I think DP should be sperm donor

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Just watched a heartbreaking documentary on same sex couples trying to find sperm donors and I thought why doesn't DP do it? Not he old fashioned way but the in a cup job. We have two children and he is slim, dark, athletic (ish) so I think there would be a few who wouldn't mind him be the genetic basis for their children. Am I strange to think he should do this? Not for financial reasons, just because it helps people.

Yes. Quite apart from anything else, Because you have no guarantee if you don't do it regulated that they won't come after him for support money after the fact.

You do realise that children born from donors have the right to the details of their genetic parents when they turn 18?

How would your children feel that they have half siblings that they'll struggle to meet?

Your DHs details will be kept on file, for the children to be given when they are Adults.

It is great if someone wants to do this, egg donation especially, but there are things to think about and this idea hasn't come from him.

Seriously?!

Why don't you donate your eggs instead?

This is quite a big deal though. It needs serious thought.

The children of sperm donors have the right to seek out their father when they are adults.

How would you feel about a teenager turning up on your doorstep wanting a relationship with his/her father.

What if they hadn't been brought up in a happy home? How would your DH feel about that?
What if they'd been brought up with views you abhor e.g. If they were racist or sexist?

What if they needed money or a kidney?

Creating a child comes with serious responsibilities and consequences even if you don't plan to raise them yourself.

I just asked my wife if she'd mind if I became a sperm donor, I won't bother typing her response because it was literally a barrage of swear words

Well it's not your sperm or your body so what you think "he should be" doesn't really matter does it?

Also if HE decides he would want to do it, giving someone a cup of cum isn't really the way to go about it.

Yes I think you are being strange.

Why don't you donate your eggs instead of wanting to milk your dp like a cow he can give other people babies?

I don't think this kind of thing is something that someone should ever ask another person to do. He should decide that he would like to be a sperm donor for himself and of his own free will, or not at all.

When someone asked my husband he said no, he was worried they wouldn't bring his child up how he would want it brought up.

Do you often find yourself being controlling about other people's bodily fluids and genetic material?

As long as you don't mind him suggesting you dish your eggs out to anyone who wants them.

Yeah, you're definitely strange. It's his body and his choice.

What an odd post.

His sperm his rulz hun.

Or you could be a surrogate

Why have you decided your Do should do it rather than your father or brother or cousin or work colleague? Do you think you have some kind of ownership of your DPs sperm?

very kind of you Donating someone else's biological material... and not your own OP .. what does your DH think of fathering other people's children ? or does he not have a say ?

What's it got to do with you? It's his sperm

Yes, you are definitely strange for thinking this. Mainly because it's not up to you?!

I haven't mentioned it to him yet. It's just a thought and I wondered if you had ever thought about donating eggs/sperm and what your OH's thoughts were. I've thought about being a surrogate but don't know what the dc would make of it. I'd be happy to for a friend or family member.
I think I would be ok with the children finding us when they were older. I didn't meet my biological father till I was 13 so I know how it feels to want to find out which genes you get from which parent and why you are like you are. I wouldn't get jealous as I'd be aware that they existed.

Why don't you donate your eggs then?

I thought about donating eggs and DH said he wasn't comfortable with it so it went no further. DH cannot donate his non existent sperm but I am not sure how I would feel if he did and a child was born from that.

Obviously it's his choice.

I do think there is a difference between donating eggs and donating sperm - the former is much, much more risky and intrusive than the latter.

Our daughter was born because someone donated sperm, and I feel hugely grateful to that person. We know, because he said, that he donated because his wife had fertility treatment. So donating will, hopefully, have made their treatment more affordable. But I still think it was a lovely thing to do and he wrote a really thoughtful message about it. Not everyone automatically thinks it'd be terrible to be contacted by adult children in this situation, clearly.

I know none of this detracts at all from the fact that it's the DP's body and it is a little odd of the OP to think it's in any way her business. But some of the responses here made me think about it.