To be Upset my family forgot my birthday...again.

[SerenityMom]

Today is my birthday and I turned 54. My kids and husband forgot my birthday. This is not the first time. Every year I tell myself to not get upset and play the poor me's but here I go again. They finally remembered and tried to pull together a cake but I stopped them and said not to bother. I actually feel worse pretending it is is a great birthday. Why do I feel like this. I wish I could handle it better, and perhaps drop some hints ( I have done that in the past) that the date is coming. This year I did not have the energy to plan my own party and drop hints them pretend to be surprised. My husband makes me feel like a big nuisance and actually gets mad at me for making him feel bad he forgot. God I sound so awful. Happy !!@@### Birthday!

Happy birthday

Next year organise your own birthday party complete with balloons, music, cake and invite everyone. No one will then ever forget your special day again. Vow every year you will have a party or special dinner. Don't rely on them again to make you feel special, you can do this yourself.

Side note: are they always this selfish??
If they are, I would wonder off for the weekend next year with some girlfriends and don't even bother telling them. They need a good kick up the

Your DH sounds quite unkind and uncaring

This thread is a year old! I really hope SerenityMom is in a happier place for her 55th birthday tomorrow x

I was hoping this thread had been resurrected by Serenity coming to tell us how her birthday has gone this year.

Happybirthday - a bit late.

Tell them you are taking them to Kingdom Hall, if they don''t want to celebrate birthdays then they may as well start the process to become JW.

Actually if you know any JW's they would probably join in.

I was hoping OP had LTB.

Elisalex you would be better off starting your own thread as this one is a year old and everyone is just replying to the OP. Have you spoken to your DH and family to tell them how hurt and disappointed you are?

OP I hope you have a better birthday this year!

I can't believe how much it hurts when your family forget your bday...this is not the first time at all
I too wish I handled it better and so did my husband the fact I was upset was a complete inconvenience to him he was angry at me for being upset
I feel worthless and like all the effort I have made over the last 36 years was wasted on ungrateful people
I dont want a present all I wanted was a hug and a wish of a happy day from my husband and children at the start of the day
instead I ended up being this falling to pieces crying mess yep that's the way to spend your bday
so disrespectful.....

I know this is an old thread but the OP resonated with me. My birthday has just passed. My family didn’t forget, they said ‘happy birthday’ in the morning but that was it. They just didn’t bother doing anything else. After years of disappointment I’ve set the bar low. I don’t want lots of presents just a card, homemade is fine, and an acknowledgement of my existence and that those closest to me can take 5 minutes out of their day to think of someone else who does so much for them. But even then they still couldn’t be arsed making an effort. I tell them that it’s selfish and I feel hurt and it happens again. I’m at a loss as to how not to feel so hurt by it. It’s like shouting into a void 😔

Do you do anything for their birthdays? If so, stop whatever you do and see if they like being overlooked.

Belated birthday wishes to you.

Yes. Teenage kids but there are always presents bought, birthday cake. I did point out to them to consider how they’d feel if nowt happened on their birthdays. DH has always been crap and still uses that as an excuse. He doesn’t seem to care about presents or birthdays. Buys himself what he wants whenever he wants. Like I said, I don’t actually want anything other than a bit of kindness and consideration. He’s promised it’ll never happen again. It’s no wonder the kids are like they are when that’s the example set to them.