To think this mum is a cheeky fucker

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

My dd (8) stayed at a friends last night. I nipped round there in the day to drop some clothes off as she needed shorts, while I was there my dd asked if 'they' meaning the girl and her two sisters could stop at ours tommorrow (meaning today) I said oh I'm not sure yet it's school Tuesday and we have a lot to get sorted,plus dad is working tommorrow and left it at that.

Today comes I don't hear anything off the mum all day. I went out to walk the dog came home and she had left all 3 girls 6,7 and 9 at my house with all their stuff! Dp was busy in the garden and told the mum I would be home any minute and to wait as he didn't know what was going on, she said oh I'll leave them here with you and fucked off.

I got back to 3 bags of overnight stuff on the hallway and 3 girls that were here for a bloody sleepover wtaf not once had I said they were stopping or confirmed anything with the mum, I got a Facebook message an hour later saying she would pick them up at 2 tommorrow!

Now I wouldn't have minded if it had been one of the girls fair enough I would have said fine, but why the fuck would you drop all your kids off to my house leave them with my dp who you don't know for shit and not even check with me?

I have 7 kids myself including a 2 year old and a 5 month old so now have 10 kids in my house, where is the common sense?
Surely when my dd asked if they could sleep the mum should have said well not all of you as it's a bit much.especially a 6 year old who darent even go to the loo on her own. None of these kids have ever been to my house before either.

They all went to the park earlier and I answered a phonecall off the mum to one of the girls I said I'll get her to ca you back, she said "oh it's alright I'm going out" so basically I'm babysitting 3 kids for her while she fucks off out on the piss.

Yes I should have told her to come pick them up as I had t agreed to a sleepover but I felt bad for them...the mum shouldn't have left them here in the first place though aibu to think she is a cheeky fucking bitch?

The kids have been picked up? Damn, I lost the bet

And how did the conversation go? I'm assuming you said something and didn't just hand them over saying they've been good as gold?

Cross post. What a surprise

Unbelieveable.

Both you and her.

You could have easily said something out of earshot of the kids. So she got away with it with no repercussions? She knows she can walk all over you OP.

I would say when you have 7 kids and someone dumps 3 more on your doorstep without a by your kreave its a freaking big deal!
Especially when you have no spare good for them but people think you should make your family go without and feed them anyway.

picking them up at 2pm - I hope you took them back at 10am today?

If this is true, I'd be going round without children and telling her that this was totally unacceptable behaviour that, if ever attempted again, would result in you calling the police and social services immediately.

Cheeky woman

Wow some people are really harsh! I don't think you are attention seeking at all. Also a lot of people on here give advice on what they would say and do in a situation but the truth is it's very easy to be brave from behind a keyboard! Presumably you are going to have to see this woman on a regular basis!

Has she returned to the house yet?

So not only did she not have your say so to have them stay the night, but she dictated until what time you would have them, ignored your request to pick them up early, and didn't give a shit that you had no food for them. And you said nothing! You are your own worst enemy OP

Marking my place for next week when it all happens again, now she has you pegged as a soft touch.

Or, you could text her and say you're really not happy about what she did and that you won't be hosting her kids again.

Omg! The cheek of the woman! Did you feed them lunch, op?

Ditto placemarking for next time this happens.
Please message her and tell her not to do that again. I hate confrontation myself but I hate being treated like a doormat more.

Were they picked up at 2?

I think I'd have done the same op and not had the heart to ship them home but I'd be telling the mother when she collected them
Not to do it again!

Text her what you'd like to have said. No ambiguity then.

Of course OP didn't say anything!!

You must say something OP or
You'll be her bloody go to mug forever!

I didn't say anything...the mum just smiled and fucked off.

I know you didn't. No-one thought you would.

No-one thought you would

Including the cheeky fucker.

Indeed! I'll expect a repeat of this thread in weeks to come.

You really must text her that the whole situation caused problems for you
'Just to say that I didn't confirm at any time that I could have your children yesterday so imagine my surprise when I got home and found them all there! I did try and contact you to pick children up early as I had other things on, I would have thought with your children being elsewhere you would have had your phone very close by. I cannot be put in this position again. Thanks'

What's the point, Janus? She's not an idiot. She knows exactly what she did and the position she put the OP in. She didn't care.

Someone like her would receive that text and roll their eyes. It's after the fact and would only elicit a "so?" from the sort of person who'd do it.

Janus makes a good clear post. You need to say something OP

Actually I wouldn't send any message now. I would let her think it was fine so that A) I could turn up with my DC and dump and run next weekend without warning and she couldn't say a bloody word about it or B) she would plan another night out thinking I would babysit again and then I would turn her away at the door and ruin her night out.