Busy Cafe/Kids/Elderly

[RatsInTheWalls]

You walk into a busy cafe. You leave your 6yo to choose a table and go and order. You haven't noticed that there's a group of 5 ppl also organising themselves i.e. ordering/some sitting/with luggage/3 of the 5 are elderly.

Tables sit 4 or 2 and fixed. The groupof 5 were expecting to take up a 2 and 4 next to each other when you realise that amongst the busyness (if that's a word!) your child has chosen to sit at the table for 2 that the group wanted to use. 2 of the elderly people have already sat down at the table for 4.

There are lots of other tables available.

Do you

A Ignore the group and let them sit separately or stand

B Ask your child if it's ok to move because some of the group can't sit

C Tell your child that you're moving to another table because there are lots available

AIBU to think that C is the only acceptable and logical response given how many other tables there are?

I meant I wanted ask if we could have the table
I just think it's a shame that the lady initially did her best to ignore us

Talk about being entitled. Just because you're a larger group than there are tables for, doesn't mean you're entitled to have an adjoining one. What if they'd been in the middle of eating? The other lady may not have even noticed what you were trying to do! To say she was (deliberately) ignoring you doesn't paint you in a very good light, and you have no proof that that's the case.

I've been in groups that have had to split due to table layouts and we just sucked it up. It never occurred to us to expect/ask/psychically transmit to other people to give up their seats or table.

I'm a teacher and from what I observed and I was unaware of any additional needs but of course I may be mistaken.

My son has autism but you would never know this from looking at him - same goes for many of the children with autism that I know. Its often invisible.

I'm pretty sure I conceded that SEN is not always visible but that keeps getting cut out and I can't be bothered to scroll back and check tbh!

To say she was (deliberately) ignoring you doesn't paint you in a very good light, and you have no proof that that's the case.

On anonymous forum?
Oh NO!!!!!

Thank you all for input but emmy is boring me now so bye!

You're bloody daft, OP, to be chuntering on about this. You got what you wanted, which you were in no way particularly entitled to but you're really hung up on the fact that the mother didn't immediately do you a favour which you didn't even ask for.

Why is @emmyrose being singled out? It's all much ado about nothing as good old Will says! Your party needed seats, you got seats!

Why can't perfectly capable adults just open their mouth and ask? "Excuse me, our group is quite large and needs an extra table and we'd love to sit together. Is there any chance you could move to another table, please?" Most people would say sure and move. But when someone is hovering, huffing and puffing and expecting you to jump to attention and vacate their exalted presence, then many people will dig their heels in and wait for some evidence of manners.