Should I confront work mate over £50 ticket?

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Work mate booked tickets to a festival for us last month and I transferred over money to cover cost of ticket and half of postage/ packaging fee totalling £51. I caught sick big earlier in the week and messaged her to say I probably won't make it but if she knows someone who wants the ticket then great, let me know.

Next day she contacts me saying her skint mate is going with her. Has enough money for travel and drinks on the day but can't offer anything for ticket. She assumed that was ok with me and hoped I felt better soon.

I replied saying I'm skint too and that if she couldn't sell it on then I'd sell it to someone or my husband would go in my place. Apologised if she got wrong end of the stick and that I was hoping to sell it on, not give it away to a stranger for free.

She replied saying I should be greatful she found someone last minute to take the ticket and that it wouldn't be wasted now. She said tell me your bank details now and she'd give me £20 for it. It was very abrupt and I didn't want to sell it for£20. DH said he would rather go than waste £30 for nothing. I agreed as if I felt better I could still go.

I asked for the ticket back, or full payment for it. Haven't heard from her since. She's reading her WhatsApp messages but ignoring me. Gig gates opened a few hours ago. I have no ticket or money back!!

WIBU to ask her for the money in full at work next week? Should I wait and see if she offers me anything for it (the £20 I declined) I understand that selling gig tickets close to the day is tough and unlikely to get full price for it but I'm genuinely pissed off that she's blanked me an ignoring me. She's got £50 of my money and has refused to hand over my ticket so DH or I can go.

I hate arguing or any kind of conflict but she gave my ticket away for free without checking with me and has ignored my requests for it back/ payment. WIBU to confront her at work next week?

What would judge rinder say?

Unfortunate misunderstanding, hopefully you can salvage the £20 now.

We were offered a last minute ticket. No mention of the cost. Our first comment was, "Great, how much will we owe you?"

I think it's taking the piss to offer someone's£50 ticket put without clarifying if they want money for it, even with the original message OP sent.

If someone offered me a ticket that cost £50 originally, I'd ask how much they wanted for it - why on earth would you assume it was free? People don't usually give expensive presents to total strangers do they ?

You buy a ticket to an event, you can't make it, you sell it on.
If you have something that belongs to someone else and they ask for it back, you give it to them, you don't hang on to it and use it when they've told you that isn't Ok with them.

Obviously you're in the right in that in the end you made it clear you wanted it returned but morally I think you're on very thin ice. She could have had to go entirely on her own to this festival, a situation you would have left her in. She probably had to offer it for free to make sure she didn't go alone and then, after you were clearer later, she would have had to let someone else down - again that would have been on you. I guess when you said you would go after all she could have told her friend under those circumstances but the last minute friend might have already bought train tickets, and to be honest, in those circumstances, I would have been uncomfortable going with you after that. I know it sucks that you would have lost the money but these things happen. Take the £20 if it's offered but her night was probably dampened through the stress and hassle of all this anyway.

Op, if it was Liverpool Fusion festival then they were selling the tickets on Groupon earlier this week. I think they were reduced to £33.

For all you know she may have sold the ticket and kept the money.

yabu. you should feel bad about letting your friend down (not your fault you are ill but unfortunate for friend to miss out) and be glad friend can still attend.

Taking the ticket back means friend has to miss it or go alone. There would be limit to who she would want/be available to go. Really selfish of you.

If I was your colleague I would have done the same - she arranged to go with you as she knew you, she didn't want to go with a stranger.

Your message said if she knew someone that wants the ticket then great not someone that wants to buy the ticket.

And unless she knew your husband well, why would she want to go with him.

You told her probably. So she's basically sold something that wasn't hers, and you asked to give you your ticket which you had paid for. If I put it like that, you can see she's refused to give you either money or ticket. I don't know what you used to transfer the money but I'd look into getting it back! Point out that you asked for the ticket you paid for and she basically refused.

Point out that you asked for the ticket you paid for and she basically refused

Because the OP had asked her if she knew anybody who wanted the ticket and the friend did know somebody who would use the ticket and had already promised it to that person.
How was the friend supposed to know OP wanted money for it?
OP didn't say that initially. It was a huge misunderstanding and none of it was the friend's fault. I'm moderately advanced in years and have had a couple of occasions when illness (or somebody else's illness) has struck and I've been unable to attend theatres or shows I have tickets for. I've rung a couple of friends to see if they can use them last minute so they don't get wasted (cos venues will NOT give you the money back) I certainly wouldn't ring and ask a friend to buy them from me. That would be a tacky thing to do. A friend may offer a token amount for the tickets but I would refuse.
Some may differ. We all have different manners and ideas of right and wrong.

I suspect the problem here is that the OP's versus her friend's idea of what was happening here were wildly different. And once friend had offered the third person the ticket, in all innocence, she found herself in a big pile of poo of the OPs making because OP decided if she couldn't have the money then she wanted the ticket back whether or not she could use it. If I was the friend in this scenario I would give her the £50 and write it and OP off as a bad job.

If it was me I would let it go but her response or lack of is a bit unreasonable.
You probably should have been clearer if you wanted it sold.

I've lost a few hundred pounds when I couldn't go on holiday but had already booked flights and accommodation. Person I was meant to be going with got a seat next to him free on the plane and payed for accomadation.

The way I look at it it was money already spent/lost and I've saved money by not going.

I think it is unfortunate you were ill at short notice, but these things happen and usually result in a financial loss. Expecting to get the full amount of the ticket back wasn't realistic.
You say you can't afford to lose the money, but TBH, if you had been you would have had to spend money whilst there and overall it would have cost more. What you really mean is that you feel aggrieved at spending £50 on something you didn't get to enjoy - that is just a consequence of illness.
I think the fact you were offered £20 was okay given the short notice and that it wasn't unreasonable for friend to want to go with someone she knew.

Have you sent lots of texts and messages about this? Has this all caused lots of bad feeling.

I would leave it now and tomorrow I would text and say you hope she and friend really enjoyed it and you were really sorry to miss out. Be light hearted and say it's just one of those things, but you're glad that she said she would give you £20 as it doesn't feel like quite such a loss then - and that you really appreciate it.

If after this, the money isn't forthcoming quickly, I really think you should just leave it. You cannot force the money from her and you are not entitled to it - she never said she would buy the ticket from you.

At this point, try to move on emotionally from this, to avoid feeling stressed. If you get £20 see it as a bonus and if you don't, just see it all as a shame you were ill.

YABU

She owes you £50. Not her friend.who gives gif tickets away free? It was your ticket and she had no right to with hold it from you. I would expect the full £50. She should of returned it to you

the OP being ILL is irrelevant.. she bought a Ticket for £50 and the Ticket legally belongs to the OP.. nobody else...

the Co-worker has no right to be under selling the Ticket to anybody... but she has .. so she therefore owes the OP £50 regardless of how much she undersold it for.... or the circumstances...