Looking after 3yr old grandchild for half of OUR week off!!

[motormummy]

AIBU... partner and I both work full time and rarely get time off together, let alone a whole week as I have two jobs. I have two teenage boys. We were going to book a last min hol of some sort to get some time away next week.
Partner comes home tonight and announces we are looking after grandchild next week on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday while her mum starts her new job. We've already had her for quite a few sessions recently while mum works or does chores where having a small child about would 'take so much longer'. I can sympathise with that so no problem. BUT Mum has known about having to start new job for weeks, surely she had realised she would have problems with holiday childcare. She has sister, mother, aunties, the child's father and his parents to call on for help. I'm guessing they've all got fed up or turned her down. I'm pretty sure she could go to her dads, tbh.
AIBU to feel massively resentful over this imposition? I wouldn't mind if it was just one day but 3???
And what's going to happen in future school hols. ? I kind of think DP agreed cos if he'd said no there would be a massive strop and probably wouldn't see them agin for months. Don't get me wrong , she's a lovely child and I enjoy having her around, it's just because it's my week off.

Who's grandchild is she?

Id get your dp on the phone right away saying so sorry but youv booked a screact week away so will have to cancell having her

Sometimes life is just damn unfair! I'd be gutted if I was missing out on a last minute holiday too!

You and sons go away and let so look after his grandkid.

Sounds like it's your dp you should be annoyed with as he should have told her you had plans to go away.

Have you expressed your feelings to your partner? He does NOT have the right to volunteer your babysitting services without your consent, and I don't care if it's a grandchild or not. This child is her parent's responsibility, not yours.

Go away with your sons, as you were planning to do. Shame to miss out on a holiday due to having to babysit.

Either partner tells her no or he does the 3 days childcare single handed ( you are enjoying your rare break elsewhere) -- he won't do it again.

I assume it isn't your grandchild?

Go away with your teenagers as planned.

Your DP can join you when he's finished the childcare duties that he volunteered for.

I'm confused about whose grandchild she is..
Anyway it's your partner you should be annoyed with. He should have said you had plans.

Either go away with the teenagers, and DP can join you part way through the week, or

Cancel your annual leave for those days, and go in to work, leaving DP to care for his GD on his own. Then be off for the second half of the week with DP and teenagers, and go away just for a few days. (You could perhaps take the other days later in the year and have a spa-break on your own!)

Partner comes home tonight and announces we are looking after grandchild next week on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday while her mum starts her new job

And why did you not reply that "WE" are doing no such thing, since nobody asked me and we already have plans?

I'd leave DP to it, he agreed not you and book a holiday for you and your sons. He won't volunteer again without asking you, hopefully.

Put your foot down! It's not convenient. Your partner should have asked you before agreeing! If he insists, go on holiday with your sons, without him.

I would be pretty pissed off to be honest. And I'd still book the holiday.

Did he know you were planning on going away?

Nip this in the bud now otherwise you'll be doing it all the time. As you say, one day is fine but she's taking the piss. I know a man who wouldn't say no to his daughter(everyone else told her to eff off) and he now has his grandkids 5 days out of 7..every week, does all the school runs and has them almost full-time in the school holidays while mum and dad work.

Its not just about wanting time off, its wanting it TOGETHER.
Yes op could go away with teens but she wanted time off with her partner as its rare to get it together. Dps dd has taken advantage and dp probably felt he couldnt say no, but should have. Id try to get him to tell her hes sorry but he cant take dgd as he didnt realise plans had been made.

Who exactly are you annoyed at, OP? Because people are allowed to ask for help. Your husband was not obliged to say yes. But he did anyway.

Your husband is the one that you should direct your anger/frustration at - not the person who asked for childcare.

Either he cancels, or you go away with the teens and he joins you on Thursday.

Don't waste your week off.

Go away as planned and leave him to do the childcare he agreed to.

Your issue is your partner, not your step-daughter.