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BF always expects...

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funkymonkey1234 · 13/08/2017 22:46

Whenever I spend the night with my BF he expects something! Even if I'm not really in the mood he insists on "just a handjob" is this normal??

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frieda909 · 14/08/2017 09:19

My ex was like this. He 'needed' sex every night and would be incredibly grumpy until he got it. A lot of the time I would just give in the shut him up, and then he'd complain about me just 'lying there' and not being into it. He would tell me that I should watch porn so that I could learn to 'act' like those girls and he once even shouted in my fact during sex 'ugh, can you just not be you?'

One of the most humiliating experiences of my life was when I'd stood my ground and said no, I really wasn't in the mood that night. So he sent me out of the room so that he could watch porn and sort himself out. It was late at night and I had work the next day and I just had to lie there on the sofa, quietly sobbing to myself and wondering if he was finished yet. After what felt like ages I thought he must be done so I tried to creep back into the bedroom, only to get yelled at because I'd interrupted and now he'd have to start all over again.

To add insult to injury, he was using my laptop!

I lived like that for nearly ten years and it almost destroyed me. Don't let that be you, OP.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 14/08/2017 09:25

Cailleach666 I know it's not important but she seems to believe everything he tells her, and you're right it is beyond gross.

Albadross · 14/08/2017 09:40

I agree with op but I'm also confused that people are saying most couples have sex 3 or 4 times a week but him wanting this isn't ok - I was told when I posted similar that I needed to fix my sex drive Confused

Moanyoldcow · 14/08/2017 09:47

Albadross - you can WANT as much or little sex as you like. It's about being coercing your partner into it more often.

I have a much higher sex drive than my DH. It's just the way it is. I don't hassas him into going down on me if he's not in the mood.

If it became unacceptable to me then I'd have to reconsider to relationship - not tell him to 'step up'!

heliumrising · 14/08/2017 09:56

OP you don't have a mutual sex life with BF, he has a sex life that sometimes includes you. I hope you tell him to wank off into the distance can find a more mature partner.

Willow2017 · 14/08/2017 09:56

its normal
Is it hell. OP says she is too tired for sex, not in the mood but bf says that's ok you can force yourself to just satisfy me instead and keeps on at her until she does every single time is not normal

SkySmiler · 14/08/2017 09:59

Disgusting, vile man, pressuring you - sex pest.

DixieFlatline · 14/08/2017 10:20

This is only normal in the view of certain types of male that I strive to avoid in all areas of my life, and the poor women who feel the need to buy into their shit.

Ginslinger · 14/08/2017 10:25

walk away now. You are worth much more than this

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