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Date with guy off Internet tonight ..am I right to be cautious?

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Kellyo31 · 19/08/2017 13:45

Date with a guy from online dating tonight.
Originally the plan was to come over to my town (20 min from him) and go to beach /couple of drinks,now he is saying after the beach go to his town for drinks.
I said why? It's going to be a hassle for nothing.
He is insisting ..
I can't help but think the thinks if he gets me drunk near to him il go back to his place with him.
What do you reckon?
I want to stay in familiar surroundings first date

OP posts:
bigfatdoughnut · 19/08/2017 15:45

I wouldn't even bother going after the "packet" comment. He's after sex stands out like a sore thumb

Ropsleybunny · 19/08/2017 15:56

Definitely don't go on this date. Listen to your instincts.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 19/08/2017 16:00

Avoid. Sounds dodgy and as for "he"s insisting' er no!

helpme85 · 19/08/2017 16:01

I would NOT go OP!!! He's out for one thing only and that's sex. Stay away.

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Kellyo31 · 19/08/2017 16:02

Do you think he just wants sex?

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 19/08/2017 16:08

Sorry OP but yes, I think he does. Why would her even mention it. Never a truer word and all that.

Namechangetempissue · 19/08/2017 16:16

Poor bloke getting absolutely destroyed for his packet comment which is about cards not sex 😂
Tell him you don't want to get the train back alone/cab costs. If he still insists you go to his town bin him off.

Buttercunt · 19/08/2017 16:23

Can we see the bit of the conversation where he's asking you to go to his town? A lit depends on tone.

Buttercunt · 19/08/2017 16:23

*lot

SleightOfHand · 19/08/2017 16:28

you have set the bar really low, so low, that not even a slug could get under it. Grin

I dunno but it seems these days i came from a different era Me too!

littlemisssweetness · 19/08/2017 16:35

I'm confused as to how the means he's talking about sex??

HungerOfThePine · 19/08/2017 16:43

If he is pushy I wouldn't go, plenty more dateable men out there.

I have low tolerance though.

foxyloxy78 · 19/08/2017 16:45

Yes he us after one thing. Be extremely careful please. Being pushy is not a good sign.

milliemolliemou · 19/08/2017 16:51

It's a first date, for heaven's sake. Don't go to his home town. Just have a drink/meal in your home town and don't go anywhere and keep friends on speed dial. You don't know him or what he's like.

Mittens1969 · 19/08/2017 16:53

I also thought the OP's date was talking about condoms, but actually the pack of cards joke is quite funny, so he might be very nice. But he's someone you don't know so you should always make sure you're in a public place initially, with a friend who knows where you are.

Sarikiz · 19/08/2017 17:04

Why did you even consider going to his town? After meeting him you may have disliked him so why the big plans? A first date is surely just to meet to see if you "click"
However I would now not go at all he sounds like a creep

user1490465531 · 19/08/2017 17:14

I always make first dates coffee dates only and normally only daytime.
Short and sweet so that if you don't get on you can exit quickly or extend to dinner drinks etc if you do.
Also a coffee date makes it clear it just a meet to see if you get on-nothing more as some men really expect a full on date can lead to more as crazy as that sounds I've had the shall we go back to yours after a first date one evening having drinks-its like night time gives them the exscuse to ask things like this.

NoWittyNamesAvailable · 19/08/2017 17:44

I went on a date with a guy i met online, we get married in 2 months.

Its always nerve wracking going on a first date, stay where you feel comfortable. Do not go to his town if you don't want to and always have a way to leave if you need too.

I would definitely still go, not everyone is just after sex. If you don't get a good feeling about him within the first hour make your excuses and leave.

TSSDNCOP · 19/08/2017 17:45

Do you think he just wants sex?

It sounds more like he'd like a round of Gin Rummy tbh Grin

LondonMrsA · 19/08/2017 17:48

Don't go. He sounds like a creep.

NC4now · 19/08/2017 17:55

When you say he's insistent, what has he actually said?
Have you actually said 'I'd prefer to stick with somewhere I know for a first date.'? If you've made it clear and he's still insisting, call it off, but if he's just expressed a preference, give him chance to meet you.
Don't leave your area though, if that's what makes you feel safe.

DioneTheDiabolist · 19/08/2017 18:04

If you need to join a forum to ask a bunch of Internet strangers whether you should go on a date, and can't be arsed to read his messages properly, maybe you shouldn't be dating yet.

lionsleepstonight · 19/08/2017 18:36

I wouldn't go for two reasons, the 'joke' about the packet and then wanting you to go to him. He's a stranger! No beach walk or leaving your drink unattended while you go for a wee either!

Elendon · 19/08/2017 18:55

No, no he doesn't want sex. He wants to play a game of poker.

Geddit?

And when he's finished I bet he says bingo.

And you will be soul mates forever, looking at the stars in remembrance of that first night on the beach. Starry sky, half moon, no chill, balmy evening.

Anyone care to add the reality?

Queenofthedrivensnow · 19/08/2017 19:16

Are u ok op?

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