To want one bath a week?

[rainbowpie]

DH is currently having a go because I've had a bath. I'll provide all details to see if anyone can work out why I am in the wrong because I am at a loss.

We have two small children. I co-sleep in a bed with the baby in his room due to frequent feeding. DD usually climbs in around 5am. DH has "our" room to himself. We are all happy with this arrangement as it is temporary. However, it makes it tricky to get up early to have a shower as I'd wake both of them so I usually have a shower at night. Fine.

Once a week, I'd really like a hot bath. I love baths. My back hurts from co-sleeping and I find it easier to shave my legs properly in the bath. I have said this to DH who thinks I should just climb in after the DC have finished their bath? He didn't even have to look after the DC while I was in the bath! DS was on the (clean) floor playing with toys while DD sat on the loo chatting to me. DH was in bed!

There are no money issues so it can't be the cost of the bath. We can afford baths. AIBU to really not understand why I can't have one bath a week that really doesn't affect him in any way? He just keeps saying it isn't necessary and I should just have a quick shower or use the DC's bath water.

I have a bath every single day.....love 'em!! Here's what you do "here's the kids, I'm off for a lovely long hot soak".......if he says anything tell him to do one!!

I've just caught up on this thread OP and I'm still just at the ignorant shits logic here.

If you are really not confident to sit down and have it out with him in detail- as in 'what the fuck is your problem with me doing a totally normal thing that I enjoy dick head?'

Then you need to have a long hard think about WHY you are tolerating this arsehole.

How bizarre. I'm intrigued, I want to understand his logic (if any?)...

Tell him to stop being such an arse by begrudging you something as a hot, fresh, bath.

As simple as

Is he overly concerned about the environment in over ways? Do you have a rubbish water heating system? When I was growing up we shared bath water and my dad could only have a bath after mum as he didn't know how to get the temperature right otherwise!

I enjoy a hot bath too and although I'm quite "eco" I don't like the temperature of the water after DS's bath (it would be too cold to start with!). The only bother I get from DH is silly comments about whales and walruses??!!

It's not the bath though that's the issue, is it OP - but the fact that you're having time to yourself, doing something you enjoy and he's not liking it.

This.

And £80 a week for himself to spend up the pub every Friday

He moaned about you keeping your stitches clean after birthing his child?!!

I'm at a loss op, he's a fucking pig.

Start taking time to yourself, with no children, every week. If he complains then you'll know how much he cares about you.

I'm with Pickachew I'd want to know straight out, why does he begrudge you a fresh, hot bath to yourself when you're in pain?

The answer to that should be eye opening.

I'd also start referring frequently to the bath as the ChildMinder Recharging Unit. If the battery gets too low you're going to go on strike on the sofa with a bottle of wine and make beeping noises.

Clearly there's something about baths that he just doesn't get. I LOVE baths, but I know that when I get in I just wallow for ages so I only have one once a week or fortnight. DH knows better than to annoy me by checking up on me.

The bath is MY time, it is my time of being utterly spoilt. I like nothing better than taking in a trashy novel (one that I couldn't care if I dropped in the water), resting my head on a towel, and soaking in some bubbly water reading. Even better if I have something lovely to sip on as well. I have been known to let some water run out and top up with hot water to extend the bath (several times!!).

You need to make it clear to him that you don't give a damn if he doesn't think baths have any point to them. YOU want the bath, YOU enjoy the bath, and all that should matter to him is that YOU are enjoying them. What he thinks of them personally is completely and utterly irrelevant to you and your enjoyment of baths.