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There are good men in the world... share your stories!

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OneOfTheGoodOnes · 23/08/2017 23:08

Right not an aibu but this board is where all the drama and the LTB happen so I thought it would be good to have a positive post so let's post the good things we love most about our partners and show the rest of the world that there are good men out there!

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OneOfTheGoodOnes · 23/08/2017 23:10

I love my DH cos he makes me breakfast in bed on a Saturday after a late shift.

I love how much of a hands on dad he is.

I love how he finds me sexy and tells me often even though I'm not a size 0!

I love how he puts me and our DS first above all else.

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Fluffyears · 24/08/2017 17:52

He looked he's me and he shows me. I'm a crabbit cow a lot and he'll make me laugh until I'm in tears. He works in a job he despises just because the wage means we can have a nice lifestyle. He also buys me crisps.

mummyrabbitpeppapig · 24/08/2017 17:55

He went out to the late night chemist last night to get me some night nurse to help me sleep. He's now going to the shop to get me strepsils and lemsip

Sillysausages007 · 24/08/2017 17:58

He makes me laugh. He works hard so I can be a SAHM. He helps around the house and he's a fab dad. My best friend. I feel very lucky.

Yarboosucks · 24/08/2017 18:09

He is my soulmate and partner. He gives me the space and support to be me; he challenges me, encourages me and gives me honest feedback.

He can be irritating, demanding and difficult and is no saint but then the same can be true of me. We have different views on politics, religion and many other aspects of life and so we debate and fight quite a bit… But I know that my views and opinions are of interest and are important to him.

But, he has moved countries for my job and relished it when I earned more than him. He is proud of me and my achievements. He is probably one of the cleverest people that I will ever meet.

He loves my many lumps and bumps! Some times I catch him looking at me and I can actually feel the love.

For years I thought he was out of my league and I could not understand quite how I got him. But I did!

Oblomov17 · 24/08/2017 18:31

My Dh is a good'un. I knew as soon as I met him. He is just nice, traditional, treats people as he likes to be treated. He is loving and caring to me.

My step dad is the same.

4 of my friends have husbands who are just truely really nice men.

BeccaAnn · 24/08/2017 20:46

my DP has helped my grow in confidence after years of mental abuse by my STBXH that I left 2.5 year ago (still can't believe I managed it!).

He is very keen to move out of the area we live in as its where all the crap happened after his Ex GF left him for another man and took their baby out of NICU without telling him. yet he's not bitter and spiteful towards women.

He's kind and caring and way more chilled than I am, but not so laid back he's horrizontal!

Tiredeypops · 24/08/2017 21:19

brings me a cup of tea in bed (and some water so I don't get dehydrated at work) every morning without fail - even if I am off work and he has a 12 hour shift. He is a miracle human.

StealthPolarBear · 24/08/2017 21:22

Dh can be thoughtless and sexist but when I point it out he accepts it and changes.
There's a puzzle about a boy in a plane crash in which has dad dies. He needs am operatikn. The surgeon goes to operate on him and says "I can't operate, this is my son"
Dh didn't even understand why this was a puzzle. Which I loved :)

needtogiveitablow · 24/08/2017 21:24

DH is definitely one of the good guys, all of the things I love also drive me to despair, he is so thoughtful and generous and kind but at times he allows himself to be taken advantage of (with his knowledge and acceptance) by people happy to abuse his kind nature - he is a tradesman and if doing any work on the side he will never take bloody money for it!! I can live with it though - as he regularly points out I fell in love with him and his personality and he's not going to change now just because I'm getting old and cynical 😉

afrikat · 24/08/2017 21:29

My husband is amazing and I'm thankful everyday that I met him when I did. He is a wonderful father who does more than his share, he's so patient with our two little maniacs and doesn't leave me to do the 'emotional load' - he books drs appointments, sorts out hair cuts and does most of the kids clothes shopping. I've been ill for the past few months and he's allowed me to sleep for most of the weekend, done all of the night shifts and generally been the most supportive partner I can imagine. I feel so guilty about how little I'm able to help out but he just gets on with it and never complains.
I literally have nothing negative to say about him and I'd be lost without him. He's also a hottie 😀

Distractotron · 24/08/2017 21:30

He loves my kids even though they are not his - he saw them as part of me and now for who they are
He gets us treats that I never would have thought of - I'm careful and he's generous.
He makes me laugh. He was testing my knowledge of names of the bones in the body by grabbing bits of me til I screamed last night. He's ridiculous and lovely and absolutely mad. I love him ever so much.

