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Original poster

To be upset with my sisters txt

150 replies

Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 13:03

So my sister invited me and my OH over to her house yesterday. I ignored the txt because I was tired and couldn't be bothered.

Today I just saw a txt from her saying 'I suppose that means your not coming over' This was sent last night at 9pm.

Not sure how to reply - I have turned her down in the past but I'm really miffed with her reply.

OP posts:
Mrskeats · 27/08/2017 14:07

Honestly I despair at times. What's happened to manners? If you didn't want to go you should have replied politely. It's not hard.

LoniceraJaponica · 27/08/2017 14:08

“I ignored the txt because I was tired and couldn't be bothered.”

And you don’t think that is rude? Hmm

Have you no social awareness? Were you never taught good manners?

SonicBoomBoom · 27/08/2017 14:19

You are one of those people that I genuinely cannot believe exist in real life.

Certainly you won't have made it far in life if this is how you behave.

milliemolliemou · 27/08/2017 14:23

Just apologize to her, OP, and spruce up your manners. She invited you you didn't bother to reply (how long does it take to text a sentence saying no but thanks for asking). What's extraordinary is that you were miffed she was upset (after she took the time to invite you and got no reply). Are you usually so self-involved and ignorant of good manners?

SandunesAndRainclouds · 27/08/2017 14:27

I have a sibling just like the OP. I gave up with the invites as there was never a reply, or a late reply that was obviously bullshit. There was other stuff too so I went NC.

Guess who moans about not seeing 'family' now...

wotabastard · 27/08/2017 14:29

Ah yes of course, you're the office bully from a few weeks ago. Hmm

Does any of this shit happen or do you just get a bit bored now and again and scoot over to mumsnet to start a wind-them-up-and-watch-them-go thread? Confused

If these are genuine posts and this is you, well, I think you need professional help to alter your ways!

ArgyMargy · 27/08/2017 14:31

Why are you posting this nonsense? Are you trying to get someone to diagnose you with Asperger's or something? You obviously know what AIBU stands for. YABU

milliemolliemou · 27/08/2017 14:33

wota - can you link to office bully text - can't find it. Is OP for real?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 27/08/2017 14:33

Assuming you're not a wind-up merchant, you really need to cop on to yourself a bit here.

You're lucky that that's ALL your sister said - you couldn't be bothered to reply to an invitation to her house, so she sat and waited to see if you'd turn up, and then YOU have the outright gall to be miffed because she sent you a very fed-up text?

I'm staggered that you couldn't see you were in the wrong in the first place for being so mannerless. Hopefully you'll learn.

Lovemusic33 · 27/08/2017 14:34

It annoys me when I make plans and people can't text a simple 'yes' or 'no' to let me know if they are coming. People are not mind readers and if your not going then they need time to make other plans.

Original poster
Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 14:35

I don't know why people are going on about my previous thread. This has now been resolved so what has this got to do with this thread.

Anyway I've decided to leave it till tomorrow and text and say I just got her text. I will invite her over to mine next week to make up for it.

OP posts:
wotabastard · 27/08/2017 14:36

Op's profile.

What she says about herself
Try my best to be a good person

Really op??

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a2999088-New-employee-annoying#71005389

GrumpyOldBag · 27/08/2017 14:36

why are you posting on AIBU if you don't even understand what the acronyms mean?

ilovesooty · 27/08/2017 14:37

If she has any knowledge of what you're like I doubt if she'll believe you for a moment.

Original poster
Catchuptv · 27/08/2017 14:38

Well I'm posting for advice - and asking what the acronyms are - don't know why that's a problem and in fact some of the acronyms are hard to understand e.g. DP, DS all these dear this dear that.

OP posts:
wotabastard · 27/08/2017 14:38

lol at reply tomorrow and pretend you just saw it. Grin

LoniceraJaponica · 27/08/2017 14:38

You are going to leave it until tomorrow Shock

Why in god's name do you think it is OK to ignore your sister's text for two days? Hmm

You are so rude

minionsrule · 27/08/2017 14:38

So you are going to ignore another text from her for 24 hours... wow Confused
I wouldn't bother inviting her to yours.... i really doubt she will come, i certainly wouldn't

feathermucker · 27/08/2017 14:39

You could have avoided the need for this post by replying to your sister's text.

First world problem.

InsomniacAnonymous · 27/08/2017 14:39

Why do you treat people with such utter contempt? Even your own family. You don't deserve to get any invitations. Does your DH know about this invitation and you ignoring it?

InsomniacAnonymous · 27/08/2017 14:40

Sorry I see it's OH not DH.

WomblingThree · 27/08/2017 14:40

You can't be arsed to send a quick text and she's rude?? 🤣🤣🤣

Coupled with the fact you were SHOCKED instead of thinking "oops best apologise", you are obviously looking for drama.

Doyoumind · 27/08/2017 14:42

OP you have been assured you are the one being rude and have been given advice on how to resolve this. Why are you ignoring it?

Just apologise now and do not leave it any longer.

WeatherDependent · 27/08/2017 14:44

OP (original poster) YABVU (you are being very unreasonable). Instead of posting on her just send a fecking reply text to your sister Hmm

Rednailsandnaeknickers · 27/08/2017 14:46

OP - IF you are for real (which I'm beginning to doubt with your subsequent "what can I say that will rile MNet even more, I know, I'll ignore her for an extra day!!! Cop on! HmmConfused)

Then you need to reply NOW, just straight and plainly apologise for your rudeness (presumable she can see you have read her original text so a clumsy lie about not receiving it is crap) and make whatever amends you can.

Your social skills are shockingly bad, so work on that. Try putting yourself in the place of the people you ignore/hurt etc and imagine their feelings.