I have endometriosis as well as other conditions and I'm in pain every day and my periods are horrific. The first day of each period is always the worst. Last month, I got really upset with him because I was sat there in tears due to the pain and he literally didn't acknowledge it. He did all the practical things (sorting out the twins etc) but the fact that he could let me sit there in so much pain and not even acknowledge it really hurt me. I told him this and he said he thought I wouldn't want to dwell on it - I said I would never let him sit there in pain and not mention it, he said he understood.
Cut to today, next period day 1 and it's literally the worst pain I've had for over a decade. I've taken all the morphine I can and it's still making me cry out, been contemplating a trip to hospital but fortunately it has now calmed down. He's been to the supermarket and played with the twins since I can't move, but again he hasn't acknowledged it, mentioned it, asked if I'm okay etc. I know the practical help is most important but honestly it makes it feel like he just doesn't care. I know that's not true but it still really hurts. There's no one else I can talk to about it and just because I've had it for years doesn't mean I don't struggle with it emotionally.
AIBU? Especially as we only talked about this a few weeks ago? He is a great husband and father and he generally isn't a cold person but to me this feels really heartless.