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Selling something that I gave for free

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Wilberforce2 · 23/08/2017 21:05

Just been on Fb and a family member has shared a link from a selling site to a really nice piece of furniture that I gave them last year. Furniture was hardly used but when my step son moved in it wasn't big enough so I gave it to family member and we bought a new one. They now obviously don't want it anymore and are selling it for £100, I don't expect any of the money because if I wanted money I would have sold it but I can't help thinking you shouldn't sell something that someone gave to you for free? I would have preferred her to give it away to someone else or to charity.

AIBU or not?!

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x2boys · 23/08/2017 21:07

Well it's a bit rude but if you gave it to them it's there's now to do with what they want surely

DodgyGround · 23/08/2017 21:09

I've always been prepared to assume that a gift means it's no longer mine. So I can't say what they do with it.

If I'm not prepared for that, then I don't give it in the first place.

JustHereForThePooStories · 23/08/2017 21:10

YABU. It's theirs and they can do what they want with it.

inlectorecumbit · 23/08/2017 21:14

Contact them and say that as they have no longer any use for it can you have it back... Then sell it yourself.

WanderingTrolley1 · 23/08/2017 21:16

It does seem a bit off to me.

SuburbanRhonda · 23/08/2017 21:19

Perhaps they're of the view that since you gave it to them, it's - you know - theirs?

Uokbing · 23/08/2017 21:20

Technically i guess you gave it to them as a gift so it is theirs to do as they please.

But really......who the fuck does this? So cheeky!

Tilapia · 23/08/2017 21:24

It does seem a bit cheeky! For a small item I'd say YABU, but a £100 item of furniture is different.

Wilberforce2 · 23/08/2017 21:24

Yes technically it is theirs as I gave it to them but it's bloody cheeky, I just wouldn't have the front to make money from something someone gave me.

Maybe it's just me!

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NataliaOsipova · 23/08/2017 21:25

Agree with Uokbing. Technically it's theirs, but it's just not in the right spirit.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 23/08/2017 21:26

Perhaps they need the money?

NotTheCoolMum · 23/08/2017 21:27

Rude. Ask for it back

TenForward82 · 23/08/2017 21:28
Hmm
coddiwomple · 23/08/2017 21:29

well, it's theirs now, I can't see the problem. Would you prefer that they throw it away? They did you a favour by taking it away from your hands, they no longer need it, so it's fair to sell it.

I really don't understand why it's cheeky.

DramaAlpaca · 23/08/2017 21:29

Not just you. My SIL did something similar, selling something on FB that I'd given her & I wasn't impressed. I never said anything, but I thought it was cheeky.

PacificDogwod · 23/08/2017 21:30

YABU.

You gave it away, I presume without any conditions attached, it is no longer yours.
It is theirs, to dispose of as they see fit.

nina2b · 23/08/2017 21:30

It is rude. If people cannot understand that, they are perhaps likely to do the same.

MrsTrebus · 23/08/2017 21:31

Someone did this to me. She asked for the items as we wade donating them (and a lot of other stuff) to a flooding charity so we gave her them and dropped them at her house then she sold them! I never felt the same about our friendship and let it fade out. I recently found out she did the same with gig tickets to another friend.

MikeUniformMike · 23/08/2017 21:31

Maybe they need the money.

HerOtherHalf · 23/08/2017 21:32

Would you be happier if they just sent it to landfill?

coddiwomple · 23/08/2017 21:33

why is it rude? What are you supposed to do with the gifted items? Give them back (and offend whoever gave them away?) Bin them (how wasteful)

I think it's completely different if someone ask for a specific item, or if they are offered something.

Barbiessharpfeet · 23/08/2017 21:34

Yabu. Once it's gifted it's not your concern anymore. It's strange to think otherwise.

PacificDogwod · 23/08/2017 21:34

I really don't get how this is 'cheeky' Confused

highinthesky · 23/08/2017 21:34

I think it's bad karma to profit from anything given as a kind gesture.

It's the ultimate slap in the face, so don't bother to gift that family member again!

troodiedoo · 23/08/2017 21:35

Morally it's a bit off, yes. Profiting from your kindness. Bad karma.

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