To feel today I've been a crap mum to my twins?

[Barefootsummers]

I have 2 year old twin boys and I've been feeling unwell and they've been sick but are better now. We stayed in all day and I feel like I've been useless. They watched over an hours tv in the morning whilst I did essential jobs in the house, then they did painting whilst I did the last few jobs. They then watched tv so I could shower. Then they napped. We've got home done a few stories and watched stick man together and now more tv so I can start dinner. They just won't settle and play without fighting. I know it's too much tv and I feel guilty. Guess I'm just hoping for some reassurance that it's not as bad as I think or maybe suggestions on what I could do differently. I can't leave them for 2 minutes without fighting (snatching etc, not hurting each other). Thanks

Oh don't worry at all , we all have days like this
As long as they're happy & healthy

My two are on holidays at the moment and after a day at the seaside yesterday we've done nothing today !

Thank you. I tend to blow things out of proportion and really really worry if I don't think I've done my best for them (they were born at 23 weeks and 5 days and I still feel I let them down)

God I've had days where my 18 mo watches tv most of the day

Really can't be helped sometimes

Thanks, so good to know I'm not alone and everyone else isn't doing amazing things all day long!

Sometimes you need a day like that, especially if you aren't feeling well. YADNBU. And you are not a crap mum for you.

Thank you very much! I feel a lot better. Know I need to pull myself together. Hard being a single parent to twins sometimes and I have no family in this country.

I have days like this all the time, I've always been a 'home bird' and I think my daughter likes homely stuff sometimes too.

Crafting and painting and watching a bit of tots tv at home are fond memory's from my childhood

Don't feel bad OP! You need time to get better too!

I really wouldn't worry about it. My parenting has been awful lately as have been struggling with sickness and headaches due to pregnancy. My son has had days indoors with too much tv and playing with his toys. I do tell myself it's not all bad because he does get some exercise following the dances on just dance

We all do it!

Sorry should read stay at home not single!

Thanks everyone. My worry was it was way too much tv and neglecting them. I try to get out most days but this week we've just been in and they've been ill too.

One of the only perks of you/ your DC being ill is that you can lounge around watching TV all day and not feel guilty about it!

There's nothing to feel guilty about, kids don't need non-stop entertainment.

I feel like this today too, we have been to see nut job 2 today but after that nothing, they have been arguing and I have been shouting, I'm now upstairs on MN before I combust, I love them but it's hard work. I have DD 9 and DS 8.

Sounds like a normal day in my houses lol

Thanks everyone, I feel reassured I'm not doing an awful job then!

My 18mo watches the whole of films like lion king, frozen, moana etc (not all in one sitting) and will watch a few cartoons. I wouldn't worry about it. It's good to have down/easy time sometimes

Aaah you've done fine

When my twins were that age I couldn't leave them for 5 seconds literally. They'd bite, pull hair, smack, push. It was so hard. My tv was on constantly if we were at home. It saved my sanity. Don't get me wrong we still went to baby singing, soft play, park etc. It does get better though.
My two are now 6 and best friends.

Good god - you are doing a marvellous job! Go easy on yourself, a bit of tv won't do them any harm. We all need a day/s when we don't do much - that goes for little ones and big ones!

Thank you all for your kind messages, I sometimes feel like I have no idea what I'm doing and think I'm still traumatised from their birth if I'm honest. Thanks again everyone.

Don't beat yourself up. Two year old boys are soooo full on. Why do us mums give ourselves such a hard time?

Lovey, you need to talk to someone trained. You clearly haven't dealt with their premature birth yet & you need to 💐 Your guilt over their premature birth is very misplaced & it's affecting you on a daily basis, it's not good for you - or them.

Your day today is a very normal day for families up & down the country. It's not 'ideal' if it's every day, but it's perfectly fine when your ill or knackered or just a few days of the week.

Cross posted with you 💐

Oh god, peppa pig is on repeat some days in my house when im exhausted and the house is a tip, its normal as long as its balanced with active days, dont worry about it