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that a friend who professes to have life 'sussed' annoys the shit out of me?

114 replies

Nemo1986 · 15/08/2017 11:00

Her facebook looks like this:

'The meaning of life is to find your gift, the purpose of life is to give it away'

'You are so much more valuable and wonderful than you could ever imagine! Love yourself x'

'I have thrown away my television because I don't need it in my life anymore'

And close-up photographs of dandelions, etc.

We are old friends of 10+ years but this started about 6 months ago when she moved out of the city to the countryside, quit her job and started retraining as a holistic therapist. Last time we met up was constantly talking about how the mind 'really' works and what the body 'really' needs and what people 'really' want in their lives and what is 'really' going on in the world and while I am very happy that SHE has done some soul-searching and found what works for her, the smugness is driving me up. the. bloody. wall!!!

I know I just sound like a case of sour grapes, but truly it's not! I am very happy with my own circumstances and life choices but she is STILL driving me NUTS!! How can I stop myself from getting riled?!

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AIBU?!

OP posts:
ShuttyTown · 15/08/2017 11:02

Yanbu. Unfollow her so you don't see these ridiculous posts

Ofthread · 15/08/2017 11:02

Yanbu, unfollow her on Facebook.

SwedishEdith · 15/08/2017 11:03

Hide her.

Nikephorus · 15/08/2017 11:03

I'd have commented on her tv post to ask why she hadn't given it to some in need and thus helped both another soul AND the environment Grin

dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2017 11:04

I cannot BEAR this sort of thing and have muted people on Facebook for this. Smug, trite, thoughtless guff.

Gorgosparta · 15/08/2017 11:05

Yanbu. Sounds like my mil. Me and dh roll our eyes when she pops up on facebook, then we forget it.

AtrociousCircumstance · 15/08/2017 11:06

Just post 'hope you're ok Hun x' and 'hang in there' on every post Grin

TheClaws · 15/08/2017 11:06

If she was truly an "old friend" you'd be pleased she's happy with her life. If she's not really a friend, you can just unfollow her with little trouble, yes?

crazycatguy · 15/08/2017 11:07

If she has to put so much effort into convincing her friends that she has life sussed, she clearly hasn't got it sussed at all.

Life isn't all dandelions and no telly.

dollydaydream114 · 15/08/2017 11:09

Life isn't all dandelions and no telly.

This is a mantra I shall now live by.

FakePlasticTeaLeaves · 15/08/2017 11:12

Urgh, I truly hate this shit. It's up there with people trying to sell me fruit based capsules to plough into my body on a daily basis, for no reason.

Unfollow is the true path to freedom.

Northernpowerhouse · 15/08/2017 11:13

Life isn't all dandelions and no telly

Love it!!!

KimmySchmidt1 · 15/08/2017 11:15

Sounds like she is on the brink of a nervous break down (or did in fact have one, hid it from everyone, and all this is an attempt to reduce anxiety and get back on an even keel).

Don't believe the hype and treat it all as the behaviour of someone who is having profound difficulties with life. Try to be sympathetic, although I know the phoney half witted philosophy is thick and annoying.

eatabagofdicks · 15/08/2017 11:23

Atrocious Grin

Definitely respond like that.

I have a Facebook friend who does this. Always posting long status updates about the meaning of life and how to live your life, how to treat other people, how to find peace, not being negative blah blah blah. It comes across as one obnoxious lecture. I hid her a long time ago!!

eatabagofdicks · 15/08/2017 11:24

*Half witted philosophy
*
This!! ^

intergalacticbrexitdisco · 15/08/2017 11:25

It's either a nervous breakdown or MLM...

TipTopTipTopClop · 15/08/2017 11:37

Good grief. She's really lost the plot.

Minkyfluffster · 15/08/2017 11:37

Someone I met recently was like this on her FB, soooo happy that she had followed her dreams and moved to the City, all the lovely inspirational quotes, turns out she is actually a prostitute! having a great time on her clients drugs and booze,

Loopytiles · 15/08/2017 11:38

Who's funding her?

ppeatfruit · 15/08/2017 11:39

Kimmy Too right I have an ex dil who ALWAYS posts stuff like that, and she is an effing nightmare in real life!!!!!!

Jackiebrambles · 15/08/2017 11:41

Yes simply unfollow. It's fantastically freeing when you do that.

However don't be surprised if she then has a baby/gets married/breaks a limb and you have no idea because you have unfollowed. That can get awkward.

Littlecaf · 15/08/2017 11:43

Ignore her. Hide her etc.

My SIL has started to do this. There house is stuffed full of phrases and memes. She recently did a counselling course and is generally sensible and level headed but o think that social media magnifies this aspect of her personality.

#familytime #lifeisamiracle

ibbleobbleblackbubble · 15/08/2017 11:44

She sounds as dumb as a rock

ppeatfruit · 15/08/2017 11:49

I don't go on FB much any more, esp. since there is a new 'message service" that has to be signed in for. I just used to message people but because I value my on line security I can't be bothered so I just use email now.

PlinkyTheFairyWitch · 15/08/2017 11:49

Oh I hear you. I did my (serious profession-oriented) MA with someone who has now turned into some sort of womb guru and keeps posting stuff about her workshops. They seem to be about how the moon gives women ineffable power and bollocks like that. Does my head in.

Thankfully there's a nice handy mute button on FB Wink