To ask what time your children go to bed at and what age they are?

[lily88]

Myself and my husband disagree on ds bedtime. I think 8 is perfect for him as he is 5 and I mean 8 with pjs on and story read. DH thinks that's too early as he only gets home from work at 7 but then complains that it's nearly 10 every night before he gets to sit down after been in work all day. Ds wakes at 6 every morning and often falls asleep during the day which DH doesn't see. I also notice ds behaviour is worse when he is tired which is why I feel he needs his sleep. I'm just looking to see what other parents think.

Almost 2year old & 6 year old into bed at 7.30 asleep by 8. 2 year old has a 1hour ish nap after lunch. Both wake up at 6.

Even if we've been busy & out all day (I'm not precious they've had plenty of late bedtimes) they still wake up at 6, so it's not like leaving them up later would be of a h benefit. One day I will get a lay in!

I'm surprised of all these early bed times. I thought somewhere around 8-9 was more common for little ones and 9-10 for older children. My dc is 4 but his bed time has always been between 8-9. Wakes up around 7-7.30. Our work hours don't allow for much flexibility.

Mine are 9 and 12 and go to bed at 8 and 8.30 respectively on school nights. When they were 5 they went to bed at 7.

Mine are 1&2.
Tea at 5
Bath at 5.30
Bedtime hour 6-7
Stories 7-7.15
Both asleep by 7.20
DD1 usually up between 7-8
DD2 sometimes sleeps in till 9-9.30!
Both have a 90 minute nap from 10-11.30 in the morning

Mine are 5 & 2. We go upstairs between 6.15-6.30 usually. Bath time, then stories, then off to sleep at 7. They're awake at 6am.

Well I was a Gina Ford routine devotee from pretty much birth so bed time was 7pm until DD hit 3 really. Now at nearly 4 it's still 7pm if she doesn't nap (she doesn't like to at preschool) or if she naps at weekends etc it's 7.30pm. Mind you, when we go on holiday anything goes- she's happy to stay up much later (9/10pm) and after a couple of nights up until then will sleep in (usual waking time 6.45-7am).

DSS is 12

School nights: He goes up between 9 and 9.30, lights off by 10
Non school nights: Can be as late as 11.30pm

My DD almost 3 goes to bed at 7 & my DS (6 months) goes at 6 because he believes that 5am is an acceptable time to start the day

I roughly go by the motto 12 hours up, 12 hours asleep, not excluding naps obviously.

7&5. Go to bed at 7:30-8. They can read/draw if they want. They need to be up at 6:30 for school (not UK- school starts 8:15 and the school bus takes a while). I get home from work about 6.15 but lucky that my nanny baths them and does kids tea so I can just do reading/ chatting etc.

I'm a bit of an owl myself. Pre-kids I used to get up before 6 most days and either start work at 7 or run/ go to the gym.

But OP it really doesn't matter what anyone else does. I have friends who sleep between 5-10 hours a night and who go to bed between 9pm-1am and get up between 5am and 10am. They just need different amounts of sleep and have different rhythms. None of them are wrong.

Term time - DD7 usually 7:30/8. But on Tae Kwon Do nights, Its more like 8:30/9. Holidays are before 9 then wake up late.

What matters is when the child has to be up/ naturally gets up and how much sleep they need to be in good form. Unfortunately if that means they need to go to bed before one parent has "had time" with them that's just how it is - to deprive a child of sleep they need to function properly without falling asleep during the day and being miserable to satisfy a parent's wants is incredibly selfish!

My youngest is 6 and goes to bed at 8:30 in the holidays but 7:30 during term time, when he has to be up at 6.

It takes half the holiday for him to slowly adjust to getting up about later.

A regular bedtime of 9pm would only work if he didn't need to be getting up until 8am or later and his body clock had time to adjust to that. A 10pm bedtime would be unfair unless he could sleep til 9am or thereabouts.

Bedtime choices should be about the child's needs, they are not pets or toys for their parents.

We get up at 6:45.

DC5 is in bed and lights out by 7.

DC7 goes to bed by 7:15 but is allowed to read until 7:30-8:00 depending on day of the week / how tired she is.

They have an activity each per week that finishes a bit later (7:30) so go to bed as soon as they get in on that night. Any messing and they miss that activity next week.

We're a little less bothered about a set bedtime in the school holidays but if their behaviour deteriorates, we reintroduce bedtimes.