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to think that my ex colleague is being a cheeky fucker?

143 replies

Iris65 · 04/09/2017 19:50

Short version I was made redundant mainly due to my ex colleague refusing to share our workload more equitably - she would have stayed fulltime I would have reduced hours to 0.25. Instead she took on the whole of my role when she could easily have carried on with what she had.
I got an email from her today (four months after my redundancy notice) asking for information which will take several hours for me to put together and that she could have asked for when I was still employed!
AIBU to feel that she is being a right cheeky and insensitve cow?

OP posts:
BoneyBackJefferson · 05/09/2017 07:09

There is no need for OP to get embroiled in a drama over it. Short term might feel great to '`get your own back" but overall better to remain professional.

IMO the OP sending an email stating that she no longer works for them isn't what you have posted. It is a statement of fact.

OliviaStabler · 05/09/2017 07:12

As tempting as some of these replies are, I'd completely ignore the email. Just don't engage full stop.

jacks11 · 05/09/2017 07:48

Boney

I agree- which is why I suggested writing a polite reply stating as she no longer worked for the company, she would be unavailable to provide any help. Absolutely reasonable, professional and would be difficult for anyone to take issue with. As I said in my post.

I was referring to some of the posters suggesting OP "try to get her into trouble" or replying rudely (and copying in HR/management to that unprofessional response) was entering into unnecessary drama. I don't think OP suggested doing it. Perhaps my meaning unclear.

Paddington68 · 05/09/2017 07:51

Let her know your day rate as a Consultant.

DropZoneOne · 05/09/2017 07:55

Just delete the email. She'll figure it out eventually and you'll retain your dignity.

InvisibleKittenAttack · 05/09/2017 07:56

I would be careful being too obviously petty, you don't know who she knows at other companies you'd like to work for in the future. How about replying, ccing in manager or HR with

"Hello CF, lovely to hear from you, hope everyone at xxxx company is well. I no longer work for xxxx company so won't be able to help you with this. Regards op"

Doesn't sound nasty but you have highlighted to management she's contacted you and what you replied.

ChristopherWren · 05/09/2017 07:58

I agree with Invisiblekitten. Remain professional.

echt · 05/09/2017 08:03

Several posters have mentioned the need for caution because of a future reference. When I left the UK for Australia, I ensured I had a testimonial from my last employer to take with me, one I got see beforehand.

This was because I did not trust them to sit on a toilet the right way round, but there you go.

I hope you did this before you left, OP.

Gooseberrytart4 · 05/09/2017 08:25

Reply to the email copying in the management. Stating you are willing to find the information needed but as it will take a number of hours, you will need to be paid a days salery.

InvisibleKittenAttack · 05/09/2017 08:31

It's not just formal referencing you need to worry about - it's the informal ones. I left my last company several years ago after having dc2, but last year I was talking to another parent who asked me if I worked with xxx person when I worked at abc company, and what did I think of him, because he'd just applied to join her team, and she wanted an informal reference.

Gooseberrytart4 · 05/09/2017 08:33

I like the above copying in the manager ..

Hello. Nice to hear from you. Hope everyone at xx is doing well. I'm no longer working at xx and so can't really do this. If essential, you could always contract me for one days work as quite a few hours are involved in completing the task. Kind regards.

senua · 05/09/2017 08:36

Write a really rude, spiteful e-mail. Get it out of your system.
Then delete it.

Then write a professional e-mail (including the text of her original e-mail), blind copied to her manager, HR and all her colleagues.
I feel that you should make reference to the fact that she needs to ask for help four months (because management won't remember) after you left.

senua · 05/09/2017 08:40

Don'y mention how many hours it will take - it then makes it A Difficult Task and makes it look more reasonable for CF to ask for help. You want to imply that any fool would know the answer or where to find it.
Mention the hourly rate but not the hours. Apart from anything else, what happens if you quote 10 hours and then it takes 30?Shock

greendale17 · 05/09/2017 08:43

Reply, copying in her manager and HR, stating that you no longer work for xx company and you do not appreciate being asked to do her job for her in light of this. However, should the company wish to enter negotiations for your return you would be willing to consider this with a 20% payrise and some extra holiday days.

^Love this. Definitely do this email

livefornaps · 05/09/2017 08:47

Great suggestions! You hold all the power OP, so play it cool, you will be the bigger person. I agree: remain professional & detached. She is looking for you to crumple. Personally, I think you're well out of it and if you were to do the work even for a fee you'd end up getting embroiled in company drama again. Better to stay safe and politely say no thank you (and copy in hr and management)

PrincessWonderRabbit · 05/09/2017 08:51

Oh please send the seperate emails as above.Grin cheeky fucker

RozDoyle · 05/09/2017 09:01

Please don't send her your rates or an invoice. Cringe.

Just email her back, copy in her manager, and tell her you don't work there any more.
Or just ignore it. No obligation to reply at all.

OuaisMaisBon · 05/09/2017 09:03

If you do decide to reply, I would do what senua suggested. It also highlights that this is something your former colleague should have asked you about before you left, during a proper handover period, so she is being unprofessional in more ways than one. Only I'm not sure if I would BCC the reply to other relevant people at the company; I think I would just copy them in so your former colleague could see it and couldn't accuse you of being underhand in your dealings with her.

OuaisMaisBon · 05/09/2017 09:10

Sorry, I meant this suggestion by senua :
"Write a really rude, spiteful e-mail. Get it out of your system. Then delete it.

Then write a professional e-mail (including the text of her original e-mail), blind copied to her manager, HR and all her colleagues. I feel that you should make reference to the fact that she needs to ask for help four months (because management won't remember) after you left."

I wouldn't offer to do the work for a fee, though, I'd just be as polite and professional as possible saying no, maybe wondering why she didn't ask you before you left four months ago.

m4rdybum · 05/09/2017 09:13

Some people Shock

Definitely email her back and emphatically, but professionally, state you no longer work there, so will be unable to help with her workload. Then tell her to go fuck herself

Dadstheworld · 05/09/2017 09:23

A similar situation happened with me. I was TUPE'd and made redundant after we a lost contract. This contract was only around 50% of work. but the company I worked for threw me to the wolves. After my garden leave I was bombarded with requests to come back as the other 50% of my work was an emerging business which I'd been part of set up. I had found other work and politely declined.

SapphireStrange · 05/09/2017 09:27

Tell her she can fuck off. Copy it to HR and her manager.

AmIAWeed · 05/09/2017 09:27

It may be worth forwarding the email to HR and a Manager, do not CC her in.
Say you have been asked by X to do some work, and whilst you'd be delighted to undertake some consultancy work as you haven't yet found employment you need to ensure there is no conflict of interest within your redundancy package that would prevent you from working for them again.
This means that:
1 If she does walk they know you are available
2 She thinks you've ignored her - Management know you have not
3 If you're made redundant it's because the job no longer exists. They could be breaching employment law if they hire you back as a consultant as you could argue the job still exists.

InvisibleKittenAttack · 05/09/2017 09:30

Don't offer to do the work for a fee. Don't suggest they rehire you. Don't give any reference to how long you think this would take.

Do cc manager/HR. If your ex-colleague wants to tell her manager she can't get the work done in the time available, then they might have to think of solutions, including getting someone in to do the work, you would be the obvious candidate, and they may well contact you, then you get to be the hero or 'busy'.

troodiedoo · 05/09/2017 09:33

Definitely do what AmIAWeed just said. Genius.