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To have refused to remove our coats from free chair in the pub

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user1498921160 · 19/08/2017 15:14

We were out earlier in a local pub for lunch. There was five of us sitting around a table, with our jackets, cardigans, elderly person's walking stick etc on the sixth chair.

A family of four came in and went to a table for four behind us. The daughter, aged about six, put her stuffed toy on one of the chairs and then kicked off that there was no seat for her.

Mother then came over to our table and asked us to move our stuff off the spare seat so her daughter could have it. We pointed out that there was a spare seat at their table and she said 'oh the giraffe is using that chair'. We replied that our coats etc were using our spare chair and she went off in a huff.

WWBU. Obviously, if the seat had genuinely been needed we would have moved all our stuff.

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MummytoCSJH · 19/08/2017 17:09

The giraffe is using the chair? Oh dear.

Sirzy · 19/08/2017 17:11

Could be a way around being given a small table though booking an extra seat for a teddy!

dustarr73 · 19/08/2017 17:13

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SleepingStandingUp · 19/08/2017 17:13

Does that work with imaginary friends? Do they do what you want or does the child just look at you like your crazy cost imaginary friend has already hopped off or has tree to bite you or has accidentally been pushed off by your badly placed hands?

FanjoForTheMammaries · 19/08/2017 17:16

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MissHavishamsleftdaffodil · 19/08/2017 17:17

At six, an NT child should be able to handle that their toy needs to go under their chair or beside them, not need 'teddy's lonely, can't he have a cuddle on your lap...' Willing to bet the child doesn't carry on like that at school and isn't allowed to. Can you imagine the entire of yr 2 in assembly freaking out about where their stuffed toy gets the best view?

Also have family experience of a non NT child, who can get stuck in situations like this. If necessary we might have phoned ahead to book an extra chair, (sometimes more space is needed) or asked when arriving, but would never demand someone else inconveniences themselves and moves their stuff so a fricking toy can be given a fricking chair.

EmeraldIsle100 · 19/08/2017 17:21

God help society. A chair for a 6 year old's giraffe. What will they do when she asks for a real one? Those parents are going to have a shit life.

woodhill · 19/08/2017 17:23

I suppose a compromise would have been for the giraffe to sit on the pike of coats at your table but honestly op yanbu, silly people

Viviennemary · 19/08/2017 17:25

Good point that Giraffes can't sit. So standing room only. Send it to prop up the bar.

EmeraldIsle100 · 19/08/2017 17:34

Just read the whole thread, best laugh in ages!!

WorraLiberty · 19/08/2017 17:35

I bet if the kid asked her Mum to fork out money for an airline seat when they go on holiday, she'd soon tell that giraffe to fuck off Grin

PollyBanana · 19/08/2017 17:36

I've just mis-read this title in Trending as To have refused to remove our GOATS which actually makes more sense as then it's obviously a chair for animals

TheNaze73 · 19/08/2017 17:38

YANBU. Totally in the right.

Jg1 · 19/08/2017 17:44

*WorraLiberty

I bet if the kid asked her Mum to fork out money for an airline seat when they go on holiday, she'd soon tell that giraffe to fuck off grin*

Hahahahahahaha Grin

Nomoreboomandbust · 19/08/2017 18:01

If you have ever watched the AO on netflicks you would never ever use the name victor for a child's friend imaginary or otherwise Grin

Nomoreboomandbust · 19/08/2017 18:02

Oh bloody hell not the AO but The Returned!

Box set mix up

IHaveBrilloHair · 19/08/2017 18:05

Hahaha, this is hilarious.
My Dd took monkey everywhere, many a time I had to put monkey in a high chair and 'feed' him.
He never ever took up a seat/high chair that someone else might need, DD was told that in those circumstances monkey needed to sit on her knee. (I even made him cry because he wanted her)
We still have him, DD is 15 and monkey doesn't like to come out with us much now.
honestly I once had to buy a baby raincoat on a shopping trip because monkey was getting wet and DD was really upset
The insane things I've done for Dd's special cuddly.

BoneyBackJefferson · 19/08/2017 18:05

YW both BU.

The OP for putting stuff on the chair in the first place

And strangely the parents for allowing the child to do the same thing.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 19/08/2017 18:06

YANBU I wouldn't have given her the chair even though I'm an easy person.

AvaCrowder2 · 19/08/2017 18:07

That would have brilliant if you had said to the mum, 'but giraffes can't sit.'

MyOtherProfile · 19/08/2017 18:07

It wasn't just the OP tho. It was her entire party, coats for everyone and crutches for an elderly person.

yorkshireyummymummy · 19/08/2017 18:11

I'm 40 something. I'm just imagining what my mum would have said if I had expected her to get a chair that was being used by a group of adults at the next table so I could put my teddy on its own chair!!! Ha hahahahahahaha! It would have taken me 24 hrs to recover from the withering look!!

FrancisCrawford · 19/08/2017 18:12

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coraliss · 19/08/2017 18:14

Lack of parenting skills from said mother I think. Child wants seat for soft toy which is beyond ridiculous, parent would rather walk up to a bunch of strangers and inconvenience them rather than say no to child ( again but extremely ridiculous) This behaviour displayed by the mother breeds spoilt child behaviour. I would have said the same. How embarrassing for her 🙄

featherup · 19/08/2017 18:15

YWNBU obviously.

As I was reading your post I anticipated your question being something along the lines of 'the request made me laugh so much that spat my soup my soup out, I then could not stop laughing for the rest of the meal. Was I unreasonable to laugh so much'.

They should really consider buying a folding chair for the giraffe.