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To be upset with my sisters txt

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Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 13:03

So my sister invited me and my OH over to her house yesterday. I ignored the txt because I was tired and couldn't be bothered.

Today I just saw a txt from her saying 'I suppose that means your not coming over' This was sent last night at 9pm.

Not sure how to reply - I have turned her down in the past but I'm really miffed with her reply.

OP posts:

BeachyKeen · 27/08/2017 14:47

I'm guessing you don't like your sister much?

Chartreuse45 · 27/08/2017 14:49

Read the linked thread about her work situation. I would never call something solved or in the past as you seem to feel it is, if the person had not changed and you, Catchuptv have not changed one iota. At the beginning I thought it was limited to your family - sometimes people treat their loved ones badly because "family have to accept you as you are" etc, but you seem to be simply like that! Quotation marks because that is not my view but I do know of many who are street angels and house devils! I think you need to examine exactly how you treat the people around you.

M00nUnit · 27/08/2017 14:50

OP why do you need advice about how to respond to a straightforward text from your sister? Are you a bit thick?

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/08/2017 14:54

This has got to be a reverse

Bluntness100 · 27/08/2017 15:01

This is the poster who was bullying her older, suck up, heavier un attractive work mate and was worried she'd be reported to hr? Now she's ignoring invites from her sister because she can't be bothered and doesn't have the decency to respond but thinks her sister is rude for calling her on it?

This can't be real. It simply can't, no one is this horrid in real life.

PandorasXbox · 27/08/2017 15:09

Can't you see you're in the wrong here OP?

Really?

RusholmeRuffian · 27/08/2017 15:09

I find it hard to believe you are real based on this and your other thread. However, if you are legit, you sound deeply unpleasant and totally lacking in social skills. I pity your sister and your colleague.

Ceto · 27/08/2017 15:12

Anyway I've decided to leave it till tomorrow and text and say I just got her text. I will invite her over to mine next week to make up for it.

Why leave it till tomorrow? In the time you've spent position gone here you could have replied to her several times over. And why lie about when you received the text?

I hope the first thing you say when you do reply will be "Sorry"?

Ceto · 27/08/2017 15:13

Sorry, that should have said -

In the time you've spent posting on here you could have replied to her several times over.

ohherewegoagain · 27/08/2017 15:21

OP I think you were in the wrong here, but I'm sure others have made that clear. Hopefully this hasn't affected the relationship between you and your sister.

DonutCone · 27/08/2017 15:28

Wow, were you and your sister not bought up together? I wonder as one of you seems to have made to adulthood with no manners at all and the other seems to be able to function normally.

InsomniacAnonymous · 27/08/2017 15:31

I can't understand the twisted logic that means the OP doesn't think she was rude, but does think her sister was.

Gorgosparta · 27/08/2017 15:34

I don't know why people are going on about my previous thread. This has now been resolved so what has this got to do with this thread

Because this is your second thread, where you have actes like a dick and believed the other person was at fault.

So either you are just a GF (goady fucker) or an inconsiderate twat.

TheAntiBoop · 27/08/2017 15:42

You are an extremely rude person. This thread and the previous show that.

It takes two seconds to respond to a text yet you are letting this drag over for another day.

Or perhaps you just like the drama.

fullofhope03 · 27/08/2017 15:43

I really hope this thread is a wind up

If it's not, you really really need to be a kinder person op

Ninabean17 · 27/08/2017 15:59

Can't believe a) you were rude enough to begin with and ignored your own sister and b) now going to LIE to your sister because you don't want her to think you were ignoring her. Nice one op.

TestTubeTeen · 27/08/2017 16:03

Text your sister NOW.

Apologise like mad, say you meant to reply and have only just seen her follow up. Say 'I am really sorry I was so rude, it won't happen again' and THANK her for inviting you.

Is there a reason that you think it is normal to ignore someone who has been kind enough to invite you?

Wetwashing00 · 27/08/2017 16:12

Maybe she's fed up of your shit,
It is quite rude to just ignore her.

LoniceraJaponica · 27/08/2017 16:32

It would be karma if the sister was on mumsnet

arethereanyleftatall · 27/08/2017 16:32

In case you genuinely don't understand why what you did was rude:

She texted you, then would have had to waited in for the whole rest of the day in case you came. You gave her no chance to make other plans. She may have also bought/prepared food.
All you had to do was text her 'can't make it im afraid, thanks for the invite' as soon as you got the text, you don't need a reason, (and couldn't be arsed is fine (though doesn't need sharing)).

AmysTiara · 27/08/2017 16:37

In the time you've spent posting on mumsnet about your lack of manners, you could have text your sister 30 times.

Mittens1969 · 27/08/2017 16:47

I really don't get why you wouldn't reply to a text inviting you over for a visit? If you were too tired surely you'd just text back, no, thank you for the invite, but I'm too tired. Another time. X' Not replying is rude, I'm not surprised she was miffed.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 27/08/2017 17:01

Text her back - she is your sister. Apologise for not replying before now.
You were wrong to ignore her texts inviting you over, whether you wanted to go over to hers or not. That was rude.
To leave it another day before responding is also rude. Suggesting that you didn't see the message before now is a lie. It's very possible that based on the type of phone you/your sister has that she will know that you've received the message and read it too.
You are coming across as very immature. I think the other MNetter who made reference to your other recent thread was right to reference it, irrespective of whether the issue was resolved or not. You don't like being pulled up on your behaviour and this appears to be a trend if you don't like what it is that you're being pulled up on.
Ultimately - send your sister an apology text and grow up.

LoniceraJaponica · 27/08/2017 17:11

Are you going to be "that parent" who doesn't RSVP to party invitations then complain when your child doesn't get a party bag or there isn't enough food to eat?

Do you even know what RSVP stands for?

Papafran · 27/08/2017 17:12

Crikey. I wonder if you are the same poster as someone else who keeps leaving sociopathic comments all over the boards recently. It must be strange to have zero awareness or empathy.

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