To feel at times that I live on an entirely different planet to other MNers?

[RozDoyle]

I'm not criticising. This place is great. I have had some amazingly advice and support from people here and it's brilliant. But sometimes i feel like I live in a completely different world to a lot of posters here. I probably won't articulate this very well but I'm going to have a bash.

Examples:

• little boys in dresses/the whole "gender neutral" thing. Literally all the parents I know irl just dress their kids in clothes typical to their sex i.e. Boys wear "boys clothes" and girls wear "girls clothes" and nothing is ever said about it. I have never seen a little boy in a dress, for example, because they'd likely be told not to wear a dress in case they were teased. Sad, but true..

• parents who cook every single meal from scratch. Always mega healthy and nutritious, and talk about it like it's the norm. In my world, most parents work and are simply too busy to cook from scratch every night (or too tired). No one "batch cooks" at the weekend. Its just whatever they can chuck in the oven after a hard day.

• how quick people are to shout "LTB". Now I should emphasise that I am not talking about cases of violence, cheating etc. But things like, a husband not pulling his weight around the house. In my experience, most people can't, and don't want to, leave their husbands, to whom they have children, for issues such as that. It's an extreme solution and it makes me wonder if these same people would really walk out of their marriage over such trivial matters.

I'm sure I have loads more examples but I can't think of them right now. Just wondered if anyone else feels this way?

I am often suprised by just how openly rude some people are to each other on here. The thread that sticks in my mind was one where the OP said her DS was being bullied at school because of a mispronouncement of his name. One person replied "what awful name did you saddle him with"?
And the woman who was hurt because her friends didn't ask after her baby was called 'tedious'.
I know this is an anonymous site, but still!

The ones where SAHMs are allowed to go to the gym, see friends for coffee, go shopping or watch Netflix all day, but a SAHD should get out, get a job and stop being a leech to his poor hardworking wife are my favourites.

I don't know anyone IRL who has a Ptolemy/Persephone/Isambard/Maud. Lots of threads with "there are 6 DC with that name in dc's class".

I'd like to know what you're feeding the kids every night if you don't cook from scratch and don't batch cook?

You honestly can't think what people eat if they don't cook from scratch?

I'm on a different 'clean' planet to a lot on here. Can't believe those people who are constantly washing towels, or who give their kids clean pyjamas every night.

As for the person who couldn't possibly share a towel with her Dh, because it'd have his dead skin cells on it... How do such people ever manage to have sex? Do they go over their dhs' bits with Dettol and a Brillo pad first? How do they ever come to terms with changing thousands of pooey nappies?

it's the stealth boasts on here I secretly love

"ds will only eat fruit, hummus and chicken, should I be worried?"

"ds is 15 and has never been inside a McDonald's"

"ds is asking for GTA, all his friends have it, but I refuse to let him have it"

I love these sorts of threads, dont know why, they always make me smile

I love all the 'holier than thous' who pretend to never have a bad word to say about anyone, and who live lives of perfect harmony and loveliness to all they meet, but are utter bastards to anyone who dares to say anything, no matter how mild or justified, about someone else.

I got totally and utterly flamed once for calling someone 'golden balls', and received such nasty abuse that I cried to the Samaritans later that night.

@wiltingfast

I'd like to know what you're feeding the kids every night if you don't cook from scratch and don't batch cook? Is there a way out if this relentless chore?!!!

Here you go hun. THIS lot should stop the tedious chore of having to cook form scratch and 'batch cook.'

groceries.morrisons.com/webshop/category/Frozen-Ready-Meals/105651-104162-159048

www.sainsburys.co.uk/shop/gb/groceries/chilled-/ready-meals--

groceries.asda.com/aisle/ready-meals-soup/ready-meals/_/111784

www.tesco.com/groceries/product/browse/default.aspx?N=4294779107&Ne=4294793660

There are also a number of take aways and chip shops on the high street. Also McDonalds, Burger King, and KFC, and Nando's. And many more........

There's a whole world of 'not cooking from scratch' out there.

You're welcome.

I cook most days. I batch cook

I don't know any gender neutralised children.