Crumbs1 · 24/08/2017 21:33

I have been married to a genuinely good man for a long time. He's lovely to me - from tea in bed every morning, cultivating sweet peas and keeping the house full of them because he knows I love them to making sure there are enough logs in when he goes away in winter and always doing yucky jobs like cleaning bins.
He's a kind and loving father to our children. He was a good foster parent when we fostered youngsters with exceptionally challenging behaviour.
He has integrity and a very strong moral compass. He is compassionate to others - giving his coat to a rough sleeper when it was snowing, taking an elderly neighbour shopping regularly, doing a round of the village checking everyone is OK and has heating, lighting and can cook during bad weather and power cuts.
He makes me laugh too.

Starfish28 · 24/08/2017 21:37

He gets up with our children every single day at 5.30 and never ever complains. He is a true partner in every aspect of our relationship. I adore him (and of course he still drives me mad at times).

CrazyHairSister · 24/08/2017 21:39

SPB I have read that puzzle a couple of times and don't get it.

My DP is a good decent kind man. He is generous, thoughtful, considerate, brilliant with my kids, kind to my pets even though he is a bit scared of them

My ex wasn't to everyone's taste but again he was a good hard working man, provides for his DC without nit picking and quibbling and we are raising our children amicably. Just to show that even those men who are no longer with the mother of their children are still decent men.

caffeinestream · 24/08/2017 21:52

He looks after me when I'm sick and is really sympathetic to my horrific PMS and period problems (diagnosed and now treated, thankfully!)

He brings me a cup of tea in bed every single morning, even if I'm working and it's his day off.

He's driven me to/from work for a year while I've worked on getting my license, just so we can spend more nights together.

He fixes everything that goes wrong around the house and is always looking for ways to save money so that he can take me out/treat me.

Gingernaut · 24/08/2017 21:56

The surgeon is the boy's mother.

Fieryfighter · 24/08/2017 21:56

The surgeon is the boy's mother

SenatorBunghole · 24/08/2017 21:58

I love mine because he has kind eyes, he did more night time feeds than me, he's funny and he never stops until I've come at least five times.

ClemDanfango · 24/08/2017 22:00

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yorkshapudding · 24/08/2017 22:01

I met DH at the lowest point in my life. I was reeling from a sudden and traumatic bereavement, was deeply mistrustful of men due to having been fucked over by a a previous boyfriend and was in the early very stages of recovery from an Eating Disorder. In short, I was a mess. Most men would have run for the hills but it didn't phase him one bit. The fact that he wasn't scared of all my baggage made me less scared of it too. He didn't set out to change me or "fix" me but his faith in me definitely restored my confidence and made the person I am today.

TheFairyCaravan · 24/08/2017 22:14

My husband can ba a right PITA but he's my PITA and tbh so can I.

He puts up with a lot. I'm disabled and in chronic pain which is getting worse as each day goes by. Whenever we go out he has to drive, it has to suit me, holidays have to be planned round me, plans cancelled at the last minute and a lot of his annual leave is used up taking me to and from hospital appointments. He rarely moans.

He makes me laugh, he wipes my tears and he rubs my back. He knows what I need without me saying and I miss him when he's not here.

EnglishRose13 · 24/08/2017 22:19

I came home to this...

There are good men in the world... share your stories!
MrsJamesAspey · 24/08/2017 22:53

My DP tells me I'm gorgeous at 5am when I stumble back into the bedroom after a morning wee, he makes me laugh, but also finds me really funny, it's lovely to finally find someone who really gets my humour.

He's kind and generous and spends more time greeting the cat and dog when he walks into the house than he does me, and I love him for it.

Handsfull13 · 24/08/2017 22:56

He pulls his weight parenting. From the moment he gets home he does the same as me with our twins.
Never argues about doing night feeds even though he has work, or catching up on the chores I didn't get a chance to do during the day.
He brings me chocolate without me asking for it

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