To not mind buying this dress at the sale price?!

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I am getting married next year and I'm on the hunt for my wedding dress.

To cut a long story short, I went solo to try some dresses on today and tried on a dress that is simply stunning. More than that, it fits me like a glove and It's on sale.

Ordering the dress totally new would cost £1600. The one I tried on today would cost £699.

My parents are paying for a large proportion of the wedding, as a gift. I haven't asked them to, but it is welcome. My sister had quite a lavish and expensive affair on them so they are quick to keep reminding me that I don't have to scrimp and save, they are happy to pay. Which is wonderful.

I spoke to my mum about the dress I tried on today and showed her a picture. She agreed it was stunning and we are going back so she can see it on. I mentioned to my mum that the lady in the shop told me that she would keep the dress behind for me so that it didn't sell before I got to show her. All good stuff.

My AIBU is when I told my mum I loved the dress and the price tag she said that she wants me to have a totally new dress, not a sample. To me, it doesn't matter. The sample is beautiful, not damaged and would not really need to be altered in anyway. It may benefit from a dry clean but that's it.

I really don't want to butt heads with her over it, especially when she's being so generous, but to me it seems crazy to pay double for what is essentially the same dress. I'm half tempted to buy the dress myself at the reduced price but I don't want to hurt her feelings.

AIBU??

I had a sample dress and it was divine 🤗 why not tell your mum it's the new one she spend the £700 saved on the honeymoon 😉

Totally gorgeous. Your mother is being very silly.

That dress is beautiful!

Tell her you'll order it brand new, buy the sample & use the left over ££ elsewhere in the wedding.

Will totally suggest the honeymoon!

I think she is finding it difficult because everything I want is that bit cheaper. But not because I'm cheap, it's just what I prefer.

I've found a venue that suits me down to the ground that does an all inclusive package for 4500. My sister's venue alone was more than that.

My sister's wedding dress cost about 3k all in...I want a £700 one.

I'm not doing it on purpose. I'm doing what you should do and picking things I love and I think she thinks I'm holding back. It's just not true. Perhaps I should demand some reaaaaally expensive shoes...

We were only engaged 3 months, and I had literally 2 months from the da I went dress shopping until the wedding day itself. So no time to order a dress. I had very specific requirements (I wanted a pure white ballgown with a long train, zip up back, sparkly without the 'silver colour clear as all my jewellery was yellow gold) and I knew I would be 4 and a half months pregnant on my wedding day.
I tried on 2 dresses. The 1st was Ivory, so was no good. The 2nd was the only white ballgown they had in. Funny thing is I saw the very dress on the website and didn't like it. But as soon as I put it on, I fell in love. And when they had the same veil I loved in white as well as Ivory, I knew it was the one.
No one would ever have known it was a sample dress. (The ladies at the boutique said it was hardly tried on anyway, so was practically new).
Go for it.

BEAUTIFUL dress, I LOVE it !

Omg it's gorgeous...tell the lafy before hand at the shop that charge your mum the full price and keep the rest in credit for veil ect.

I'm with Dandelion the people who sew samples are the most skilled because the samples are there to sell the clothes to the trade.

so very beautiful. She is being ridiculous. Buy the dress and let her reimburse you if you like. It is just silly to pay full price when the sample fits you and is perfect.

Good luck!

That's a beautiful dress!!

I'm hoping to get married myself sooner rather than later and have found a dress I adore for 170 US dollars. I am shouting from the rooftops how inexpensive it is (although I am taking my daughter and mother in law to be dress shopping in case this one looks awful!) do what you love, not what is expected, I say!

I never thought of my dress as being a sample but I guess it was. I tried it on...was told that it was the last one and was in the sale.... paid £180 for it (1991). It was perfect.

My did got married last week and I think I can sympathies with your mum a little.

If my DD had phoned up and said what you have said OP, I would react in exactly the same way. I'd think "no, my DD is having a perfect, new dress for her wedding day"

However before everyone jumps on me I'm sure once I'd inspected every inch seen the dress on you, I would be OK with the sample dress- as long as there were no blemishes/marks/ etc on it.

By the way, the dress is absolutely beautiful!

*DD got married

I'm also a sample dress buyer, £1600 reduced to £800. I was over the moon with it, and felt less guilty about the price tag for one wear! :-D

That dress is stunning OP! You should def go for that. If your Mum is insistent at wanting to spend that amount of money then perhaps the money saved could be put towards paying for something for the wedding?

What a beautiful dress! (I think your mum wants you to have a "perfect" dress and thinks only a made to order one will be "perfect", so her intentions are lovely, but in reality she is being daft.)

Develop incredibly expensive taste in champagne!

Or if you like jewellery get her to buy you £1k's worth of that instead at least that way you have something that keeps value.

That dress is stunning, stand your ground. If your mum wants to spend money on you, I think a piece of jewellery for you to wear on the day would be lovely - it could also be something to pass down the generations as a wedding heirloom.

OP, I wished I had bought my sample wedding dress. I agree with the poster who said the sample is often better. I ordered a new one (an Amanda Wakeley dress) and when it arrived it wasn't nearly as perfect on me as the sample which I had based the original choice on. It took weeks of adjustments and anxiety to get the new dress to feel as good as the sample (which as you say, only needed a quality dry clean). To this day I wish I had bought the sample dress.

So I would say to you (no doubt lovely and generous mum): be careful what you wish for! She could end up buying a whole lot more stress if the sample is the one you really want!

Fuck me. That dress is amazing. A-MAZE-ING. I never comment on these threads. But buy the dress. Buy it now.

That's a beautiful dress, hope when your mum sees how perfect the sample is she'll be happier with it not being a newly made one.

Another sample buyer here. £400 instead of £1000... They cleaned It and it was perfect.
It was beautiful and I only wore it once so it cost £1.50 per minute that it was on which is crazy

I agree that no two dresses are exactly the same. I would be really worried that the new one wouldn't fit quite as well, or be as well mad as the sample.

Your mum is bonkers. But it is also her money.
Maybe try and get her to get something for the house or ... ask her to give you the money and you will buy it. Put the money aside and put it to your future
But if my daughter was getting married, if I was able to do it etc etc I may be the same. A daft but lovely mother

Mine was a sample as well - we only had six weeks from deciding to get married until the actual date , so nothing new was going to be ready in time . It was immaculate , but the wedding shop sorted out a few tiny alterations and cleaned it all for free and no one knew any better . And instead of being the best part of 2k , it was £600 . What's not to love ?