Live with my boyfriend have done for a year now. He moved in with me and my family, we have a small room to ourselves with sink fridge amicrowave oven tv and sofa. it's tiny and really more inconvenient to use. Then we share a bedroom which up untill a year ago had 22 years of my stuff. I really struggle with change and tidiness. He knew I was a messy person before he moved in a fully warned him. I said I was willing to make a change. A year on I've chucked out so much stuff I no longer needed had a few massive tidy ups. I've tried to keep on top of it but with work my nan passing away and my slight laziness it's always last on my list after work. I do all the cleaning though I Hoover wash up replace toilet roll cook dinner and do the food shop. I don't mind doing all of that as I work less than him and he pays more rent earns more and I'm
Home in winter at 4. We want to buy a house next march but I don't want to unless we actually start having sex it happens so little I've tried everything. Every time I mention sex he jokes when it's tidy you can have sex like I'm some kind of child. Before all of this he was always to tired for sex. We have no space for anything wardrobe is full so I have baskets of cloths around the place with no place to go I keep washing them hanging what I can up and then it all haveing to be folded and left in the basket again. Aibu to give him the ultimatum or am I being unfair with my mess. Would renting a proper flat or house for 6 months as a tester work as an idea