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To be upset with my sisters txt

150 replies

Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 13:03

So my sister invited me and my OH over to her house yesterday. I ignored the txt because I was tired and couldn't be bothered.

Today I just saw a txt from her saying 'I suppose that means your not coming over' This was sent last night at 9pm.

Not sure how to reply - I have turned her down in the past but I'm really miffed with her reply.

OP posts:

Mittens1969 · 27/08/2017 17:37

No, not strange for the OP, we're the ones who are strange for actually having feelings that can be hurt.

CoughLaughFart · 27/08/2017 17:38

Having now read the office thread, I think I can detect a certain scent in the air...

Papafran · 27/08/2017 17:39

Yes, silly us. Maybe we are all 'pussys and flapperjacks' like her colleague.

susurration · 27/08/2017 17:55

Are you one of those people who 'says it like it is?' and doesn't really give a shit about anyone else?

You are being incredibly rude to your Sister. Leaving it another day sending a response like that is just you trying to make it look like she is in the wrong and the mad/rude one. Bloody gaslighting! how horrible you are.

Sequence · 27/08/2017 18:33

jay55 · 27/08/2017 19:37

A same day invitation is rude. So I'm on the fence.

MyOtherProfile · 27/08/2017 19:38

A same day invitation is rude. So I'm on the fence.
From one sister to another? Not on the same level as not bothering to reply. This isn't the royal family.

KurriKurri · 27/08/2017 19:50

A same day invitation is rude. - Where? On Planet Ten Years Notice ?
Of course it's not rude, don't be so bizarre.

melj1213 · 27/08/2017 20:44

A same day invitation is rude. So I'm on the fence.

How is it rude to issue a casual invite that says "Hey, you free this evening? Wanna come over for dinner/drinks?"?!

What is rude is to ignore a message because you "can't be bothered" (rather than texting back "Sorry not in the mood tonight, but thanks for the invite") and then get pissy because the person dared call out your rudeness of leaving them hanging.

LoniceraJaponica · 27/08/2017 21:13

"A same day invitation is rude"

What

Do you or your friends/family never do anything on the spur of the moment? Does everything you do have to be meticulously planned months beforehand?

Of course it isn't rude. It's just you. You're odd.

CoughLaughFart · 27/08/2017 23:41

Of course it's not fucking rude - and even if it was, how is ignoring I rant better?

Sally52014 · 27/08/2017 23:49

You're miffed?! Your sister should be the annoyed one, you were really rude

FluffyPineapple · 28/08/2017 02:17

A same day invitation is rude

What??!! It was an invitation not a summons. The very least OP could have done was to reply with her excuse for turning down the invite. It's not fucking hard - honestly!

Rednailsandnaeknickers · 28/08/2017 16:14

A same day invitation is rude

Really??? Esp between sisters? Are you a complete organisational control freak?? Never ever ever heard of a nice invitation being classed as rude like that. Weird reaction!

Lucyccfc · 28/08/2017 17:03

I have a sister who is as rude as you. I don't bother inviting her round for food/drinks anymore as I'm sick of chasing her.

notreallythere · 28/08/2017 17:36

I used to treat people like this...when I was a moody arsehole teenager.

If you want people to remain in your life with a good relationship, treat them how you'd want to be treated - simple as that! How much effort does it take to say sorry, not today?

Alisvolatpropiis · 28/08/2017 18:39

That people so lacking in self awareness actually reach adulthood without getting a sharp slap does of reality is really beyond.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 30/08/2017 12:41

What did you do in the end OP?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 31/08/2017 08:23

I've just read the office thread.

Catchup - you have serious issues. You, really, really do.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 31/08/2017 08:33

I think it's very obvious from this and your other thread that you have no idea what basic manners actually are.

SparklyMorning · 31/08/2017 08:33

Your sister took the time, thought and trouble to invite you to her house. Probably thought about food, drinks etc. Obviously had a plan to entertain you. And you couldn't be arsed to reply.
But you can spend bloody ages on here discussing how you feel!
You want to learn some manners........
And now you're planning on being deceitful by pretending you didn't see the message.
Do you have any morals?

TidyDancer · 31/08/2017 08:47

Gosh OP, I read the other thread and you really are a horribly rude person. If any of this is real I would suggest you get some counselling or at least advice to help you deal reasonably with people.

You remind me of a couple of people I work with. One thinks she can get away with being mean and spiteful to people because it's 'just how she is' and apparently it's not nasty, it's just being 'direct' (it's not, it's vile) and the other has been hauled in by HR this year for bullying a younger more vulnerable member of staff - she did not recognise her behaviour at all, funnily enough everyone else did and was sick of it.

I hope you apologised to your poor colleague and that you'll be apologising to your sister too. You are extremely lucky that you still have people who are willing to be around you.

Groovee · 31/08/2017 08:50

Sounds like your sister had enough and decided to let you know that you were rude. It takes seconds to say thanks for the invite but we can't make it.

lozengeoflove · 31/08/2017 09:11

The saddest thing about this (and previous) thread is that OP seems to be totally unaware of how toxic she is. Either that, or she doesn't give two flying fucks.
I feel truly sorry for your sister, co-workers, and anyone who crosses paths with you.
Perhaps you should seriously consider therapy.

TheDayIBroke · 31/08/2017 11:12

lozengeoflove I totally agree with you. I can't believe that someone can be so unaware of how awful their behaviour is, and an atrocious attitude to match.

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