Lock up and go out.

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Nc for this one which will may stick
sil and her kids coming to visit and said she will be here for 11am. So I cooked 2 different meals and have been up since 9 getting housework done.

It's now past 1pm no sign of them and no call either to say they will be late.
Now aibu to just lock up and go out, it's such a lovely day and I promised I will take the kids to the farm later and I still need to get my shopping for the weekend.
I have text but no reply as of yet. That was an hour ago.

Send another text saying you've got to go out. Then go.
Is she coming from far away? Could it be bad traffic and she can't answer her phone?

Unless there's a massive emergency I wouldn't turn up 1.5 hours late somewhere! I would also ring if I was more then ten minutes late.

Yes me too. It's just rude to keep someone waiting this long.
She lives approx 4 miles away.

Go out and text her where you're going to be. if she's driving and you're only 4 miles away then it won't take long for her to join you.

Text her that you are going out now, and hope to see her next time she's free.
This is your children's weekend that she's spoiled, as well as being rude to you.

I would text saying I presume since you are now 2 and a half hours late you are not coming, so I'm going out now.

Go out. Being that late without contacting you is rude. Even if she forgot her phone she is bound to pass a service station/hotel/phone box. Sorry but I have little patience for people who are late.

as existential said.

Just check you've got the right day (speaking from experience 🙈)

Yes I would definitely go out. That's a ridiculous amount of time to be late by with no explanation.

My cousin pulled that shit on me once. Was supposed to be coming over for lunch and turned up an hour and a half late because they'd stopped at McDonald's for lunch on the way. I was raging.

My in-laws did the same, Tidy. Set off in the morning, due to reach us by around 1 p.m., we had lunch prepared - meats, cheese, crusty bread, salad etc. They rocked up just after 4, having stopped along the way for a very leisurely lunch. Pissed off doesn't begin to describe it.

Why do some people think their time is more precious than yours.

Oh I am fuming! She's not coming! Only took her 2 ignored texts and a phone call to tell not me but dh. 😡

I had pasta for kids and toppings cooked ready to go on pizzas and steak and chips for the adults. Now I'm annoyed at Dh and told him not to expect me to stay in next time for them, I know it's not his fault but Arghhhh.

I could not take that lying down. It's incredibly rude and thoughtless. And I would send a text to that effect. She's deliberately kept you hanging. She's knows she's in the wrong or she would have contacted you and not your DH.

I wouldn't put yourself out for them ever again.

That's horrendous OP what is the matter with some people where they think other people's lives and time are of no importance.

I'd never ever cook for her again and never stay in waiting, if she turns up in future at a convenient time that your in anyway great, but otherwise stuff her 😡

What a rude bitch. Am cross on your behalf OP

This world is full of selfish, arrogant me me me people. How would anyone think that this is acceptable to do this to someone. Awful. Everyone seems to know their rights these days but no one knows responsibility. Poor you OP. You be put in a lot of effort and money.

DH seems to think he should go drop off food for them so it doesn't go to waste. I hate to waste food but OVER MY DEAD BODY

Don't be ridiculous! Eat it yourself even if you have steak two days running!

You'd actually cooked steak, chips and pasta before people arrived?

Your DH is a dick. As is your SIL. But your DH is more of a dick - send the food over, is he a loon????

Drop off food to them! Fuck. That.

Not a hope

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I'd be telling DH if he heads over there with the food he ought to take a suitcase and sleeping bag with him

She's a total rude bitch - I agree with others people who think their time and their choices are above the time and feelings of others are the worst

Theresnonamesleft- well yeah, I was expecting them so wanted food to be ready. Steak was still cooking and was ready for 1. Why wouldn't I have it ready for lunch time??