AIBU to meet Beautiful Boyfriend From Yesteryear on a work trip?

[stealtheatingtunnocks]

In the Olden Days I lived abroad in an Exotic Place and had a very happy relationship with a beautiful example of masculinity for about 18 months.

I have been married for 17 years to a lovely bloke, have three kids and a suburban life. Usual complaints and worries, but, in essence, all is well.

I am going back to Exotic Place with work for 18 days, 3 of which will be where Beautiful Boyfriend lives. A bit of FB stalking, a friend request, a nice FB catch up, very friendly and nothing inappropriate.

He's about an hour and half from where I'm working. WIBU to arrange to meet him for coffee, in the afternoon for a "hiya, nice to see you're doing well?"

Or, is that a TERRIBLE idea?

Votes:

You sound like you're bored in your marriage & want to shag the ex.

I think go, like you say ask him to bring his DP and you take a work mate.

Enjoy.

Have a good old reminisce about when you were 21 and life was fun.

*Comedyboobs

You sound like you're bored in your marriage & want to shag the ex.*

Yep.

Do people actually start affairs like this?

Me, him and the work bloke used to have a great time, we were all young and fun, a great big group of us with no responsibilities and disposable income in a beautiful place. Was a very happy time of life.

But, now, well, yeah, I probably am a bit bored in our marriage - but, isn't that normal? Isn't it normal to be happy with "content"? DH and I are plodding along, managing to bring up 3 kids, both busy with work, nice house, annual holiday, love each other, but, yes, things are a bit mundane.

That's what happens when you're middle aged, though. Things get a bit mundane. I don't mind mundane. I am too old and too fat and too content to risk our mundane for drama.

This bloke is my happy daydream, that's for sure. Doesn't mean I'd shag him. Don't suppose his partner would be too happy about it anyway, we'd probably wobble the cafe table enough to spill her latte.

Yeah, I'm going to see if he'd meet up. Bet you all a wax job and a new pair of knickers that he will.

Oh! So you ARE on the wind up?

On about new knickers and wax jobs and all that. Unfortunately I think you'll be successful in causing some upset.

It's a terrible idea.

But I'd do it anyway.

Don't suppose his partner would be too happy about it anyway, we'd probably wobble the cafe table enough to spill her latte.

I had a coffee with an ex a few weeks ago. Our paths sort of crossed work wise. He looked like Tony Hadley in his youth. He's now lost his hair, has a sort of spring onion effect going on with what's left, and I am 4 stone heavier. Nice to catch up, but no lust.

Ask your husband how he'd feel about it.

Telling her Husband about it is meaningless unless he knows that she's still thinking of him as a sex machine to this day. She won't.

It's a shitty idea and if he knew how she felt and how she's talking about it she would be out on her arse and rightly so.

Flip the places and ask yourself the same question.

Spot on with the mundanity. Middle-aged respectability is so wearing.

For all of you huffers and frothers, it's not as if a shag or indeed affair would be logistically possible anyway. It's a daytime coffee, not an exotic evening in a fabulous moonlit location accompanied by delicious cocktails.

There is no pointn. He turns up still a beautiful specimen of masculinity and what

.....OR he is pudgy, red eyed, sweaty stressed out geser who has been mugged of all beauty and exotic and memory is crushed. Keep the memory alive on your head and loins only. Facestalk away but keep it as your secret fantasy life

Anyone else thinking of the truly dreadful Sex and the City second movie where Carrie catches up with Aidan in Dubai?
Coffee is fine, keeping it secret from your dh is not.

MI - they could always relive their youth by having a shag in the car, round the back of the restaurant by the nuns though.

Nuns?! Bins!!!

Poor old nuns!

at shagging by the nuns.

Shagging by the nuns

Speak for yourself op. I'm middle aged, as is dp, been together decades, 3 dcs and it's very much not mundane. Life's what you make it and were still giddy, it just takes effort from both sides. Perhaps your DH is bored too and will make the most of you being out of the country.

I'm dreadfully ungiddy (which I autocorrected to ungodly). Life's not 'what you make it' in the sense of new and exciting experiences if you are elbow-deep in respectable monogamy and thrifty breadwinning.

I'd give bin-shagging a miss, though.

motherinferior

I am dreadfully ungodly too.

Go for it. Why does everyone assume that a woman can't keep her pants on when meeting an ex? I've met up with an ex before and it was all very straight but so lovely. We laughed, reminisced and then said our goodbyes and oddly I never felt the need to contact with him again. It was like the comforting closure I think I'd needed 10 years prior.

If it will be good for your soul, do it.

I'm too curious to not meet up with him. Yes, it will no doubt ruin all my delicious daydreams, but, I'd very much to hear how he and his family are doing. He's a genuinely nice bloke, I'd hope to hear that life has been good to him.

I'm very, very boring and conformist. I think that if I had adulterous tendencies then I'd have discovered them by now.

DH doesn't understand why I'd want to meet up with an old boyfriend, but, doesn't have an opinion one way or the other. He's not the jealous type, has no need to be.

Unless my head gets turned by a nun, of course.

I'd go and hopefully have a good natter.

Admittedly it'd make me think about how to breathe some life back into my marriage (a thought I have about twice a year anyway...).