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to think that my ex colleague is being a cheeky fucker?

143 replies

Iris65 · 04/09/2017 19:50

Short version I was made redundant mainly due to my ex colleague refusing to share our workload more equitably - she would have stayed fulltime I would have reduced hours to 0.25. Instead she took on the whole of my role when she could easily have carried on with what she had.
I got an email from her today (four months after my redundancy notice) asking for information which will take several hours for me to put together and that she could have asked for when I was still employed!
AIBU to feel that she is being a right cheeky and insensitve cow?

OP posts:
Middleoftheroad · 04/09/2017 20:18

I had a former colleague ring me up for info after I had been pushed out (it was my file of info that I had compiled over years and made sure I took with me).

I took great pleasure in saying I didn't know where the file was!

icelollycraving · 04/09/2017 20:18

Totally what Glen said.
I'm quite brutal about money where work is concerned. Why on earth would you help her? What, like she did you?! Fuck that shit.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 04/09/2017 20:20

Do what Glen said...

Reply, copying in her manager and HR, stating that you no longer work for xx company and you do not appreciate being asked to do her job for her in light of this. However, should the company wish to enter negotiations for your return you would be willing to consider this with a 20% payrise and some extra holiday days

If you have time/will. If not copy in the others & say something like 'You wanted my job, you took on more than you could manage just to elbow me out. You have more front than Macy's asking me to do your job for you now.'

QueenLaBeefah · 04/09/2017 20:22

I would completely ignore the email. This is no longer your problem - let her and the company work it out.

MsPavlichenko · 04/09/2017 20:23

I'd send a short, sharp but polite reply reminding her that you are no longer employed there. Then block her. I might copy in manager.

Pigflewpast · 04/09/2017 20:24

Reply, copying in her manager and HR, stating that you no longer work for xx company and you do not appreciate being asked to do her job for her in light of this.

This but not the second bit I haven't copied which sounds like you're desperate for your job back. Just this bit is highlighting to manager and HR that's she's asking you to do her job, without sounding bitter

AdmiralJaneway · 04/09/2017 20:25

I have a slightly similar problem in that I left my job for one higher up in a different organisation within the NHS and my replacement often asks me for certain details. Nothing huge just finicky details but it's very annoying but as I'm still within the region and will work on a collegiate basis with her, I don't want to be rude. Hopefully she will settle eventually.

Unless you plan to work there again or have a connection somehow then there's no reason you should put yourself out. (As a pp said - what email?!)

BlondeB83 · 04/09/2017 20:25

Ignore her!

kittybiscuits · 04/09/2017 20:26

The reason I would ignore is that I would enjoy knowing that she was waiting and wondering if you'd received her email and would be replying...

DrHorribletookmycherry · 04/09/2017 20:26

Copy back to manager and HR asking if this is a formal request and should you send a schedule of fees to them or finance.

Maelstrop · 04/09/2017 20:30

What Glen said, but I'd add in a bit about ' I am unwilling to continue to do her work for her as I did when employed' just to really be nasty.

I'd probably just ignore her, tbh.

Fatguy · 04/09/2017 20:36

I was a key holder of a warehouse which I then got made redundant from. A few month after I left I got a call from the alarm monitoring company to say the fire alarm had gone off. I told them I hope the fucking place burns down.

Seniorcitizen1 · 04/09/2017 20:36

She's using you as a consultant so charge her as such. My rate is £900 per day or part thereof - that should end the emails

lookingbeyond40 · 04/09/2017 20:39

Dear god no!! I wouldn't even do it for a fee! Let her struggle. Cheeky mare.

MotherOfDragons22 · 04/09/2017 20:39

I'd reply 'lol fuck off' but I'm quite childish Grin

expatinscotland · 04/09/2017 20:43

PLEASE don't help her! Fuck her off. I'd send Glen's email but without any offers to do the work or return to the job. Fuck them. 'I am no longer employed there. Please discontinue contacting me regarding work-related matters. Thank you.' Make sure her initial email is included so they can see her trying it on. She's a CF.

ChasedByBees · 04/09/2017 20:48

Absolutely don't help. I wouldn't even help for a fee. Let her get stuck.

Katescurios · 04/09/2017 20:50

She is being cheeky, how to respond would depend on your current situation. Are you looking for work? Would you want to go back to the company even on a short term basis if the opportunity arose? Is the work she is asking for something she or someone else could do with a little effort on their part or does it exclusively require your expertise? Do you want to get her in trouble?

If you wouldnt want to work for them, don't want to get her in trouble and they could potentially do the work themselves then I'd just ignore it.

If you want the work, are happy getting her in trouble and they need you because otherwise they wouldnt get the work done, then I'd write up a sensible proposal for completing the work and proving handover, cost it at a reasonabl e consultant fee, and pitch it to HR and senior management.

Mittens1969 · 04/09/2017 20:50

Of course it's not on!! Just send her an email, copying in HR and your former manager, reminding them that you're no longer employed by the company.

I like the idea of a consultancy fee, though, I wouldn't dare personally but it's a fun thought. Grin

AuldHeathen · 04/09/2017 20:51

A polite 'No, that's your job now', then block her email and number. You owe her nothing, OP.

LouHotel · 04/09/2017 20:56

Please OP dont cave on this just cause your a nice person.

CF's need to get their comeuppance sometimes. I would reply with HR copied in but something along the lines of 'it is inapropriate to contact me regarding work issues since my redunancy, if you continue to persist i will take it further'

TheLegendOfBeans · 04/09/2017 21:01

I did this once as a "favour" for a "friend".

Got some of the info wrong and a few things ended up going to shit because of the duff info I'd sent.

The shit that I got from aforementioned colleague and aforementioned manager who basically told me to stay the fuck away from anything to do with my former role, colleagues anything.

It still stings to this day. But my former manager was totally right and I was wrong to "help" and assume certain things that were no longer valid.

Take heed OP; your former colleague isn't just a CF but one that could put you in a position of damaging you professionally.

PollyFlint · 04/09/2017 21:04

I agree with those who suggested you reply to her and copy in your manager and HR. The absolute fucking brass neck of some people really winds me up.

cailisto · 04/09/2017 21:07

Do what Glen said (but miss out the return to work but unless you'd like to go back). What a cheeky cow!!

AdoraBell · 04/09/2017 21:25

Do what Glen suggested, I would also leave out the idea of them paying you, unless you want to work as a consultant of course.