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To be upset with my sisters txt

150 replies

Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 13:03

So my sister invited me and my OH over to her house yesterday. I ignored the txt because I was tired and couldn't be bothered.

Today I just saw a txt from her saying 'I suppose that means your not coming over' This was sent last night at 9pm.

Not sure how to reply - I have turned her down in the past but I'm really miffed with her reply.

OP posts:
rollonthesummer · 27/08/2017 13:33

OP, are you 12?! I can't believe you thought SHE was in the wrong here?!

Zaphodsotherhead · 27/08/2017 13:33

I didn't take the sister's text as rude - I took it as simple confirmation that you weren't coming over. Depends how much she knows you are glued to your phone - do you permanently have it in your hand/use it over the dinner table/reply to messages even late at nights?

If she had any reason to suspect you might not have seen the message, then she could have rung you to check. However, if she knows your phone is never more than a mm from your hand, she was just confirming her suspicion.

You, on the other hand, were being rude. A one line text to say, 'sorry, too tired' wouldn't have killed you.

CoughLaughFart · 27/08/2017 13:34

Maybe I've just got the point in life where I can't be arsed with pettiness and wouldn't bother responding.

But is it petty? The OP keeps doing this. Isn't it about time she was called out on it?

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 13:35

I'm amazed that you're so rude and evidently lacking in self awareness too.

Gannicusthemannicus · 27/08/2017 13:39

Of course she was going to send another text, for all she knew you could be turning up the next day without a word. It isn't fair to leave other people's plans up in the air because you are too tired to reply 'yes' or 'no'.

LovingLola · 27/08/2017 13:40

I'd say she has wised up to your horrible behavior.

LovingLola · 27/08/2017 13:42

And she has called you on it. Just like your work colleague did a couple of weeks ago.

KurriKurri · 27/08/2017 13:43

I imagine she waited in for you - hence her sarcastic text. She sounds very restrained considering how rude and inconsiderate you've been.

Hopefully she'll now know not to invite you over in future.

grandOlejukeofYork · 27/08/2017 13:43

Wow. Finding out that people are this rude and deluded is an eye opener, and explains a lot of things.
I would have thought that no-one could possibly be annoyed by their sister in this scenario, but it turns out people are that idiotic.

Original poster
Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 13:44

LovingLola

That situation is resolved now so I don't know why you're bringing it into this thread?

I'd like some advice on what to say to her now that it's clear I was rue for ignoring initially please?

OP posts:
MyOtherProfile · 27/08/2017 13:48

Maybe just say sorry I didn't reply. Was rude of me. Thanks for invite. When else can we come over?

Gorgosparta · 27/08/2017 13:49

That situation is resolved now so I don't know why you're bringing it into this thread?

Possiblr lola thinks there is a pattern of behaviourm

Someone invites you to something. You reply. Of course its rude not to. Especially when its something short notice, you repky as soon as possible.

You just could not be arsed

KurriKurri · 27/08/2017 13:49

How about 'I'm really sorry I was so rude and selfish, I should have let you know we weren't coming. I'm an idiot. xx ' And take her round some flowers.

MaverickSnoopy · 27/08/2017 13:55

To be honest I'm baffled that you didn't already know that it was rude to ignore an invitation...or anyone in general! How you would need strangers on a forum to confirm it is mind boggling.

I think you need to send a grovelling apology.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 27/08/2017 13:55

I'd like some advice on what to say to her now that it's clear I was rue for ignoring initially please?

If you don't even know how to say "I'm sorry. I was rude and thoughtless" then I feel very sorry for you.

ButchyRestingFace · 27/08/2017 13:56

I'd like some advice on what to say to her now that it's clear I was rue for ignoring initially please?

How about, I'm very sorry for ignoring your text. That was rude of me.?

Nice and simple.

And then have a nice, long think about why you think treating other people - your own family, no less - so casually is okay? But when they make a very mild comment about your shabby behaviour, you think that isn't okay?

PerspicaciaTick · 27/08/2017 13:56

I'd like some advice on what to say to her now that it's clear I was rue for ignoring initially please?

Hmm - that's a tough one. How do people apologise for being rude? If only there was a word which expressed a sense of apology and regret. Something short and to the point like sorry. Put it in a sentence so you get "I'm sorry for being rude".

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 13:57

Oh but if the OP apologises she'll have to admit she was in the wrong... Hmm

d270r0 · 27/08/2017 13:59

You were bloody rude for not responding to her. She might have been waiting in for you all day, bought food in that miht now be wasted/unneccessary, baked, didn't know whether to expect you or not. Yes you knew you weren't going so could make other plans but she couldn't. She'd have been stuck there waiting for you not knowing. Its really rude not to respond to an invitation.

grandOlejukeofYork · 27/08/2017 14:01

To be honest I'm baffled that you didn't already know that it was rude to ignore an invitation...or anyone in general! How you would need strangers on a forum to confirm it is mind boggling

This is the poster that was utterly bemused as to why her colleague didn't like being called pussy and other various things, or being completely ignored when she asked a question about work.

How do such people get through life?

InsomniacAnonymous · 27/08/2017 14:02

MaverickSnoopy "To be honest I'm baffled that you didn't already know that it was rude to ignore an invitation...or anyone in general! How you would need strangers on a forum to confirm it is mind boggling."

My thoughts exactly! It's beyond me to understand how on earth the OP didn't think she was rude, but did think her sister was!

InsomniacAnonymous · 27/08/2017 14:04

OP, how about treating others as you would wish to be treated, or do you think you are so superior to others that you can do what the hell you like?

DriftingDreamer · 27/08/2017 14:05

If you don't want to admit in wrong try
= oops sorry. Missed your message. Thanks for invite but can't make it tonight. xxx
Or something like that.....

FluffyPineapple · 27/08/2017 14:06

You were bloody rude for not responding to her. She might have been waiting in for you all day, bought food in that miht now be wasted/unneccessary, baked, didn't know whether to expect you or not. Yes you knew you weren't going so could make other plans but she couldn't. She'd have been stuck there waiting for you not knowing. Its really rude not to respond to an invitation.

Exactly what I was about to post. Whilst you were lounging about with no thought for anyone but yourself, your sis was stuck in not knowing whether you were going to turn up or not. I hope she didn't buy food and drinks in specially...

DriftingDreamer · 27/08/2017 14:07

Ahh - see it was last night.
Apologise saying you missed her message...