Yes ssd I especially love the drink restrictions There was a thread about friends on holiday and one mother said her 12 and 8 year old could either have a coke or a pudding. Doesn't she realise that the 12 year old will be mainlining fizzy drinks during school hours.

I find the expectation that everyone should be able to drive unless they have some medical issue that means they can't. Seriously,some people have just never done it. It doesn't make them less of a person or inferior in some way. It IS possible to live an enjoyable life with having a driving licence!

I also find that there seems to be a lot of 'excusing' people for sitting in priority seats on public transport,as they just might have an invisible disability. Yes,I totally get that,I really do. But as a disabled person myself,I do find it a little hard to believe that every single seemingly able-bodied person taking up a priority seat on the bus has a hidden disability. Especially when I'm forced to stand,then a couple of minutes later witness one of these people offering their seat to someone they deem more deserving than me!

My favourites are "I'm upset because DD is 15 years old and is having sex regularly with a friend." and mumsnetters are like "leave her alone I've been having sex in the park since I was 12" followed by others at least 10 mumsnetters confirming they were also having sex since 12, 13 years old.

DD(12) goes to the chippy.
Every night.
She's had her own tab there since she was 6.
Christmas I heat up a frozen pizza. Angel Delight for pudding. Organic, of course.

Or all Mils are narcs and the dils are the angel gabriel.

The competitive cleanliness is baffling, also the extremes of clean and not clean there doesn't seem to be a middle ground which is where I expect the overwhelming majority of people are.

Although judging by some of the responses to the threads about cats and dogs messing in houses some posters houses must smell dreadful. In some posters eyes a dog or cat must be kept no matter what they do or the impact they have on the family or other animals.

stevie do you mean she has a 'chippy tea'?
Lots of people have odd names for their food on here.

There is a good deal of nastiness directed towards Xenia but in reality she is just saying what others like her think. I also respect the fact she has managed to provide for five DC and survived being passed over for partner. As someone who left big4 I've seen a fair few people put over a decade into their career and be passed over. They leave big4 for private taking a substantial pay cut. Most don't recover. Xenia left and set up on her own. She made it work earning almost as much as she would have done if she had made partner.

What I love on Mn is the thought that returning to work before your child turns 1 is almost a form of child abuse. I know I'm not very important to my employer. If I want to keep my career I need to take a short leave so I'm not passed over. It's ok to be a parent and have a career if that's what you want. I think it's better than the attitude that men must provide.

Oh yes the odd names. My favourite is the 'picky tea' of 'picky' bits (quotes compulsory). I think its things like hummus, pittas, cheese, ham, crisps, dips etc. I've never heard anyone IRL say those words.

Random adorning of every meal in sight with cucumber. Stealth boasting about fruit and veg consumption. DCs who don't know what McDonalds is or if they do, they only ever have a Happy Meal of fish fingers, carrot sticks and water.

Has no-one mentioned toilet angst, especially workman using a toilet angst yet? People who can seemingly never use another toilet except their own and expect that no-one outside their immediate family ever uses theirs.

Really , because I'm with the other people on here who have said they'd leave a large majority of the "DHs" on here in a heartbeat.

I actually find extremes on mumsnet..it's like there is no in between or moderation. I mean I'm American so moderation isn't my strong suite but theres quite polarizing views on here where it's all or nothing

I'm a bit late to this thread but I'm also amazed by how everyone on here seems to be a highly paid professional with glittering careers, seems to have a cleaner and batch cooks. I have never met anyone on here who works as a production op in a local factory (me) or who works in a supermarket as a bog standard shop assistant (dp)

I get the impression that such low paid unskilled jobs like this are sneered at on mn

Live and let live springs to mind...

I thought a chippy tea was tea bought from a fish and chip shop. That's what it's called where I live

lets not forget that other MN rule, when a child, usually male, turns 18, they wake up on that day a fully formed adult with all the sense and experience of a 40 year old and anyone who doesn't is totally vilified

"my son (18) needs a lift home in the dead of night from the roughest part of town, there's no public transport, what should I do?"

"jesus christ my 7 year old regularly hitchhikes back from there"

Why is it ridiculous to just call a jumper a jumper or trousers trousers -why do they have to be gendered?