well behaved and it fucked me off that someone was being quite terse with my baby in her house.

In the end I took toddler upstairs to play and told friend to see herself out (play date was almost over. I didn't throw friend on the street!)

Wanting something and wafting around mournfully instead of just telling me. Don't pathetically hint after a second cuppa, ask for one!

'Helping' with housework (unless they're visiting for more than one day in which case a bit of washing up is appreciated). I have one particular friend who comes for coffee and starts folding laundry or organising the bloody spice rack. Put it fucking down. My house is clean but often fairly cluttered - come round if you're relaxed about the clutter or don't if you're not, but don't come into my home and be weird about the fact that there's clean laundry on top of the dryer.