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to think that my ex colleague is being a cheeky fucker?

143 replies

Iris65 · 04/09/2017 19:50

Short version I was made redundant mainly due to my ex colleague refusing to share our workload more equitably - she would have stayed fulltime I would have reduced hours to 0.25. Instead she took on the whole of my role when she could easily have carried on with what she had.
I got an email from her today (four months after my redundancy notice) asking for information which will take several hours for me to put together and that she could have asked for when I was still employed!
AIBU to feel that she is being a right cheeky and insensitve cow?

OP posts:
Agerbilatemycardigan · 04/09/2017 21:28

Charge her a consultancy fee

BakedBeans47 · 04/09/2017 21:29

Tell her to fuck off.

LespritDescalier · 04/09/2017 21:31

Don't .d.o it.

But that's not why you were made redundant.

Iris65 · 04/09/2017 21:32

What do you mean that's not why I was made redundant?

OP posts:
LespritDescalier · 04/09/2017 21:35

I mean it's not her fault, she didn't steal your work. If there is only enough work for one, the company made you redundant, she didn't do it.

StealthPolarBear · 04/09/2017 21:36

So she's effectively doing 1.25?

PrincessLeia80 · 04/09/2017 21:37

Tell her to go f* herself or charge her the going rate for consultation plus a little extra! I'd forward her email to your former boss too, but don't go back to work for them.

ToadsforJustice · 04/09/2017 21:38

Just because I'm a right caaa, I would probably reply with duff information.

TheLegendOfBeans · 04/09/2017 21:39

By the way; if you were to do this, she'd ask you again.

And again.

And again.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 04/09/2017 21:40

I like the invoice idea

'Thanks for the work request ! As I have been made redundant some extra money would be useful . Can you advise who has requested I perform xxx hours of support and the rate and PO number for invoicing . Thanks Ellen !

JakeBallardswife · 04/09/2017 21:47

Lots of good suggestions above, you owe her nothing.

Hope you find something else suitable soon. Or explore your consultancy rates...!

BlackForestCake · 04/09/2017 21:48

Definitely offer to do the work for a huge fee. Do not say anything about needing extra cash – you are doing them a big favour and your time is valuable.

I have done this several times for former workplaces and charged a day rate almost as much as my previous weekly pay.

scrabbler3 · 04/09/2017 21:49

Politely reply that it's nice to hear from her and you would be happy to consult, for an upfront fee of £x (make this a sensible amount for your industry so that you don't look puerile).

Copy in the manager (who probably doesn't know that she's come grovelling to you lol).

Or say, "lol fuck off" as a pp said!

One or the other. Definitely don't help for free. Don't come across as bitter or passive-aggressive either, unless you want to be pitied.

InvisibleCities · 04/09/2017 21:53

I like the idea of being a bit passive-aggressive and copying your old boss in on her email with your reply. Go with glens idea!

Shestolethewitchesredshoes · 04/09/2017 21:54

I'd go with Glens response but as follows:

'Hi Cf', thanks for getting touch. Just a friendly reminder that I am no longer employed by 'CF Company'. However I'm more than happy to help if required. Please have HR / Management get in touch with me to discuss payment for the work you require'
Send that to her as a PM. Don't CC anyone in. See how she reacts.

Though make sure you send a second separatel email to management forwarding on CF Email.

'HI CF company, was lovely to hear from CF colleague today asking for assistance CF info and CF tasks. Just a friendly reminder that you made me redundant on CF date. If you do require assistance, I am more than happy to help though I fully expect to be paid for my time. Please do call me on NUMBER to discuss this.

My guess is CF colleague hasn't told management she is contacting you as she intending to bask in all the glory with no mention of your name. Don't help her. Don't tip her off that you're dropping her in it. Just send your emails sit back and wait.

I reckon it might be gross misconduct to ask former or non-employed individuals to do the work for her. I wonder how HR will view this?

Iris65 · 04/09/2017 21:54

I mean it's not her fault, she didn't steal your work. If there is only enough work for one, the company made you redundant, she didn't do it.
That's actually not what happened. There was enough work for 1.25 and she decided that she wanted my 0.25 instead of keeping her workload. Effectively she gave up 0.25 of her original role because she preferred my role!

OP posts:
Iris65 · 04/09/2017 21:59

Those replies to HR or senior managers are great by the way. Just have to get my nerve up - I'm hopeless at game playing and always assume others mean well and will do the right thing - which is partly how I ended up redundant!
Months before she told me that she was retiring or going part time so I shouldn't worry about my role. Then behind my back she negotiated with senior managers and I was presented with a fait accompli. Easier to dump me then deal with a disgruntled fulltime member of staff who had wanted my role for a longtime.

OP posts:
LespritDescalier · 04/09/2017 22:00

She couldn't decide any such thing. Blame your management, not your colleague.

Merida83 · 04/09/2017 22:01

Yeah no way in hell should you do anything at all for her!
If you do reply to her (which I personally wouldn't cos she's not worth it) tell her not your job not your problem!

Sophiealice95 · 04/09/2017 22:02

If she did that then yadnbu OP . Tell her to go to glory fuck off

Primrose06 · 04/09/2017 22:03

Send a friendly reply telling hèr that you no longer work there and to contact her boss or head of department.

Evewasinnocent · 04/09/2017 22:08

What @ Shestole said!

InvisibleCities · 04/09/2017 22:10

Then you definitely need to deliver a parting shot OP!

As glen said, but with a line along the lines of "I cannot continue to do x's work for her..." Let them know they fucked up.

Supermagicsmile · 04/09/2017 22:13

Don't do it!

Theresnonamesleft · 04/09/2017 22:18

I would just email back -
Hi, you have sent this email to me by mistake. This needs to be done by someone who is employed by your company.